johnson_j Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Started dating a Latina girl last summer - we had a long, drawn out dating process where I could never quite figure out her interest level - she always answered and accepted dates but didn't initiate or seem overly interested - finally came to a personal decision to amp up the next date and if I wasn't feeling it after that night, I was going to lose her number. Amazingly, sparks flew and turned into as much of a fairytale romance as I've been a part of. We started spending more time together, she initiated most conversations, and became exclusive. It was great through the holidays with conversations, intimacy, and with few exceptions nothing could have been more enjoyable. We met each other's friends and family and one night while in bed chatting she mentioned she can't "wait to see where this goes". Yes, a fairy tale. I had just come out of a 4 year LDR about 6 months prior to meeting this lady, so it was a nice change to have someone around vs. having to travel to see someone, etc. She claimed to have been single for a couple of years and totally against physical stuff outside of a relationship. She went on a previously planned family trip for a couple weeks around the new year. She was in contact every day, initiated contact most days, sent me hundreds of messages all professing feelings, love, making future plans, sharing pictures, etc. Right before she left she gave me a letter basically stating I was the best thing to ever happen to her, she couldn't wait to come back so we could be together, etc. She returned and the first two days everything was fine, and on the third day she had gone distant. I could see the confusion in her eyes. We had a minor disagreement over some future plans and she used the whole "I don't feel well" routine to cost me a deposit on a very nice restaurant reservation I had planned to surprise her for a special event. When I told her about the plans, she just kind of shrugged. Then told me she needed space, which I've given her. What sucks is that I had a similar experience with a girl about 6 years ago - same ethnicity - same situation - went from indifferent to raging hot in a matter of a week, only to blow up about 8 months later because she ran into her ex who used her for years and she became confused and distant. In that case, I gave her space and within a month she came back wanting to make things right, although eventually I ended things as they were never the same. Just wondering if this is going to be the same situation. I'm just feeling like a whipsaw to go from planning a ski weekend for us to basically no communication. She claims there is not another guy - but I have a very strong suspicion there is the shadow of an ex and that she is not being honest. I remember what she said about me treating her quite well - and at this point I'm convinced she doesn't deserve it. This year is turning out to not be like anything I expected and not in a good way.....please tell me it gets better. We are in our 30s, this shouldn't be that difficult.
flightplan Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Hate to say it dude, but your suspicions are right. There's another guy in the picture. Run.
David87 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 She's just not interested in you, that's it. It's possible that she found someone else but you can be sure. What you can do is move on and find a girl that shows more interest in being with you. NC with this one.
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