Michael 93 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Really not sure how to feel right now. Me and my Ex girlfriend broke up a month and a half ago. I am 2 weeks into NC after her saying she no longer wants to be with me. Its come to Valentine Day and I have been so down!! I know she is seeing someone else and its been going through my mind they are together all day. I spoke to my colleague who works over at her office (we work for the same company) and he explained that she wasn't in today. I immediately panicked and had like a sickening feeling. I searched her Facebook on my friends phone to see if there was anything regarding them being together. There was nothing about them but that doesnt make me feel any better, that dosent mean she isnt with him !!! Instead I saw how much of a fun time she was having and pictures of her out with her friends and guys and things like that. I couldnt take it anymore!!! My mind was on a different planet. I caved and text her saying "i just want to say. happy valentines day. i hope you are ok and i have not stopped thinking about you." Not really sure how to feel about this at all. She hasn't replied. I dont know how I feel!
somecamel Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You're setting yourself up for a fall I'm afraid my friend. VD is going to be an emotional day for a lot of people, delete her number and all the texts you have saved. I have my beers in for this evening already, I'm gonna wallow in my own self pity for a bit, get drunk and go to bed:) 2
Author Michael 93 Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 Do you think so?? I thought it would maybe show that I am thinking of her and if she wanted to text she can. She still hasnt replied and I get such a strong feeling that maybe she is with this other guy. Hurting me so badly. I love her so much. I was doing well untill I found out she wasnt at work! I agree. I have to get heavily intoxicated tonight.
somecamel Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I really do feel for you, it's the knowing that hurts the most. This is why you have to stop yourself from punishing yourself, you know nothing good can come of it and you'll only end up hurting yourself. Take a deep breath, cut off contact, delete numbers, unfriend facebook (block them as well) and any other way you made contact. I had to do Skype, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat the lot. Chin up, we'll all get this day past us. My ex just bloody text me happy valentines day, talk about f*c*ing up my feelings even more
herself Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Do you think so?? I thought it would maybe show that I am thinking of her and if she wanted to text she can. She still hasnt replied and I get such a strong feeling that maybe she is with this other guy. Hurting me so badly. I love her so much. I was doing well untill I found out she wasnt at work! I agree. I have to get heavily intoxicated tonight. Michael I know you dont believe this but you wont start to feel better honey until you accept its over. She is with him, thats all. Its NOT the end of the world. It hurts alot, I know...we ALL know and once you put yourself and your health and healung first, your gonna keep feeling worse. Get help for YOU. Your ok, and normal. A nice person and good guy. Life, love, and happiness are waiting if you just get through the firsr few painful weeks of NC and let go. Hugs.
somethingsomething Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Stay strong everyone, do not cave and break NC, it's gonna be a tough day for the broken-hearted =( I'm also resisting the urge soooo sooo bad to contact/social media check on my ex. I've learned one valuable lesson. Never ask a person out on Valetine's day, this whole day will suck for me and a lot of others.
Thatoneguy22 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Do you think so?? I thought it would maybe show that I am thinking of her and if she wanted to text she can. She still hasnt replied and I get such a strong feeling that maybe she is with this other guy. Hurting me so badly. I love her so much. I was doing well untill I found out she wasnt at work! I agree. I have to get heavily intoxicated tonight. Bolded for truth. Michael the more you think of her the more you prolong your healing, It's hard I know, I'm 3.5 months post b/u and 3 months NC and I've never looked back. It wont be easy but trust me occupy your time on people that care about you, not someone who once did.
flightplan Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 This is the very reason why I cannot break NC. I want to be ignorant about who she is with or what she is doing. The thought of reaching out to my ex and hearing her say she is dating and happy is enough to stop me from breaking NC. You cannot reach out for comfort to the one who is hurting you. If you want to move on... stop sneaking peaks at what she's up to. She needs to be dead to you. It's hard but it's reality.
