davidabriner Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 what do i do.. How can i change the way i look. A girl i like and a bunch of others think im ugly. Ive seen myself as half way decent. how can i not be ugly. What will make me look good. Its not ralyy my fault is it. I mean my mom and dad look better than i do. But how can i change myself to not be ugly.
moimeme Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Those people are just being mean and stupid. Pay no attention to them. Everybody likes different faces. I think Brad Pitt is boring, for instance. There will people who think you look great and people who won't. Get used to it and don't try to change yourself to please others. Be neat and clean and dress in neat, clean clothes. Make sure you don't smell bad or that you don't have stuff in your teeth and be pleasant. And the people who say you're ugly don't deserve your company.
Merin Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Those people are just being mean and stupid. Pay no attention to them. Everybody likes different faces. I think Brad Pitt is boring, for instance. There will people who think you look great and people who won't. Get used to it and don't try to change yourself to please others. Be neat and clean and dress in neat, clean clothes. Make sure you don't smell bad or that you don't have stuff in your teeth and be pleasant. And the people who say you're ugly don't deserve your company. This is excellent advice David.. Thank Goodness we don't all like the same things.. it's what makes the world interesting. Be yourself, and as Moi pointed out.. as long as you know you're taking care of you in being neat and clean and you know you're a good person.. pay no mind to the people who would try and make you feel badly about yourself.. as they are ugly IMO on the inside.
Huntr777 Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 Beauty, (and for that matter ugly) is in the eye of the beholder. Let me relate a little story to you. I used to DJ at a local bar, and one night all the girls I knew went totally ga-ga over this guy that came in. They all couldn't believe that he was single and each one of them made an excuse to talk to him. And one by one, they all came back and said "Now I know why he's alone...he's cute, but he's a complete jerk." Remember, outer beauty and inner beauty are two different things. I usually find that inner beauty radiates outwards, and sometimes outer beauty hides inner ugliness. And while I have your ear (or is it eye in this case...), I'm sure you're not the Elephant Man in the looks dept. And I think that anybody who tells you that you're ugly is a pretty rude person. I say hang out with different people who won't tear you down like that. I mean, why would you want to hang with anybody who says things like that to you? You're better than that I'm sure, be with people who deserve your company. Hunter
SuperFantastico Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 If you are in school join a team. Personality is like 100X better than looks. Look at howard stern, that guy can get almost any chick he want (and super hot chicks too) and he is nothign to look at. Expand your knowledge. Read the paper and listen to music. Have stuff to talk about with people I've seen many guys i thought were kinda ugly, but they were total ladies men because they knew how to talk to people. Work out, builds confidence and your body too. Do some martial arts, its made to increase confidence and confidence is what the ladies love more than anything.
CurvyGurl Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Originally posted by SuperFantastico If you are in school join a team. Personality is like 100X better than looks. Look at howard stern, that guy can get almost any chick he want (and super hot chicks too) and he is nothign to look at. Expand your knowledge. Read the paper and listen to music. Have stuff to talk about with people I've seen many guys i thought were kinda ugly, but they were total ladies men because they knew how to talk to people. Work out, builds confidence and your body too. Do some martial arts, its made to increase confidence and confidence is what the ladies love more than anything. Agreed. I always say I have medium self esteem. I don't think I'm DA BOMB but I don't hate myself either. I find that medium self esteem always leaves a door open for someone to come in and make a comment and send everything whirling about in my head. AM I ugly? DO I have a big forehead? Take a look at yourself and ask you: "If I were a girl, would I date me? " If you think you're great, dont change a thing. Find some people who appreciate the YOU that you see. If your answer is no, figure out what you could change. What positives could you play up? Do you have fantastic eyes that you're hiding behind glasses? Great pecs that you hide under baggy shirts? shaggy hair? etc etc. Sometimes a little change can make a world of difference. Did you ask them what, spefiically they thought was ugly? If they couldn't come up with any suggestions, then poo on them. Critcism is only helpful if it solves a problem. Otherwise it's just judgement and probably from people who aren't the kings and queens of Hotville themselves.
Neechi Posted January 27, 2005 Posted January 27, 2005 Originally posted by davidabriner what do i do.. How can i change the way i look. A girl i like and a bunch of others think im ugly. Ive seen myself as half way decent. how can i not be ugly. What will make me look good. Its not ralyy my fault is it. I mean my mom and dad look better than i do. But how can i change myself to not be ugly. My advice to you is this. Focus on making your life the best it can be and don't worry so much about what a few people think. In my life, if I feel somebody has slighted me for some reason, it generally has inspired me to prove them wrong. Some of the best things I have accomplished in my life have been due, in part, to wanting to prove my "doubters" wrong. It is very satisfying when you make something great of yourself and then, somewhere down the line, you bump into a few people who probably thought you wouldn't amount to a damn thing. When they see how great you are doing, you feel a great sense of pride. Don't let those people get you down. Like the previous posters have said, different people find different things attractive. Just because a few people may not be attracted to you doesn't mean that is how it is with everybody. Even the best looking people have their detractors. Keep your chin up!
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