ingalls Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Just curious. On time I was told I was bad 1)I always make time for my girlfriend 2)I never check out another girl or say a girl is attractive in front of her 3)I never raise my voice to her 4)I take any chance to tell her how beautiful she is 5)IF i screw up or do something stupid I apologize 6)I never ditch her for other people 7)Itry to take her out on a date once a week 8)If she's upset I will listen to her and just hold her while she cries 9)If she is talking to a male frend I don't get upset. I'll observe but not intrude 10)i don't force her to do anything she don't want to do 11)I have made mistakes but I always admit to them 1
pteromom Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Sounds like a good start, as long as you are also taking care of yourself and not being too co-dependent. Also, you say you admit to your mistakes, but do you learn and grow from them? Who told you that you were bad, and why did they say that? Also, realize that "good" and "bad" are subjective. While some girls love a kind respectful boyfriend who allows her to talk to other guys, some girls like the passion of ups and downs and jealousy and fights. The main thing is to find a girl who likes who you are and who you like for who she is.
BradJacobs Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Does she think that you are a good boyfriend? Also how long have you both days one another? Because some of those would be creepy on the second date or if you haven't met her yet.
georgecostanza Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I don't know if you're a good boyfriend but you'd certainly make a good doormat. 3
deathandtaxes Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I read of bunch of I never do this, I never do that. What do you actually do????
Author ingalls Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Sounds like a good start, as long as you are also taking care of yourself and not being too co-dependent. Also, you say you admit to your mistakes, but do you learn and grow from them? Who told you that you were bad, and why did they say that? Also, realize that "good" and "bad" are subjective. While some girls love a kind respectful boyfriend who allows her to talk to other guys, some girls like the passion of ups and downs and jealousy and fights. The main thing is to find a girl who likes who you are and who you like for who she is. my ex told me i was bad. yes i learned from my mistakes
Mr.Mango Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 This all seems more like common sense to me, bar a few. Don't really see the point. I mean, we have "common sense" rules to living in society, and everyone knows that even if you follow them you're always gonna make some people happy, and piss others off. If there was a formula to being a boyfriend we'd have college courses, certificates and nobody would be single.
Author ingalls Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 I read of bunch of I never do this, I never do that. What do you actually do???? I respect her, If she needs to vent I'm here for her. I stand up for her. If she needs my help on deciding something I help but I don;t choose for her 1
deathandtaxes Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I respect her, If she needs to vent I'm here for her. I stand up for her. If she needs my help on deciding something I help but I don;t choose for her Those are all reactions. How are you proactive in the relationship?
Andy_K Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Those are all nice things. But they should come as standard. It's like a car salesman saying "the breaks work, it has a steering wheel and windshield, the engine is there and all the doors lock just great!" What do you have that's special? Are you smart or witty? Hot and great in bed? Do you share common interests or introduce her to new things? In short, what value do you add to her life? If you have plenty of those as well, then yes you'd be a good boyfriend.
Purepony Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Do u have money and fb? because todays woman only wants money and fb!
ChessPieceFace Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I read of bunch of I never do this, I never do that. What do you actually do???? At least 4 of them were things he actually does. Give me a break.
todreaminblue Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 sounds all good to me........best wishes...deb
deathandtaxes Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Those are all nice things. But they should come as standard. It's like a car salesman saying "the breaks work, it has a steering wheel and windshield, the engine is there and all the doors lock just great!" What do you have that's special? Are you smart or witty? Hot and great in bed? Do you share common interests or introduce her to new things? In short, what value do you add to her life? If you have plenty of those as well, then yes you'd be a good boyfriend. Thank you, Andy_K, you said it better than I did, with the value comment. I'm not trying to bust OP's balls, I'm trying to get him to think honestly about what he brings to the relationship. Not just how he may or may not act or react to his gf. Not raising your voice? Not getting upset if she talks to another guy? You want a gold star for those? That's what gentlemen do and should be expected behavior of any guy - most everything you said is EXPECTED. It's not what makes you a good bf. What makes you a good bf as say compared to her previous bf?
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