runaway Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 25 y.o. professional school student. Went to a law school friend's party at a nightclub last Sat and was introduced to his classmate whom I found very attractive. We kinda hit it off instantly. Our conversation flowed nicely, and we danced for quite some time. After a while, she french kissed me, so I figured she found me attractive as well. I wanted to exchange numbers, but she claimed her cell had died on her. So, I got her number. My buddy told me she gets hit on all the time, so he told me to approach her in a way that most guys don't. I decided to call her, instead of texting her, the day after I met her. I did, but she didn't pick up. Later that night I texted her, "Hey M, how's it going? called you earlier today but maybe you didn't get the call?" I just left it at that. It's been a few days, but I still haven't heard back from her. Since the girl and my buddy are pretty close friends, I asked him to find out what she really thought of me. He said, "She said she really liked you!! But she is working on a brief, so she's been really busy. She said she was planning to text back soon." I thought this girl was somewhat into me, but I am now assuming she has zero interest. Yeah, I get that she is busy and stressed out, but I am sure it takes just a few seconds to respond to a message. What do y'all think?
GoreSP Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You know, the 'I'm really busy' excuse is really lame. It's the kind of excuse that no one wants to argue with but really, it would have taken her 30 seconds to reply to your text even just to say 'Hey I'm good! Really busy right now I'll text you when I have time to chat' I wouldn't contact her again.
PegNosePete Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 But she is working on a brief, so she's been really busy. She said she was planning to text back soon." She's too busy to text you, but she's not too busy to tell her friend that she's too busy to text you? She could have used the time that she spent telling her friend that she's too busy to text you, to text you instead. Fail. Drop. Next. 1
ktya Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Why not try texting her? Why sit around for 5 days waiting?
ChatroomHero Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You could always give it another week and send a friendly "hello" text. Play it like she has 0 interest and you won't have to worry about how long a response takes. If she answers you might be pleasantly surprised, but if you play it casual, no big deal if she doesn't. I think a lot of times if you relax and don't put time constraints and have the "nothing to lose" attitude something good can come from it. She kissed you, there is interest, but it doesn't have to be her falling head over heals right away for something to develop.
Poppygoodwill Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'd leave it. If she can't find time in five days to write you a text, then she's got no time for dating either obviously. So even if she did like you, it would go nowhere. Shrug and walk away.
Zahara Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You called her. No response. You texted her. No response. Just rude. 5 days later and still nothing. Don't do anything more. 1
cif Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 25 y.o. professional school student. Went to a law school friend's party at a nightclub last Sat and was introduced to his classmate whom I found very attractive. We kinda hit it off instantly. Our conversation flowed nicely, and we danced for quite some time. After a while, she french kissed me, so I figured she found me attractive as well. I wanted to exchange numbers, but she claimed her cell had died on her. So, I got her number. My buddy told me she gets hit on all the time, so he told me to approach her in a way that most guys don't. I decided to call her, instead of texting her, the day after I met her. I did, but she didn't pick up. Later that night I texted her, "Hey M, how's it going? called you earlier today but maybe you didn't get the call?" I just left it at that. It's been a few days, but I still haven't heard back from her. Since the girl and my buddy are pretty close friends, I asked him to find out what she really thought of me. He said, "She said she really liked you!! But she is working on a brief, so she's been really busy. She said she was planning to text back soon." I thought this girl was somewhat into me, but I am now assuming she has zero interest. Yeah, I get that she is busy and stressed out, but I am sure it takes just a few seconds to respond to a message. What do y'all think? Your friend told you to get creative and what do you do? What every other guy does and text her. She may have kissed you but... no number that night, didn't answer call, and no response to text. Zero interest.
BDL Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 (edited) She does have time to text you a short message, but chose not to. She's testing you, bro. She's testing to see if you are like all the other desperate needy guys who are attracted to her. You screwed up when you sent her that text that night... screams needy! You need to "give up" on her as your mindset, and wait for her to contact you when she is ready. Give her the space and time to process her feelings for you. Texting/calling her will drive her away. Guaranteed. P.s. You should only call or text to only set up dates, not to get to know her (that's what going on actual dates are for). When she contacts you, then set up a date. Good luck, bro. You deserve a girl you are madly attracted to. Edited February 14, 2014 by BDL
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