coryallan Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Sunday night me and my girlfriend had a bit of a fight. She was at her friends house(a girl) and for some reason I got really jealous. I never get jealous when she is with her friends and I usually never text her when she is because it's her time to be with her friends I was texting her asking her to come over and she was saying she was busy. I told her i dont care and she should come over. she kept asking "why?" and i said "just to talk" then i called her and she said she would stop by when she left her friends which would be like 3 hours from then, i got pissed and said "ok i see where i stand, and how important i truly am" she hung up and i called back. she said give me two hours and ill be there she came and was very upset and said i was a jerk and was very rude. i told her i was having anxiety problems and talking to her calms me down. she said i could have told her that instead of not saying what was wrong, she said i had never done anything like that before and she can't figure out why. i told her i was sorry and i apologized. we had about an hour talk and i apologized to her and her friend and it seemed to smooth it over a bit since then we have talked and hung out. she told me that she hopes i never do that again and i said i wouldn't. it seems like everything is ok but part of me is stil worried she is a bit upset. like i said this was th first time i had ever acted jealous so i hope she forgives me should i just forget it and not bring it up?
tlegend Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Sunday night me and my girlfriend had a bit of a fight. She was at her friends house(a girl) and for some reason I got really jealous. I never get jealous when she is with her friends and I usually never text her when she is because it's her time to be with her friends I was texting her asking her to come over and she was saying she was busy. I told her i dont care and she should come over. she kept asking "why?" and i said "just to talk" then i called her and she said she would stop by when she left her friends which would be like 3 hours from then, i got pissed and said "ok i see where i stand, and how important i truly am" she hung up and i called back. she said give me two hours and ill be there she came and was very upset and said i was a jerk and was very rude. i told her i was having anxiety problems and talking to her calms me down. she said i could have told her that instead of not saying what was wrong, she said i had never done anything like that before and she can't figure out why. i told her i was sorry and i apologized. we had about an hour talk and i apologized to her and her friend and it seemed to smooth it over a bit since then we have talked and hung out. she told me that she hopes i never do that again and i said i wouldn't. it seems like everything is ok but part of me is stil worried she is a bit upset. like i said this was th first time i had ever acted jealous so i hope she forgives me should i just forget it and not bring it up? Short answer? Yes...
georgecostanza Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Nothing you can do about something that's already happened. But never try to emotionally blackmail your girlfriend, and keep your jealousy in check, especially if she's with another girl! Remember, she isn't your property, she's just someone who likes to hang out with you but that can quickly change if you start acting like a jerk. 1
Author coryallan Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Nothing you can do about something that's already happened. But never try to emotionally blackmail your girlfriend, and keep your jealousy in check, especially if she's with another girl! Remember, she isn't your property, she's just someone who likes to hang out with you but that can quickly change if you start acting like a jerk. i know it was awful. AND this was the first time I had ever done this
georgecostanza Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 i know it was awful. AND this was the first time I had ever done this Good! Make sure it doesn't happen again and you should be fine then
ExpatInItaly Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Never let it happen again. Ever. The only way you can do that is be asking yourself what caused you to behave so poorly. Truly look inside yourself - have you felt insecure lately? Neglected? Were you angry about something else and taking it out on her? The only way you can be sure to prevent it is to find out the underlying cause. If you don't, you run the risk of turning into a jealous, passive-aggressive tyrant. And she probably won't stick around for that!
Author coryallan Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 Never let it happen again. Ever. The only way you can do that is be asking yourself what caused you to behave so poorly. Truly look inside yourself - have you felt insecure lately? Neglected? Were you angry about something else and taking it out on her? The only way you can be sure to prevent it is to find out the underlying cause. If you don't, you run the risk of turning into a jealous, passive-aggressive tyrant. And she probably won't stick around for that! i won't for sure. it was a one time thing thankfully it seems she forgave me becuase she hasnt brought it up
ChessPieceFace Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Girls are allowed to exhibit the baseless jealousy and neurotic neediness you described at least several times a week without it being seen as out of the ordinary. Just something us guys have to accept! A GUY does that once?? Oh MAN! That better never, ever happen again! What a joke. Seriously. It's another hideous double-standard we have to live with. Men have to constantly be in control of all emotions, women can be out of their minds half the time, and that's how it is. I would just say, some women will be a lot more understanding, and a lot easier to deal with, than others. OP, your woman isn't really wrong for being upset, but she's wrong for being so intolerant. I'd say, try to check your behavior in the future, but don't live your life in fear of showing emotions which your supreme female overlords don't allow you to have. If she does dump you for actually being a human being, good riddance to her.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Girls are allowed to exhibit the baseless jealousy and neurotic neediness you described at least several times a week without it being seen as out of the ordinary. Just something us guys have to accept! A GUY does that once?? Oh MAN! That better never, ever happen again! What a joke. Seriously. It's another hideous double-standard we have to live with. Men have to constantly be in control of all emotions, women can be out of their minds half the time, and that's how it is. I would just say, some women will be a lot more understanding, and a lot easier to deal with, than others. OP, your woman isn't really wrong for being upset, but she's wrong for being so intolerant. I'd say, try to check your behavior in the future, but don't live your life in fear of showing emotions which your supreme female overlords don't allow you to have. If she does dump you for actually being a human being, good riddance to her. Erm...since when and by whom? I am a woman and find that type of behaviour manipulative and unacceptable in men and women.
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