Partnered and Alone on Valentines Day Open Vent Thread

[lockedoutluv]

If you're single and alone on Valentines Day, we understand how lonely it can be. But there are those of us who are in relationships and are apart from our partners. It can be because of a breakup, work situation or scheduling conflict. That to me is a significantly more lonely experience. Use this thread to vent your feelings and commiserate with others in the same situation.

[lockedoutluv]

I'll start and explain that I am married but separated from my spouse. We live under the same roof which complicates everything, especially days like today. This year, thought, we are apart due to out of town travel, but my feeling is that it makes the 'holiday' that much easier to handle.

[SadNLonley]

I am single and really missing my ex. I did really good all day today. Now its almost 6 pm and im starting to feel down. Deep down inside me, I thought today would be the day for him to break nc if he ever wanted to let me know he thought of me.

 

Well, no card, no call, no text. Guess he must be busy with a new gal this Valentines day.

[GoreSP]

If you're single and alone on Valentines Day, we understand how lonely it can be. But there are those of us who are in relationships and are apart from our partners. It can be because of a breakup, work situation or scheduling conflict. That to me is a significantly more lonely experience. Use this thread to vent your feelings and commiserate with others in the same situation.

 

Yeah sorry but not being with your partner on Valentine's day because of work or schedule conflict is not in any way worse than being lonely on Valentine's day (notice I said lonely, not alone.)

[Els]

'Commiserate' because of missing the day due to conflicting work schedules? That's a wee bit excessive, don't you think? Don't take holidays so seriously. If you can't celebrate the day on the day itself, so what? You can always schedule another time and celebrate another day. It's no less meaningful - it's the effort that both partners put in that makes it beautiful, not the exact date you did it. We did that and it didn't once occur to me to be miserable just because I was celebrating it on Saturday instead of Friday...

 

For those going through a breakup though, yeah, tough time of the year. My sympathies.

[lockedoutluv]

For those going through a breakup though, yeah, tough time of the year. My sympathies.

 

For the record, my situation falls into this later category as the out-of-town travel was intentional.

 

Having said that, I have more compassion for someone who is away from their partner on a day to celebrate partnership than I do with someone who is unpartnered. And there are many threads about that on LS, so I thought it was only fair.