Tonight's Crazy

[LEEVIT2F8]

So if you have been following I'm still dealing with crazy eyes. Honestly, I really like this girl but shes about to get the hook.

 

I have a work thing Friday so that kinda sucks. She is in no way interested in seeing me at work. This is due basically to her jealousy and she has a hard time dealing with me being the center of attention.

 

So I text her today and say I have an appearance Friday (she already knew) but I'm free Sat/Sun, what is your plan this weekend? Keep in mind she comes across the state to see me on the weekends.

 

Basically, she goes back into this whole thing about how she hates her job and that she is slammed and burnt out. And that she is not sure if she is coming this weekend. I try to give her validation as suggested here, "I want to see you, we can have a relaxing weekend and party like rock stars next time... your call".

 

So she asks me what I have planned for the weekend besides work. And I simply responded, "You". She says, "You poor thing, haven't you heard I'm crazy?".

 

Its getting to be too much already. This girl just doesn't act right. Its like she wants me to beg her to come see me or something. That is never happening and she knows it.

 

Meanwhile I have a beautiful, 28yr old, 6ft, blonde, dime piece hanging on me all night buying drinks etc. At the end of the night she offers me oral. Which I turn down because I like crazy eyes!!

 

It's to the point I'm flat out turning down girls that no man in their right mind would. For a girl that is giving me the take away?

 

She is on her last strike. How do I help her get right? I really like this girl very much. But when is enough enough? My sick mind even thought of sending her a pic of me and this blonde and saying, "This is a Thursday night, I choose you, if you want me its yours just stop playing around".

 

She thinks shes being cute and coy and challenging me. Maybe she is really afraid. She certainly has made it clear she doesn't believe I have real feelings for her. Makes me kinda sad I thought she had a real shot at my heart. Is there anything that I can do? I am so bad at these things...

[Eternal Sunshine]

So if you have been following I'm still dealing with crazy eyes. Honestly, I really like this girl but shes about to get the hook.

 

I have a work thing Friday so that kinda sucks. She is in no way interested in seeing me at work. This is due basically to her jealousy and she has a hard time dealing with me being the center of attention.

 

So I text her today and say I have an appearance Friday (she already knew) but I'm free Sat/Sun, what is your plan this weekend? Keep in mind she comes across the state to see me on the weekends.

 

Basically, she goes back into this whole thing about how she hates her job and that she is slammed and burnt out. And that she is not sure if she is coming this weekend. I try to give her validation as suggested here, "I want to see you, we can have a relaxing weekend and party like rock stars next time... your call".

 

So she asks me what I have planned for the weekend besides work. And I simply responded, "You". She says, "You poor thing, haven't you heard I'm crazy?".

 

Its getting to be too much already. This girl just doesn't act right. Its like she wants me to beg her to come see me or something. That is never happening and she knows it.

 

Meanwhile I have a beautiful, 28yr old, 6ft, blonde, dime piece hanging on me all night buying drinks etc. At the end of the night she offers me oral. Which I turn down because I like crazy eyes!!

 

It's to the point I'm flat out turning down girls that no man in their right mind would. For a girl that is giving me the take away?

 

She is on her last strike. How do I help her get right? I really like this girl very much. But when is enough enough? My sick mind even thought of sending her a pic of me and this blonde and saying, "This is a Thursday night, I choose you, if you want me its yours just stop playing around".

She thinks shes being cute and coy and challenging me. Maybe she is really afraid. She certainly has made it clear she doesn't believe I have real feelings for her. Makes me kinda sad I thought she had a real shot at my heart. Is there anything that I can do? I am so bad at these things...

 

If a guy sent me this, I would be totally turned off

[LEEVIT2F8]

Yeah thats why I didnt send it.

[SunnySide0418]

Why are you engaging in such childish games with this girl??

[Oui oui]

If I were her I would have no interest in a relationship with a man that made me feel like I was winning the lottery or something by being with him. I might enjoy the sex for a bit but no way would I let myself have feelings for you. Why do you like this woman? I only see you writing about how lucky she is. If you do really like this woman, you are going to have to man up and make yourself vulnerable. Quit focusing on how thankful she should be she's getting a chance.

I don't know you personally, obviously, but the way you describe yourself is a total turnoff!

