ThatGirl213 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Hi everyone.... I just want to clear my head... A little brief on my history with my ex (first everything). He cheated on me with 4 different girls. Some were relationships. Some just hook ups and every time I caught him cheating, he would break up with me and say he isn't ready to commit and I use to beg him to come back to me. And he would come back to me, only to cheat more. We broke up last year when I caught him cheating once again but we never broke contact as we live on the same apartment building and see each other practically all the time. So I was talking to my ex day before yesterday and was telling him how some people do not seem to understand when you tell them you are not looking for a relationship and they try even harder to get you and he went like "I know right" really sarcastically. I got really angry and told him I have only one regret in life and that is asking him to be with me every time he dumped me. I don't feel bad for saying that. He hasn't really spoken to me ever since. Not that I care about him not speaking to me but I really do regret everything I had with him. I wish I had never met him. How do you get over these regretful feelings? I don't even think I love him anymore. Those feelings have died but the regret has been haunting me. I just want to get over and done with it.
peruano99 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Hi everyone.... I just want to clear my head... A little brief on my history with my ex (first everything). He cheated on me with 4 different girls. Some were relationships. Some just hook ups and every time I caught him cheating, he would break up with me and say he isn't ready to commit and I use to beg him to come back to me. And he would come back to me, only to cheat more. We broke up last year when I caught him cheating once again but we never broke contact as we live on the same apartment building and see each other practically all the time. So I was talking to my ex day before yesterday and was telling him how some people do not seem to understand when you tell them you are not looking for a relationship and they try even harder to get you and he went like "I know right" really sarcastically. I got really angry and told him I have only one regret in life and that is asking him to be with me every time he dumped me. I don't feel bad for saying that. He hasn't really spoken to me ever since. Not that I care about him not speaking to me but I really do regret everything I had with him. I wish I had never met him. How do you get over these regretful feelings? I don't even think I love him anymore. Those feelings have died but the regret has been haunting me. I just want to get over and done with it. If your boyfriend cheated on you 4 times, the first thing you should have done was to not contact him and cut him out of your life for good. You have to think about the positive things about you, go out with friends, have fun, and don't let this man get to you.
Eivuwan Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Everyone makes mistakes and often it takes several mistakes for people to realize that their strategy isn't working out. You can't change the past, but you will have a brighter future if you do not repeat the same mistake with other men. 2
BetrayedH Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You can't drive forward very well if your eyes are always in the rearview mirror. It sounds like you've learned enough from those mistakes such that you won't repeat them. No sense beating yourself up further. Seriously, what purpose does that serve? It's just a distraction from moving on to a productive life. Look upward and onward.
DasPope Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Probably its best to consider all the painful history as a learning curve rather then wallowing in lament for things that will never be. No reason whatsoever why the next person you meet won't be the love of your love ... keep positive even though its easy to say but horrendously difficult to do.
AlwaysGrowing Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You stop feeling regret when you start moving away from the person/behaviours that you WERE. Until one day, you know it was you that acted that way, but know that that is not who you are today. Almost like "that was me???" You learned the lessons and learned new ways to be.
experiencethedevine Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Hi everyone.... I just want to clear my head... A little brief on my history with my ex (first everything). He cheated on me with 4 different girls. Some were relationships. Some just hook ups and every time I caught him cheating, he would break up with me and say he isn't ready to commit and I use to beg him to come back to me. And he would come back to me, only to cheat more. We broke up last year when I caught him cheating once again but we never broke contact as we live on the same apartment building and see each other practically all the time. So I was talking to my ex day before yesterday and was telling him how some people do not seem to understand when you tell them you are not looking for a relationship and they try even harder to get you and he went like "I know right" really sarcastically. I got really angry and told him I have only one regret in life and that is asking him to be with me every time he dumped me. I don't feel bad for saying that. He hasn't really spoken to me ever since. Not that I care about him not speaking to me but I really do regret everything I had with him. I wish I had never met him. How do you get over these regretful feelings? I don't even think I love him anymore. Those feelings have died but the regret has been haunting me. I just want to get over and done with it. Your good nature put you in a position to be taken advantage of and that is what your ex did, but whatever your reasons for allowing this man to treat you with such blatant disrespect are long over. It is time for you to allow others to appreciate who you are, and you will find among those who show you respect, someone to light your life with love in a way that this ex man was evidently incapable of. When that happens, you will not only smile outwardly, but your inner smile will glow for all to see! Lots of luck and a happy future to you. 1
No Limit Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Consider it a lesson learned. At least you learned it with a boyfriend instead of a husband.
jnel921 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 It's time to move on and forget him. Luckily this was not a M and just a R. You need to work on yourself. Perhaps you need IC to deal with why you allowed him to hurt you so many times. No one is worth all of that. You put yourself in danger to be with someone who clearly didn't love or respect you. He went back because you begged him. I don't want to beg for love. I deserve that and I command respect! Talking to him in the third person about your relationship is also a bit hinky. Put on your big girl panties and let it go. Learn from this and know what NOT to do the next time you find yourself in this situation, and I pray you don't ever find anyone like that ever again. Good luck to you. 1
xAkulax Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Why do you even care what he thinks or feels he your ex Fu@#$ him and move on
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