I don't know what to think of my friends relationship

[Colton]

Well he was more of an acquaintance that became a roommate. Basically he had this girl friend from his senior year of high school to his second year of college. He and his ex were the same age.

 

It was the beginning of 2013 that she started to act weird as if "GIGS" was coming over her. He noticed something was off so I believe they had a mutual split. I think she was having more of a hard time dealing with it though because she occasionally had her friends text him, etc.

 

My thing was they had a 3 year relationship that they just threw away. And idk why it bugs me, but he started dating his new gf less than 2 weeks after he and his ex of 3 years split. He's now been with this new girl for about 9 months and they've been living together for 2 months.

 

I don't want to sound like an a-hole but I just don't feel as if they are going to work. Dating someone less than 2 weeks after a 3 year relationship and then moving in with them after half a year just seems so fast!

 

So I guess my question is why did he do this (I never asked him about it because she was always around and like I said we were never really friends.) Is this relationship a way to cope, or does he really not care, did he just move on that fast? If it counts for anything I feel he and his ex had by far better chemistry than he and his new gf, you could just see it.

 

My problem is I could have never done something like that. It's been a year and 2 days, (yeah the date is still burned in my memory), I don't know if I'm still ready to go out there and date. Yes i've been with other women, been back in the gym consistently, work 30+ hours per week, school, etc. I just still haven't come across a connection that makes me feel half as good as the one I had with my ex.

 

Idk..

[BradJacobs]

Envy is one of the seven deadly sins.

 

I'm sensing a lot of it above.

[tlegend]

Well he was more of an acquaintance that became a roommate. Basically he had this girl friend from his senior year of high school to his second year of college. He and his ex were the same age.

 

It was the beginning of 2013 that she started to act weird as if "GIGS" was coming over her. He noticed something was off so I believe they had a mutual split. I think she was having more of a hard time dealing with it though because she occasionally had her friends text him, etc.

 

My thing was they had a 3 year relationship that they just threw away. And idk why it bugs me, but he started dating his new gf less than 2 weeks after he and his ex of 3 years split. He's now been with this new girl for about 9 months and they've been living together for 2 months.

 

I don't want to sound like an a-hole but I just don't feel as if they are going to work. Dating someone less than 2 weeks after a 3 year relationship and then moving in with them after half a year just seems so fast!

 

So I guess my question is why did he do this (I never asked him about it because she was always around and like I said we were never really friends.) Is this relationship a way to cope, or does he really not care, did he just move on that fast? If it counts for anything I feel he and his ex had by far better chemistry than he and his new gf, you could just see it.

 

My problem is I could have never done something like that. It's been a year and 2 days, (yeah the date is still burned in my memory), I don't know if I'm still ready to go out there and date. Yes i've been with other women, been back in the gym consistently, work 30+ hours per week, school, etc. I just still haven't come across a connection that makes me feel half as good as the one I had with my ex.

 

Idk..

 

 

Your questioning someone else's happiness because you can't do the same?

 

Live in your own world my friend. Not his.

[Colton]

Your questioning someone else's happiness because you can't do the same?

 

Live in your own world my friend. Not his.

 

Well I'd like to think I am. I've moved to a new city where I don't know anyone to try and mix things up, thus I've had plenty of time for self-reflection and well just plenty of time to just think, which is why I ask a question like this.

 

Envy is one of the seven deadly sins.

 

I'm sensing a lot of it above.

 

Crap maybe I did't really word it right. Im not envious of what he's doing I'm just curious if anyone else has seen this or done this. He wasn't the one who was initially having second thoughts, his ex was. What's the mindset of someone who jumps into a relationship right after a BU? He isn't even 21 yet, but he's moved in with this girl he hasn't even dated for a year.