[MidwestUSA]

Stop requiring her to drive across the state to see you. You have no idea what a put off that is. In another post, you stated that she drives 25 hours to see you. I'm still trying to figure that out.

 

You come across like a twenty five year old who's reading some horrid player's handbook. She's 'on her last strike', and 'not acting right'. IIR, she was supposed to 'act right' to be given the privilege of knowing your last name. Has that happened yet?

[clia]

So I text her today and say I have an appearance Friday (she already knew) but I'm free Sat/Sun, what is your plan this weekend? Keep in mind she comes across the state to see me on the weekends.

 

Basically, she goes back into this whole thing about how she hates her job and that she is slammed and burnt out. And that she is not sure if she is coming this weekend. I try to give her validation as suggested here, "I want to see you, we can have a relaxing weekend and party like rock stars next time... your call".

 

I don't understand. In your previous post you said you had something nice planned for her for tomorrow night since you couldn't see her on Valentine's Day. And yet your post sounds like you hadn't even asked her out for tomorrow night yet until yesterday? At the last minute? I would be really turned off. No wonder she doesn't feel like putting forth all the effort to drive to you again.

 

Speaking of which, why does she have to come and see you? If you want to see her this weekend, I think you should get in your car and drive to her.

 

Again, you are not at all acting like you are interested in her.

[MidwestUSA]

When you asked her about the weekend, and she went off about her job and burnout, yada, yada, she's saying the last thing she wants to do on top of that is get in the car and drive!

 

She hinted that you should come to her when she asked you about the 'rest of the weekend BESIDES work'. She was trying to get you out of that environment that triggers her 'jealousy issues'.

 

She's on her 'last strike'? I hope she takes it looking.

 

Go with the blonde who offered the blow job; get some more free drinks.

 

The only sincere part of your post is the last seven words.

[StanMusial]

I'm kind of on the fence but I'm leaning toward Underwear Man as my new favorite poster. This guy has potential with a little more effort though.

[Poppygoodwill]

you're a moron, you should have recorded the dime piece giving you a blow job and accidentally sent it to your friends (including her)... waited 2 weeks(while ignoring her) and she would have been all over you

 

girls want to chase, you dont let her in the slightest bit, you are like the fish that jumps in the boat when people go out fishing... theres no fun, excitement, or drama in it for her so she isnt going to do it

 

ugh. Talk about game playing. Ugliness.

[Ruby Slippers]

No woman wants to land a "catch" who doesn't think she's even more of a catch. She wants you to be a gentleman and make the effort to drive to her this weekend.

 

But I don't see that happening. You seem to regard yourself as a treasure for women to fight over. But deep down, I think you know that the only woman who will ever do it for you is the one that YOU want to fight and make some real effort for.

 

If you don't feel that strongly about this woman, let her go, and substitute in one of your "dime piece" club chicks to service you.

[LEEVIT2F8]

Stop requiring her to drive across the state to see you. You have no idea what a put off that is. In another post, you stated that she drives 25 hours to see you. I'm still trying to figure that out.

 

You come across like a twenty five year old who's reading some horrid player's handbook. She's 'on her last strike', and 'not acting right'. IIR, she was supposed to 'act right' to be given the privilege of knowing your last name. Has that happened yet?

 

 

Its a 5 hr round trip shes made it 5 times hence the 25hours. Giving her my last name meant I could see marrying this girl some day. She knows quite a bit more about me then my last name. LOL

[LEEVIT2F8]

I don't understand. In your previous post you said you had something nice planned for her for tomorrow night since you couldn't see her on Valentine's Day. And yet your post sounds like you hadn't even asked her out for tomorrow night yet until yesterday? At the last minute? I would be really turned off. No wonder she doesn't feel like putting forth all the effort to drive to you again.

 

Speaking of which, why does she have to come and see you? If you want to see her this weekend, I think you should get in your car and drive to her.

 

Again, you are not at all acting like you are interested in her.

 

No, we had made plans last weekend for her to come in Sat/Sun because I would not be able to cancel my engagement tonight.

 

I wanted her to come and do dinner afterward. I did even set up a private place and chef to prepare the meal (she didnt know it was going to be a surprise). She still had not replied until yesterday about what she wanted to do tonight. So I asked again what she wanted to do? I received a bunch of crazy back again....

