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hi everyone. i've recently come out of a bad breakup from my ex. since then there has been a few girls who have wanted to date me. the problem is that i'm not physically attracted to them. my ex was a 10, and i can't see myself "downgrading" on looks. i'm not going to lie i want to date hot girls, but they're hard to get, because they know they can have anybody. it always seems all the unattractive girls want to chase me, and i play hard to get... its like a taste of my own medicine.

 

should i go for what i want? or should i give the girls i don't want a try?

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should i go for what i want? or should i give the girls i don't want a try?

 

You should be reasonable. If you're not getting HOT girls, then you may want to consider other HOT qualities that attractive girls have and go from there.

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You should be reasonable. If you're not getting HOT girls, then you may want to consider other HOT qualities that attractive girls have and go from there.

 

the thing is i have standards, i have to connect on a mental, physical, and emotional level with my partner. & i prefer them to be the same race as me, even though that shouldn't matter.

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"I want to date hot girls"

 

Wow.

 

Maybe, you aren't that "hot".

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"I want to date hot girls"

 

Wow.

 

Maybe, you aren't that "hot".

 

lol. i don't want to toot my own horn, but "beep, beep!" yes, i'm told i'm "hot." a girl at work asked me, "do you have a valentine? no? so what are you doing later?" i was downplaying her offer and i could tell she was hurt. but i have a problem with being shallow.

 

 

i feel ppl are going to say "wow, that's your rebound?" or "you can do so much better."

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lol. i don't want to toot my own horn, but "beep, beep!" yes, i'm told i'm "hot." a girl at work asked me, "do you have a valentine? no? so what are you doing later?" i was downplaying her offer and i could tell she was hurt. but i have a problem with being shallow.

 

 

i feel ppl are going to say "wow, that's your rebound?" or "you can do so much better."

 

Prove it.

 

 

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I can relate to your situation haha. My last girlfriend was also really hot. But if you like someone, you shouldn't care if other people think you "downgraded." Don't let your ego keep you from being happy.

 

That said, hot girls have lots of options, so you have to set yourself apart from other guys. Go out and interact with lots of hot girls, make your intentions clear right from the beginning. If they're not interested, keep trying until you find someone who is. Don't spend too much time chasing after one girl.

 

You can't expect the hot ones to chase you, even if you're a good-looking guy.

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Prove it.

 

 

*10 characters

 

alright, i'll change my profile picture.

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I can relate to your situation haha. My last girlfriend was also really hot. But if you like someone, you shouldn't care if other people think you "downgraded." Don't let your ego keep you from being happy.

 

That said, hot girls have lots of options, so you have to set yourself apart from other guys. Go out and interact with lots of hot girls, make your intentions clear right from the beginning. If they're not interested, keep trying until you find someone who is. Don't spend too much time chasing after one girl.

 

You can't expect the hot ones to chase you, even if you're a good-looking guy.

 

yeah, i always expected the hot ones to chase me, like my ex's did. now the only one's who want me are ugly. :p

 

 

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Well did you change your picture yet?

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Really? I get it that people want to date hot women. But to strictly close the door on someone else just because their nose might not be perfect, or that they may be a tad overweight? I'd say you're really limiting yourself. There are plenty of cute and attractive girls out there that have amazing personalities.

 

I like hot women too, what guy doesn't? But, I can tell you some of my most loving, passionate, and rewarding relationships I've had were with some of the lesser physically attractive women that I've date. Does that mean I didn't think they were beautiful or good looking? Absolutely not. In fact, their unbelievable personalities heightened their beauty in my eyes. Women who I originally thought of as "average" (in my eyes...beauty is subjective) turn out to be beautiful and sexy to me after learning who they are.

 

I've had the opposite happen as well. I've met girls who are smoking hot, but then I find out they have the personality of a wet towel and guess what? I don't find them hot anymore.

 

I'll take cute with an awesome personality any day over smoking hot with a terrible personality. I'm not the best looking guy and I have my standards. I could give a rats bottom what other people think of the women I date. If it makes me happy that's all that matters.

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Well did you change your picture yet?

 

just did, don't you see it??!!

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Really? I get it that people want to date hot women. But to strictly close the door on someone else just because their nose might not be perfect, or that they may be a tad overweight? I'd say you're really limiting yourself. There are plenty of cute and attractive girls out there that have amazing personalities.

 

I like hot women too, what guy doesn't? But, I can tell you some of my most loving, passionate, and rewarding relationships I've had were with some of the lesser physically attractive women that I've date. Does that mean I didn't think they were beautiful or good looking? Absolutely not. In fact, their unbelievable personalities heightened their beauty in my eyes. Women who I originally thought of as "average" (in my eyes...beauty is subjective) turn out to be beautiful and sexy to me after learning who they are.

 

I've had the opposite happen as well. I've met girls who are smoking hot, but then I find out they have the personality of a wet towel and guess what? I don't find them hot anymore.

 

I'll take cute with an awesome personality any day over smoking hot with a terrible personality. I'm not the best looking guy and I have my standards. I could give a rats bottom what other people think of the women I date. If it makes me happy that's all that matters.

 

 

i'm kinda like Danny from the movie Grease. you know? he had a reputation, his girl had to be hot, and cool...

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You aren't as hot as you think.

 

But that's just me.

 

Obviously, everyone has different views.

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i'm kinda like Danny from the movie Grease. you know? he had a reputation, his girl had to be hot, and cool...

 

You'll probably never be happy with that attitude. It's not that hard to get hot girls, keeping them happy is the hard part lol. And you shouldn't call people "ugly," that's just terrible.

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You aren't as hot as you think.

 

But that's just me.

 

Obviously, everyone has different views.

 

never said i was, just what i've been told.

 

btw, it's my smile that melts the girls hearts. :D

 

 

ps. you're pretty cute

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i'm kinda like Danny from the movie Grease. you know? he had a reputation, his girl had to be hot, and cool...

 

Well clearly you care much more about what people think about you and the women you date, than what you think or feel about yourself or the women you date. Who cares what the girl looks like, or what her personality is like to other people. If it makes you happy, then who gives a damn about a reputation.

 

Honestly, you're shorting yourself here. I feel bad for you because this mentality will never allow you to truly connect with someone who could be unbelievable. I can tell you right now: developing that connection with someone and falling in love is one of life's pleasures.

 

Do yourself a favor and get over it. You'll be happy you did.

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Once again it's acceptable for a women to be shallow because of what is between her legs but not a man

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hi everyone. i've recently come out of a bad breakup from my ex. since then there has been a few girls who have wanted to date me. the problem is that i'm not physically attracted to them. my ex was a 10, and i can't see myself "downgrading" on looks. i'm not going to lie i want to date hot girls, but they're hard to get, because they know they can have anybody. it always seems all the unattractive girls want to chase me, and i play hard to get... its like a taste of my own medicine.

 

should i go for what i want? or should i give the girls i don't want a try?

 

Son you got a problem.

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I can tell! :)

 

 

smiled for you! -__-

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Son you got a problem.

 

no sh*t, why do you think i posted i have a problem on this site?! :confused:

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I can understand what the OP means about getting messages from unattractive. It makes you feel that they believe they are on your level LOL

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I can understand what the OP means about getting messages from unattractive. It makes you feel that they believe they are on your level LOL

 

don't hate, i don't see your profile picture bro

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don't hate, i don't see your profile picture bro

 

 

I am on your side, I want to date attractive women too

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