Chi townD Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Do you think so?? I thought it would maybe show that I am thinking of her and if she wanted to text she can. She still hasnt replied and I get such a strong feeling that maybe she is with this other guy. Hurting me so badly. I love her so much. I was doing well untill I found out she wasnt at work! I agree. I have to get heavily intoxicated tonight. Duh, she probably went away for an extended weekend with this dude. Not to make you feel any worse, but this is kind of your fault. If you hadn't broken NC you would be clueless to all of this. And seriously, don't hit the bottle tonight. You won't find any answers in that and you stand a chances of doing something really stupid, like text her again. Go out with some single friends tonight and keep busy instead. 1
ithappenedagain Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 One of the main problems with breaking NC is if they don't ever text you back... If you think your mind is spinning now, try breaking NC by throwing out a simple text, only to not hear back from them.... (kinda like the situation you are in now). That will make you go crazy! Treat this as a lesson learned. You will be ok. Keep your head up.
CelticGibson Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Micheal, She already knows how you feel. Why? Because SHE ended it and left you with all those feelings. She doesn't need a text from you stating anything and it sure as hell won't make her change her mind. If she has any feeling left for you, she would be the one blowing up your phone and kicking down your door. Since this is not happening, it's safe to say that your text was a bad move. You need to delete her number, block her on Facebook and start No Contact straight away. You are thinking that by texting her, you are letting her know you are thinking about her. The worst thing you can do now is sit there and wait for a reply or not. If you cut it loose now, you won't need to know what she thinks or whether she will reply or not. Stick to No Contact. You will get through this... and STOP looking at her Facebook!
Gemini x Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 This is the reason I'm *never* breaking NC again. I said what I had to say 5 days ago. My ex knows how I feel. He's just a douchebag that chose to disappear on me. As much as I'd love to text and say "Happy Valentine's Day" I'm *not* going to put myself through the hurt of hearing him say not to contact him, he doesn't love me, he's dating someone else. This is easier than putting myself through that. I don't want to know *anything* about him or his new life.
signal Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm 30 odd days NC, hurts like mad knowing my ex is already loved up dating someone else. The train journey from work was making me sick, you could tell the ones who were all happy and dressed up for their romantic nights out in the city. The pain is real. To the OP what's done is done...... You sent the text whose to say she won't appreciate it and still have feelings. Don't listen to much to everyone saying you did wrong, just because it never worked out for them Doesn't mean the same for you - but don't wait for the text, do something else in the time being mate
Author Michael 93 Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 Thanks all I appreciate the responses both good and bad.. I honestly have no clue where to go. She has not replied. She probably never will I know that now. Im not waiting for it to come because deep down I know it wont. I just miss her badly and wanted to get out that I was thinking about her. The pain is...she isnt thinking about me and what more can i do about that. Without literally going into detail i have done everything. I guess thats that. Thanks all x
Gemini x Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Thanks all I appreciate the responses both good and bad.. I honestly have no clue where to go. She has not replied. She probably never will I know that now. Im not waiting for it to come because deep down I know it wont. I just miss her badly and wanted to get out that I was thinking about her. The pain is...she isnt thinking about me and what more can i do about that. Without literally going into detail i have done everything. I guess thats that. Thanks all x I know it's hard, trust me. I'm going through it but don't do it again. No matter what you think you need to say, don't. The pain will be worse believe me. I've cried today thinking that my ex is already in the arms of another woman (no proof, just thoughts) and it kills me inside. I feel like throwing up but there's no way in hell I'm breaking contact to find out. I'd rather move on with my life now than hear the worst. Please, let it go. I'm here for you, going through the exact same thing. *hugs*
somecamel Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Michael, I'm going through a difficult break as well but it's amazing how good it feels to vent on here where no one knows you and no one can truly judge you. Vent, vent and then vent some more, the only healer here is time my friend. I havn't seen my ex for 6 weeks now, broke up few weeks ago, the usual games were played, she pulled me back, then dropped me off so to speak. Get Mad:) It helps:) You need the anger to get over them, think of all the bad they done, how they made you feel. 1
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