peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 "I want to date hot girls" Wow. Maybe, you aren't that "hot". This isn't necessarily the case, I have seen many beautiful women with below average guys. The main thing is to have a good personality and be fun to hang around with.
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 See. A lot of men I know don't find Scarlet to be beautiful. Her extreme beauty is too much for some men ..she looks weird or alien like to them.. they are more into more normal looking 8's who have those cute small noses, a pretty face and a petite figure. .. See what I mean? You're ruling plenty of hot girls out because they are not Scarlet or Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry. You are going for extreme looks: huge lips, perfect teeth, tiny noses as well as a killer knockout hour glass figure that's still slender (slim with killer curves is RARE). Why not try to find good sexual chemistry with a nice fun, educate girl who has good values and has a cute face with a slender figure? Why do you need more????? well good looks = good sexual chemistry. well like today, i would have most definitely gone out with the girl who asked me today, but i can't even say she was cute. she seemed kinda desperate and it was a huge turnoff for me. i guess what it comes down to is i like a challenge, i like my girls to be hard to get, most desirable. not something that is too available. like my last relationship, so many dudes chased after my gf, but in the end she chose me out of everybody after only 2 dates.
MrRightNow Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Looks are subjective though. My boyfriend sees me as the most beautiful woman in the world. He really does. He tells me often. The guy before him who was a fwb but fell crazy in love with me; he thought I was the mlst beautiful woman in the world to him. I also dated a 9 once. He though I was really hot and beautiful. I always have male friends who think I'm very good looking and in turn, developed huge crushes on me. Some me think I'm prettier than my model friend. She is thinner than me with a smaller waist plus she has a tiny and straight nose.. where as my nose isn't small or straight. That DOESNT mean I AM actually good looking. Looks are SUBJECTIVE. I have merely a small amount of people who think I'm beautiful. Please don't take much stock in what people say when it comes to your looks. Don't take a few people calling you hot as some sort of sign that you should aim for strictly 10s. And remember, average cute girls like me find guys who think we are 8s or 9s out of ten. Looks are definitely subjective. You may have hot chemistry with a cute 6 or 7 and soon see her as totally gorgeous. Guys have done this to me!!! They get to know me and I'm no longer a 6 to them. Yes, looks are entirely subjective. That's true for guys too. Some women think I'm hot, others don't even notice my existence. Eventually, OP should be able to find a hot girl that likes him, assuming he puts in the effort.
peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well good looks = good sexual chemistry. well like today, i would have most definitely gone out with the girl who asked me today, but i can't even say she was cute. she seemed kinda desperate and it was a huge turnoff for me. i guess what it comes down to is i like a challenge, i like my girls to be hard to get, most desirable. not something that is too available. like my last relationship, so many dudes chased after my gf, but in the end she chose me out of everybody after only 2 dates. Is this a joke man.
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well good looks = good sexual chemistry. well like today, i would have most definitely gone out with the girl who asked me today, but i can't even say she was cute. she seemed kinda desperate and it was a huge turnoff for me. i guess what it comes down to is i like a challenge, i like my girls to be hard to get, most desirable. not something that is too available. like my last relationship, so many dudes chased after my gf, but in the end she chose me out of everybody after only 2 dates. Well plenty of men have had very strong sexual chemistry towards me. Yet I'm far from a 10. I have felt hot chemistry for cute men who were overweight with bad skin. The desire to have sex with someone badly, quiet surprisingly, doesn't stem from how good looking one is. A person merely has to be pleasant to look at for you to potentially have hot sexual chemistry with them.
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Is this a joke man. no, but your shirt is.
MrRightNow Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well good looks = good sexual chemistry. well like today, i would have most definitely gone out with the girl who asked me today, but i can't even say she was cute. she seemed kinda desperate and it was a huge turnoff for me. i guess what it comes down to is i like a challenge, i like my girls to be hard to get, most desirable. not something that is too available. like my last relationship, so many dudes chased after my gf, but in the end she chose me out of everybody after only 2 dates. Sounds like you're looking for a trophy more than anything else.
peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Hey am I good looking people? LOL I had to put my face pic to prove how OP is being right now. I know I'm not that attractive; but I have no problem getting "10" girls because I just approach them, have a good personality, and just don't think that I am above everyone else. 1
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Well plenty of men have had very strong sexual chemistry towards me. Yet I'm far from a 10. I have felt hot chemistry for cute men who were overweight with bad skin. The desire to have sex with someone badly, quiet surprisingly, doesn't stem from how good looking one is. A person merely has to be pleasant to look at for you to potentially have hot sexual chemistry with them. well some guys are desperate to have sex with any girl, not saying you're bad looking. just saying guys are like that, they'll get in bed with anybody willing.
peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well some guys are desperate to have sex with any girl, not saying you're bad looking. just saying guys are like that, they'll get in bed with anybody willing. Yes, some men do that, but I don't really care what other people do with their lives and neither should you. Okay the first thing you need to do is approach these 10/10 women and just try to not appear as such a jerk, then take it from there.
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well some guys are desperate to have sex with any girl, not saying you're bad looking. just saying guys are like that, they'll get in bed with anybody willing. Ummm these guys genuinely thought I was gorgeous looking. I still have men I know who find me very attractive. I am not a 6 out of ten to them. These men thought I was beautiful; they didn't act like I was so they could get some action.
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Sounds like you're looking for a trophy more than anything else. *trophy wife. alright, to tell the truth the women i've dated in the past were import models & video vixens. its all i know. i just can see myself following that up with any ol plain jane. my ego will get hurt. that's my problem.
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Ummm these guys genuinely thought I was gorgeous looking. I still have men I know who find me very attractive. I am not a 6 out of ten to them. These men thought I was beautiful; they didn't act like I was so they could get some action. i believe you. i'm just saying guys will do anything to charm a woman & get it. not saying it happened in your case. just saying in general.
peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Ummm these guys genuinely thought I was gorgeous looking. I still have men I know who find me very attractive. I am not a 6 out of ten to them. These men thought I was beautiful; they didn't act like I was so they could get some action. How tall are you? Just asking.
straightshooter82 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 First, some advice for the OP. You asked if you should hold out for a 10 or give less attractive women a shot. If you're striking out with 10s dating less attractive women is a good idea and will probably give you some confidence while you continue your pursuit of a 10. Who knows, maybe you'll fall for one of the less physically attractive women and forget about the seemingly unattainable 10s. By the way, and you probably already know this, but all 10s eventually become 5s after a few decades. To address the other big topic being discussed, I think looks are somewhat subjective, but only somewhat. There have been studies performed that show on online dating sites, the most attractive women (young, thin, good facial symetry) receive 25 times more messages than women who are obese, older, etc. So looks can be a little subjective but not as much as some people think. When I go out with my friends, we all find the same small percentage of women to be "hot." I really don't think there's that much diversity with respect to what men find to be physically attractive. If looks were extremely subjective and men were attracted to a wide range of women there wouldn't be as many posts like the op's complaining that it's really hard for him to find a single woman who he thinks is physically attractive. 1
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 *trophy wife. alright, to tell the truth the women i've dated in the past were import models & video vixens. its all i know. i just can see myself following that up with any ol plain jane. my ego will get There are many men who find their plain Janes to be beautiful looking. This is because they are in love with their 6/10. My bf isn't desperate yet he honestly thought I was gorgeous from date one. Because looks are subjective. Why not open yourself up to having hot sexual chemistry with plain girl? I had off the charts chemistry with fat men who also had bad skin. I have hot guys to pick from too so I didn't have to force myself to only fancy fat men. I just did.
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 *trophy wife. alright, to tell the truth the women i've dated in the past were import models & video vixens. its all i know. i just can see myself following that up with any ol plain jane. my ego will get There are many men who find their plain Janes to be beautiful looking. This is because they are in love with their 6/10. My bf isn't desperate yet he honestly thought I was gorgeous from date one. Because looks are subjective. Why not open yourself up to having hot sexual chemistry with plain girl? I had off the charts chemistry with fat men who also had bad skin. I have hot guys to pick from too so I didn't have to force myself to only fancy fat men. I just did. "fancy fat men," lol. well i'm not a promiscuous person, i just don't have sex with any girl i date, we have to be in love first, that's another standard i have. i wish i could see ppl for who they are, start using my brain instead of my eyes.
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 How tall are you? Just asking. I'm 5 feet 5. I have Scarlette Johanons body. I'm not a ten out ten like her though but my boyfriend thinks I am. The OP could also find a plain girl like me to be gorgeous if he opened himself up to it. I see girls like me finding guys who think their gorgeous all the time. This guy seems too close minded to consider that he may find a plain girl to be gorgeous if he opens himself up to the possibility.