 

I had talked to a mutual friend this week about doing something special with her this weekend. Asked if she had her passport how to get her to bring it without her knowing etc. She probably talked to crazy eyes and let something slip she wasn't supposed to. Hence the what are your plans other then work? And my sort of cryptic, "you".

 

She has done this before. Text me on Thursday that she doesn't know if shes gonna make it. Prior to this I just say okay see you next time I guess. But she quickly changes her tune and always shows up.

[LEEVIT2F8]

you're a moron, you should have recorded the dime piece giving you a blow job and accidentally sent it to your friends (including her)... waited 2 weeks(while ignoring her) and she would have been all over you

 

girls want to chase, you dont let her in the slightest bit, you are like the fish that jumps in the boat when people go out fishing... theres no fun, excitement, or drama in it for her so she isnt going to do it

 

You probably just need to read my previous posts. But thanks for at least sort of understanding what is going on here. And normally I would agree 100% with the understanding you seem to have of the situation.

[LEEVIT2F8]

No woman wants to land a "catch" who doesn't think she's even more of a catch. She wants you to be a gentleman and make the effort to drive to her this weekend.

 

But I don't see that happening. You seem to regard yourself as a treasure for women to fight over. But deep down, I think you know that the only woman who will ever do it for you is the one that YOU want to fight and make some real effort for.

 

If you don't feel that strongly about this woman, let her go, and substitute in one of your "dime piece" club chicks to service you.

 

She is a very high quality woman. Like I said in earlier posts she is the only woman since my ex-wife who has given me any kind of heart thump. And thats my problem right now. I am TRYING to not let my lifestyle and relaxed moral standards ruin this one.

 

I could have just bought her a ticket or sent a car or whatever to come see me but I think she feels more in control having her own car. She is pretty much insists on it. Its a safety blanket for her.

 

I just don't see how I am the one playing games. I invited her and tried to work out the best situation I could for tonight. It wasnt exactly what she would prefer so she gets flaky.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I think you should send her a picture of your d-k

[LEEVIT2F8]

Plus all this game stuff should be gone. I'll let you guys in on a couple little exchanges. She has been more odd then normal this week. Which is why I have been cooling her down and trying to validate her more.

 

On our first weekend I touched her face in the morning and told her I know why she doesn't wear makeup. Because she is beautiful just waking up and will never need it. She has told me multiple times in the past weeks that is the best compliment she has ever gotten.

 

Before having sex she got hesitant and said, "What if its bad we might lose interest... and what if its really good then we are in a lot of trouble!". Then of course there was the are you scared yet question. In that exchange, I admit to being afraid of falling for her since day one and she admits to being scared of our thing, "More then you know". Followed by the I was hoping it would be bad, but it was really effing incredible and I might have to quit you comment.

 

Laying in bed. She says how homesick she was, and how shes never had a man to her apartment before, how happy she is to be with me, how safe she feels with me, and how good it feels to be with me. I lost it a little in that moment. So I touched her face, looked her in the eye and said, "Your face looks like home to me". I felt her melt on the spot...

 

So all this BS about me being a dick and playing her is just that BS. She knows I'm into her. She is playing games with me and I'm getting fed up.

 

If shes just scared then I really like her and want to help her through it. At this point normally I would be long gone.

[ja123]

It sounds like she's scared because she really likes you. She's probably overwhelmed by emotions.

 

 

Also, if she's burnt out at work, then she's probably feeling depleted and not on top of her game in terms of defending herself. She's probably frightened of depending on you (potentially financially) if she can't take it at her job. She probably hates herself that she can't take it at her job and this threatens her sense of independence and identity/self-esteem which is why she seems so jealous of you and your job.

 

 

Would you be ok if she quit her job and came to live with you?

[LEEVIT2F8]

Honestly it sounds like you both have a lot of issues that you're dragging into this thing. Lots of past hurts and disappointments that are causing you both to find it impossible to feel vulnerable with each other, hence all of this push/pull BS on both your parts.

 

If you don't address what's going on deep down inside, which trust me another person will NOT heal for you, you're going to continue this cycle of dating unavailable women that doesn't amount to much more than whispering sweet nothings to each other with nothing to back it up because you're both emotionally bankrupt.

