realfriends Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Ok, well I'm not totally at 3 months but getting close. As some of you can read, my girlfriend of 4.5 years cheated on me and it was the hardest thing to go through in my life so far. Couldn't eat, couldn't concentrate on school work, slept horrible. This all occurred for about 2 months after the BU About a month after the BU, a little before Thanksgiving, I went NC. I havnt heard anything from her except on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and due to my acceptance into a school. Theres only two more things in the world that might possibly provoke her to say something to me and that is what would of been our 5 year in March, and my birthday in July. So how am I? Compared to the beginning, phenomenal. I have regained my weight, sleep normally, and can concentrate throughout the day. I have picked up sports again where I have met new friends, gotten back to the gym, and done some volunteer events. I try to keep myself relatively busy. There still are some bads. I still have false hope. I still put her up on a pedestal at times. I still get urges to know what she's doing, and to check her social media. All of these things happen every now and then but they don't ruin or consume my day. So what is my next step in recovery? Well, theres a few things that I think I need to do to help me get over this completely. 1) DATE . She was my first girlfriend and I don't really know what its like to date. I think once I date another person, whenever that may be, it might just help me cut the last strand of the rope to this thing. Also, I think when I move going to a new school sometime around August, having a whole new world to explore and things to do will help as well. For those going through what I went through, its hard. Really fuc*ing hard and I wish this pain upon no one because I know how bad it sucks. It gets better, but only if you make it better. There are still dark days, but nothing like the ones I experienced in the beginning. The best thing that I could of ever done was go NC and I only wish I had done it sooner. It helps you heal. It truly does.
jessiej Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I'm sorry about your breakup but it sounds like you're doing great!! Good job!! There will be good days, but there will still be some bad days, that's just normal, just don't let the bad days get you down! The only step I could think of to completly moving on would be to delete her off social media sites so you don't get the urge to check up on them about anything. I know it sounds harsh, but deleting my ex off social media was one of the best decisions I ever made! And then like you said, dating, that could also really help give you the final push to move on. Just make sure you're ready!! You don't want to hurt anyone else. But good job, seriously! Especially with NC. Keep on keepinnnn on
Author realfriends Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 I'm sorry about your breakup but it sounds like you're doing great!! Good job!! There will be good days, but there will still be some bad days, that's just normal, just don't let the bad days get you down! The only step I could think of to completly moving on would be to delete her off social media sites so you don't get the urge to check up on them about anything. I know it sounds harsh, but deleting my ex off social media was one of the best decisions I ever made! And then like you said, dating, that could also really help give you the final push to move on. Just make sure you're ready!! You don't want to hurt anyone else. But good job, seriously! Especially with NC. Keep on keepinnnn on Thank you. I have blocked her on FB and deleted all the pics of her on FB. That went along with the NC. I also blocked twitter and instagram in general because she's on there, but as you know, its the 21st century, and there are ways around everything.
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