limberlost Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm not someone to even say the words 'married' or 'kids' ever in the early stages of a relationship. But, it seems like almost every guy I've even just casually dated has talked about their future kids names, wanting to settle down, etc. I'm talking before a second date. These are guys mostly around thirty, give or take a few years... Is this typical?
Tayken Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm not someone to even say the words 'married' or 'kids' ever in the early stages of a relationship. But, it seems like almost every guy I've even just casually dated has talked about their future kids names, wanting to settle down, etc. I'm talking before a second date. These are guys mostly around thirty, give or take a few years... Is this typical? Well...if they are in their 30s, they are obviously ready to settle down and have kid(s), so this might explain why this is happening. I hear you though, this is conversation for 3, 4 date, not at the first meet and greet Ouch...come on fellas
ExpatInItaly Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm in my early 30s, and I honestly don't hear many guys my age talking about this so early in the relationship. Where do you meet these men? *shrugs*
Col1 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Many childless singles don't want children. Best to ask each other upfront and not waste anyone's time if there is a mismatch. 1
amaysngrace Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Knowing that a lot of women want to be married and have a family it could be used as an easy way to get in your pants by saying what they think you want to hear. That is my best guess...
Colton Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm not someone to even say the words 'married' or 'kids' ever in the early stages of a relationship. But, it seems like almost every guy I've even just casually dated has talked about their future kids names, wanting to settle down, etc. I'm talking before a second date. These are guys mostly around thirty, give or take a few years... Is this typical? Well something I found to be strange was that over the last 4 years I have about 10 or so friends who got married and had kids or vice versa before 21. They are all about my age (22) no more than a year older than me nor more than a year younger. I think people typically start to think more about kids and marriage even if they're not in a serious relationship around their late 20's simply because their peak years or their 20's are coming to a close and to put it shortly, they feel they are getting old. But then again everyone is different. I never even thought about kids or marriage before my ex. I was just enjoying life with my friends, I didn't feel like I needed anything else. Then when she pulled a 180 on me. She always talked about it and I thought "maybe settling down at this age wouldn't be so bad". Well I was definitely wrong.
BradJacobs Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Knowing that a lot of women want to be married and have a family it could be used as an easy way to get in your pants by saying what they think you want to hear. That is my best guess... Or it's like a previous poster stated where one person is trying to get the major deal breakers out of the way early.
soccerrprp Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm not Is this typical? This "future talk" is typical for guys who want to fool you ladies into thinking there's more. To get into your pants...OR b/c they are irrationally enamored AND want you to think that they are committed in some way. Either way, way too soon and something to be wary of. I've done it myself once to some degree and it was not helpful to the relationship. LOL!
amaysngrace Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Or it's like a previous poster stated where one person is trying to get the major deal breakers out of the way early. Possibly but every guy she goes out with does this?? That doesn't sound likely.
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