 

Yeah that is pretty much exactly the issue as I see it. I have been through literally hundreds and hundreds of women. All empty except for my long term teenage girlfriend and my ex-wife. I never thought a woman could hurt me like my ex even though the end of the marriage was my indiscretions. Then boom out of nowhere this girl hits me.

 

She is very much the same. And its the biggest reason I am seriously considering just getting out now. Probably, the same for her...

[ja123]

To really love, we must risk being hurt.

 

 

Why don't you two discuss your fears together, and find a way to give it a chance?

 

 

You were with hundreds of women and it was all empty? Then you know that "this" doesn't come along too often.

 

 

Work through your fears.

[LEEVIT2F8]

It sounds like she's scared because she really likes you. She's probably overwhelmed by emotions.

 

 

Also, if she's burnt out at work, then she's probably feeling depleted and not on top of her game in terms of defending herself. She's probably frightened of depending on you (potentially financially) if she can't take it at her job. She probably hates herself that she can't take it at her job and this threatens her sense of independence and identity/self-esteem which is why she seems so jealous of you and your job.

 

 

Would you be ok if she quit her job and came to live with you?

 

She has been talking about quitting her job and moving back to my city. She lived here for 2 years and moved about a month before we hooked up. Last weekend she showed me her lease renewal on the apartment she still has here. Matter of fact it sat on the coffee table staring at me all night, LOL

 

When I went to her apartment, everything was still there. I mean she didn't move anything out. So even without me she was never committed to that move.

 

But the first weekend she said she loved her job. Then the next week she hated it. Then she was going to quit at the end of the month. Then that moved to I'm just gonna call them and tell them I quit Sunday and stay here. I convinced her to give it at least another week. She seemed overworked but better with her job this week.'

 

She has zero financial concerns. Plus I know plenty of attorneys and could get her a new job with just a few phone calls. Her little apartment is her sanctuary. But no we would be a long way off from her moving in. Yikes!!

[ExpatInItaly]

I don't think either of you is ready for a real relationship. You're both playing games with each other, which is a waste of time. You can't make someone behave a certain way. At this point, I'd move on.

[LEEVIT2F8]

I don't think either of you is ready for a real relationship. You're both playing games with each other, which is a waste of time. You can't make someone behave a certain way. At this point, I'd move on.

 

Your right I know. In fact, one of our friends left a conversation and said this, "You guys are crazy, I can just see it now your going to be married in 5 years sitting across the dinner table spitting game at each other, I can't listen to this anymore". LOL

 

I think if we can get to a spot where we can open up and feel safe with each other things could really turn into something real. I'm just really bad at that point.

 

Sure I could call up blondie from last night. Or any of the other girls I've been seeing. Or just grab a new one tonight. That's never an issue for me.

 

But the fact is I haven't slept with anyone since Sunday. And the fact I haven't wanted to scares me even more.

 

At a minimum if it all falls apart at least I learned I CAN feel something again. Which before her I was doubting would ever happen again.

[LEEVIT2F8]

As you already know, having a revolving door of meaningless encounters with women in your life isn't fulfilling. It's a cheap substitute for the real thing that sucks the life out of you until there's nothing left to give someone you MIGHT actually feel something for.

 

You say you got divorced because of your transgressions.

 

Are you addicted to sex?

 

There is something broken in you that you keep trying to fill up with women. You tell it here in a sense that you think bagging lots of different chicks makes you a stud, but honestly? I see someone very insecure and brokenhearted.

 

I was faithful for 11 years. Which considering my lifestyle in that time of my life is really good. Its phone numbers left for you at the front desk. Room keys handed to you every night. All of my peers were enjoying all that stuff.

 

Eventually, I did have a mistress for 2 years. Then it turned into that plus weekend flings etc etc. After my divorce I spent 100% of my energy being a father and rebuilding business ventures etc.

 

Like I said I dont really expect anyone to relate to my lifestyle. But we all have choices to make I just made some poor ones. I've never been a monk but I wouldnt call myself a sex addict. It sounds arrogant but ever since highschool I just had a lot more options then the average guy.

[cif]

Leave it B, I only read your OP but can tell you are trying too hard. You're hung up on her, she knows it, yet she doesn't seem willing to put forth the effort. Move on.