me2me2 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 so here's my little ridiculous story. Married 14 years. One child who is 7. Never ended up having another child because my husband fears that our next one could have some type of abnormality. I'm the breadwinner -- and recently moved to a new state for my job. Husband encouraged me to take it because he didn't like the state we were living in.... Instead of getting a new job in the new state -- (despite offers and interviews) he decided to start his own business. He does freelance work and is getting jobs, albeit slowly. He has no equipment and is using his income to pay for these items. He picks up daughter after school and hangs with her until I get home for dinner. He works out of the house about 3-5 days a month. We are broke. Living paycheck to paycheck -- despite that fact that our income is very good by most standards. I have enormous about of debt and he wants me to considering filing bankruptcy-alone -- to save his credit. I also try to bring in extra freelance income and I never rest - always working and trying to climb out od debt. Husband encourages me to sue previous employer because he felt they were discriminatory. I have refused -- out of fear for losing my job. We don't have s*x more than once a month or so. We have been to therapy, but not much has brought us out of our trapped life. I am very, very depressed....feeling extremely isolated. He seems very happy to be home and then coaching soccer ....etc. Meanwhile, I work non-stop. I want another child but haven't because I keep thinking I will end up leaving him...but never do. I drink at least 3 alcoholic drinks a night now, as does he. I feel it's the only thing that gets me feeling calm about my stressful life. I can't count on my husband for much....whether it's to pick something up, help me file paperwork, pay bills....he usually screws it up. I work a 1-11pm shift -- so I'm home in the mornings and it's difficult. Here's our morning. We wake up and take daughter to school -- he makes sure I am up at 6:30 too....even though I work late. I help get her ready and we get out the door. We drop her off ..come home...and jump on the computer...I work on my "freelance" work...until I go to workout at 11:30 and go to work. Then I break for dinner (drive home through traffic to kiss daughter and have dinner for 15 min) and drive back to work. Then I work through til 11pm ...come home...drink wine and fall asleep. The cycle repeats. Husbands texts me all day ...complaining ...he's tired. He's frustrated with the computer...he doesn't like our neighbor...He can't believe how annoying our daughter is acting. etc. etc. Then, he will text me typically at 10:45 and ask me to stop at grocery store for whatever he forget the next day. THIS IS SLOWLY KILLING ME. Is this MY problem...or would this be rough to anyone... I want to escape the negativity. I want the pressure off of me. I want to be the one without the responsibilities and drama. Thoughts?
peanutgallery Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Sounds rough to say the least. I couldn't do it.
Poppyolive Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Yes this all sounds too much. First up I think when you are feeling overwhelmed everything sucks and nobodies doing anything right. Sounds like you are both exhausted, obviously I dont know his side but the way hes constantly texting you hes not in a good place either. I suggest talking and taking a look at your lives together as a unit and separetly. Make lists and goals. Eg your personal one sleep in, excersise, grocery list, job goals etc and then a relationship list eg date night, even if it's late night bath together... Then a team work list what jobs need doing and decide them fairly. Have him involved so he can pick the jobs that suit him....bit by bit you can tackle your way through..and breath again...it's sounds like you both got weighed under on life. Maybe hes feeling just as bogged down....
MyEvilTwin Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Personality number 3 huh? Decide which handle you are going to use here on LS, and stick to one handle. I won't continue to contribute to your situation if you continue to feel that you need to create additional ID's, and change the story just a little bit, then respond to your own posts with one of your other ID's. Stop playing games. She is also peanutgallery and whatnow99. 1
Author me2me2 Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 Thank you...the problem is actually with my accounts. I don't know why but it sent me an email last night saying that my account was locked. When I scrolled through...I didn't see my previous post... so I tried this again -- thinking it was all gone. My apologies.... I didn't mean to cause confusion. But, I sent an email and requested a new password for my other accounts and nothing comes back. I am only able to form a new account.... I certainly do appreciate the feedback and I'm not trying to game the system..that's for sure.
MyEvilTwin Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Sounds rough to say the least. I couldn't do it. Thank you...the problem is actually with my accounts. I don't know why but it sent me an email last night saying that my account was locked. When I scrolled through...I didn't see my previous post... so I tried this again -- thinking it was all gone. My apologies.... I didn't mean to cause confusion. But, I sent an email and requested a new password for my other accounts and nothing comes back. I am only able to form a new account.... I certainly do appreciate the feedback and I'm not trying to game the system..that's for sure. Then how come you were able to respond to your own post quoted above as peanutgallery? Your method isn't working unless you have a true case of multiple personality disorder....
MyEvilTwin Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 You may have a valid case you know, but you're sabotaging it by creating these other ID's. Just get real and stay real....
peanutgallery Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I do have a real case and I am at the whim of this message board. I would be grateful for honest help. I have this handle now saved on my iPhone. Hoping it stays locked in.
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