Barbarossa Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 To address the other big topic being discussed, I think looks are somewhat subjective, but only somewhat. There have been studies performed that show on online dating sites, the most attractive women (young, thin, good facial symetry) receive 25 times more messages than women who are obese, older, etc. So looks can be a little subjective but not as much as some people think. I completely agree most of my friends and I think the same women are attractive. Every now and then I will find someone attractive that my buddies think is average but this is rare.
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 "fancy fat men," lol. well i'm not a promiscuous person, i just don't have sex with any girl i date, we have to be in love first, that's another standard i have. i wish i could see ppl for who they are, start using my brain instead of my eyes. Haha shut up:p But yes. I had very strong chemistry with a few fat men. And I'm not fat myself. .. I have a great figure. It's really good how you only have sex when you are in love. That's the ideal way to be in my opinion. ... why don't you simply open yourself up to finding plain girls attractive? With true love, there are girls you will meet in life who will knock your socks off. There are women who you would fall head over heels for. They wouldn't have to be a 10 for you to have this immediate affect on you. My bf was smitten with me from the moment he met me.... and I'm not very good looking.
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I completely agree most of my friends and I think the same women are attractive. Every now and then I will find someone attractive that my buddies think is average but this is rare. Looks are subjective. I'm 27 and thin. Great teeth, good skin and very full lips. Large eyes. Yet I am probably a plain Jane to most men. The men who have found me to be gorgeous are probably the small minority. The lesson here is: looks are subjective. I'm probably plain to most yet I have had a few men think I was very attractive. The OP could stand to benefit from opening himself up to average chicks like me. He may find a few normal cute girls to be gorgeous to him. He has this preconceived notion of perfect 10s. Plenty of men see their plain wives to be a 10 out of 10. It's about finding true love. True love is hard to find! It is near impossible to find true love with a 10. The solution? Realise looks are subjective and they can learn to think their 7 or 8s are a 10, over time.
Author Corduroy Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Haha shut up:p But yes. I had very strong chemistry with a few fat men. And I'm not fat myself. .. I have a great figure. It's really good how you only have sex when you are in love. That's the ideal way to be in my opinion. ... why don't you simply open yourself up to finding plain girls attractive? With true love, there are girls you will meet in life who will knock your socks off. There are women who you would fall head over heels for. They wouldn't have to be a 10 for you to have this immediate affect on you. My bf was smitten with me from the moment he met me.... and I'm not very good looking. lol. fancy fat men, it just sounds funny, not laughing at your taste. i'm open to plain girls, but if they're chasing me desperately like that, i'm not to fond of them. i wish i could go under that spell like in Shallow Hal. lol. you shouldn't be so hard on yourself, btw.
WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 That just seems so wrong. why? No point in trying to take a 10 seriously and get hurt
peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I'm 5 feet 5. I have Scarlette Johanons body. I'm not a ten out ten like her though but my boyfriend thinks I am. The OP could also find a plain girl like me to be gorgeous if he opened himself up to it. I see girls like me finding guys who think their gorgeous all the time. This guy seems too close minded to consider that he may find a plain girl to be gorgeous if he opens himself up to the possibility. You are very attractive, everyone has different preferences though.
Leigh 87 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 lol. fancy fat men, it just sounds funny, not laughing at your taste. i'm open to plain girls, but if they're chasing me desperately like that, i'm not to fond of them. i wish i could go under that spell like in Shallow Hal. lol. you shouldn't be so hard on yourself, btw. At the end of the day, you want to fall totally head over heels, crazy in love with a with woman, right? Well, some people don't believe that sort of love is valid or exist, but that is another story:p The good news for you is: it is possible for you to fall totally, hopelessly in love with a plain girl. OR perhaps you will even find a girl who you find to be quiet attractive? Your problem is, you're coming across women who chase you. I think that if you met a nice 7 (I am a 6 or a 7 by the way), and you thought she was cute or pretty, you could actually fall crazy in love with her IF she steps back and lets you chase. Why not give that a go? Trying to find confident women who don't need to chase men, yet who are not perfect 10's? I certainly don't chase men. Nor do my friends. It is not all that common? I am sure you will find some pretty girls who will let you do the chasing?
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