jesienna31 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 How many times did you guys tried to quit the affair but went back...? For me it was six times. The first was the easiest and the last the hardest. Maybe because all of the reasons for my break up failed before and each time and I didn't feel they were strong argument again for the next time round. I was too weak,I just loved him too badly. Such an emotional rollercoster, to break it up and keep going back. Funny enough the excitement and passion of seeing him again after we met for the first time after the break up quickly disappeared shortly after sex. 10mins later I usually regreted it all... In NC for now. Hope I will last. I have to this time. His wife is pregnant.
bentleychic Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 We have never quit. I'm sincerely hoping if we ever do get to that point, we won't go back. No guarantees in life, though, right?
Author jesienna31 Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 We have never quit. I'm sincerely hoping if we ever do get to that point, we won't go back. No guarantees in life, though, right? That is what I thought when we broke up for the first time. That there won't be any going back. Now it has been almost two years and it has been a yo-yo relationship. Each time I quit I thought to myself that if I was more relaxed and get rid of all my emotional expectations I would be so much more happier. So when we got back I was relaxed for few weeks and then the emotional rollercoster started all over again. Broken promises, cancelled days out, lack of communication when you truly need it.... and it all triggered disappointments, blames, expectations and another round of break up.
bentleychic Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 (edited) I understand. I love him so I know it would be hard, but after a year and a half, if I ever need to get out, I really hope I can make a clean break of it. Edited February 14, 2014 by bentleychic
herself Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 His wife pregnant, Im sure that hurts alot, I know it hurt me really bad and he hid it for 4 montjs from me, but thats besides the point. You need a firm break to heal. The NC is gonna help. Ever consider moving? Seriously, a big hug to you, 6 years is long...I know your hurting but HE will not make this the end. ...you have to. Im sorry, hope you can. I am at day 40 Nc after 13 years. Feeling lighter even though Im hurting, I feel some healing taking place., not gonna call or write & blocked him from email & phone. You can do it.
blue963 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 wow 13 years....I cant imagine Im at 5 1/2 years
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