johndoe13 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 We live together and just bought a house together!!!! Together for only 1.5 years. Can you share your thoughts on why she lies. Basically a few days ago she mentions that she thinks it is odd that I have this girl. (which I just kissed once briefly 2 years ago) on face book; this girl i have a friend posts a lot about herself. Brief background: I've fkd under 10 women i<m almost 40 while I'm 99% sure she has been with 25+ men 32 y.o; with some info i<ve had during our relationship. (she lied about her number when we talked about past relationships; she said 10-15 and was pissed when I suggested it was over 25; and I was turned off). I started that conversation because signs of promiscous behaviour kept popping up everywhere. Things people said, things she said, the way she behaves, her family, things I've read... When she told me it bothered her that I had this girl once facebook I told her that she should look at her own friends list first (and that I only kissed her briefly once) and to tell me who should be the one to be worried. I thought she had 3 people on her 200 and so friends that she had sex with. She ended up deleting at 10 guys the next day. She left her facebook open by mistake and I saw her history. She told me a couple of days later that she had deleted 2 old boyfriends...... I told her that I remembered her number of friends dropped significately; she got very angry, telling me if I'm keeping tabs on her and still told me she removed 2 and that she had difficulty finding out how to remove these guys (she had removed people before). So basically she lied to my face yet she never denied that what I was saying was true. She also was pissed that I did not trust her. What do you guys think of this!
Art_Critic Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Does it matter ? seriously ? and if someone that isn't really a friend of yours is on your FB and you let them come between you and your GF your crazy.. delete them. Why she lied ? who knows..she did delete them...you mentioned she has 200 friends.. it may have been a while since she cruised her friends list.. oh.. and not many people tell the truth about their number.. why let it bother you ? she is with you. I think you should delete the girl you kissed.. 1
Philosoraptor Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I think you are both too immature for this relationship. She lies and you keep tabs on her. Trust is non-existent and it doesn't seem like either of you are able to let the others past go. While she may seem a little more crazy than you right now, there are two sides to every story and she'd tell it quite differently. But regardless of that, trust doesn't exist and it doesn't seem like the two of you are apt to have an open and honest conversation... which shouldn't be an issue for being together over a year. 1
HappyLove Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You don't even trust each other, aren't married, and just bought a house after being together only 1.5 yrs. I think you both have very poor judgement. 1
Raena Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 If you told her that you were bothered by how many partners she has had in the past, then chances are pretty good, she isn't going to be straightforward about it to you. Why do you really care? Is she faithful to you? Do you enjoy being with her? Then let it go... This seems like such a silly thing to me... but yet I almost understand it. My ex has every single woman he has ever dated or even remotely liked on his friends list. He wants to add me back but I told him no... that I didn't want to be part of his fb harem. lol. I don't see any reason to have my exes on my friends list. Why bother? It's not like I need to know what they are doing.
Gaeta Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 40 and having FB drama *shaking my head*. The important thing is in the here and in the now. If you were 20 I would understand the curiosity about how many partners you've had but once you hit your 40s does it really matter? You are suppose to have out grown those insecurities. You make a choice here, you trust her or you don't. If you don't then there is no relationship. 1
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