pineapples Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 The guy I am currently dating seems to be very much used to women chasing him. Just wondering how common this is.
OpheliaSong Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I have never done it. I can imagine if they are used to it you might want to try a different approach. Do you like this guy or do you just kinda think he is hot?
Poppygoodwill Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Not sure what you mean by chasing, but I have many times made the overtures to a man I was interested in and asked them out. and had very good and all around positive reactions to my initiative. But if you mean chasing along while he dates a bunch of women and strings everyone along while they all wait to find out who he likes best, then no, I haven't chased a man.
Author pineapples Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 (edited) Yes I like him and we are exclusive. He doesn't date a bunch of women. He is actually very sweet and we enjoy each other's company very much. What bothers me is that women keep chatting him up and offering him their numbers. I have never dealt with a situation like this before. It seems he has a lot of options. Or maybe he has a submissive personality. Basically I have to plan all our dates but then he is happy to do whatever I have planned. I am not used to this at all. Edited February 13, 2014 by pineapples
Poppygoodwill Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Yes I like him and we are exclusive. He doesn't date a bunch of women. He is actually very sweet and we enjoy each other's company very much. What bothers me is that women keep chatting him up and offering him their numbers. I have never dealt with a situation like this before. It seems he has a lot of options. Or maybe he has a submissive personality. Basically I have to plan all our dates but then he is happy to do whatever I have planned. I am not used to this at all. Ah, is he extremely good looking? I once dated a man who was drop dead handsome and no matter how disinterested he came across, women still threw themselves at him - sometimes right in front of me. In that situation, I'd say you just have to learn to live with it and trust him. But if it's because, even though you're an item, he's still putting out a sexy, I'm available vibe to one and all, then that would be something you'd want to stop. Ditto if he is not being very clear that he's dating someone exclusively. So that means being actively public about it -- not accepting a number when it's offered but instead saying, I'm sorry, I have a gf. If a guy is passively accepting this attention and expecting you to just accept it, then I would say he needs to smarten up a bit or lose your trust. 1
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Yes I like him and we are exclusive. He doesn't date a bunch of women. He is actually very sweet and we enjoy each other's company very much. What bothers me is that women keep chatting him up and offering him their numbers. I have never dealt with a situation like this before. It seems he has a lot of options. Or maybe he has a submissive personality. Basically I have to plan all our dates but then he is happy to do whatever I have planned. I am not used to this at all. Average women have MANY more options then average men. But high quality men have a ton of options too. I had this happen to me just last weekend. On Saturday where a girl I slept with and didn't remember ratted me out to my date. Then the next night the bartender gave me her number right in front of her. Believe me this kind of stuff is very embarrassing to him. It is especially hard to avoid on a date. Because you are trying to be charming etc with your date. Other women pick up on it and some of them just don't care. Either you can accept it and trust him or not. But the world isn't going to change because it make either of you uncomfortable.
pickflicker Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Never needed to. They chase me I would never chase, when they are so willing to. If I had to chase, I'd lose interest. 1
filani Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 What bothers me is that women keep chatting him up and offering him their numbers. I have never dealt with a situation like this before. It seems he has a lot of options. Or maybe he has a submissive personality. Basically I have to plan all our dates but then he is happy to do whatever I have planned. I am not used to this at all. ^^^ This is code for ' I'm not used to my BF being the centre of attraction in the relationship!' Us guys have to deal with that ALL THE TIME !!! When women get hit on by other guys they are always quick to tell the BF to just be mature and trust her. Funny how most ladies have trouble following their own advice when the tables are turned. I have never seen a girl complain about having 'options' , they call it 'making themselves the prize'. Your BF isn't going to walk around town with a paper bag over his head any more than you would if it was him who started this thread. So I say WOMAN UP and deal with it! Stop making excuses for your insecurity.
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