and.... he vanished.

[dabs]

My boyfriend and I have(/had) been dating for two months now.. and he's suddenly vanished this week. I'm moving on Sunday to another time zone but I'm moving back in the beginning of summer. We had so many plans and we had a really good relationship. The last time I saw him was last Saturday, and we were perfectly normal. I don't know what to do. He stopped all communication with me on Monday this week. At first I just thought something was wrong, so I naturally asked.. but he would read my message and just not respond. I think I texted three times within a span of two days. I just stopped after that. Is this his way of ending our relationship? I'm so confused and I seriously didn't think he would do this to me... He's just not like that at all, but then again, what do I know anymore.... I've decided that if he doesn't show up by Sunday to at LEAST say goodbye to me, I'm doing myself a favor and ending it anyway. I really really want him in my life, and I really do like him, but if this is how he is going to treat me, then c'est la vie.

 

My best friend thinks maybe he just can't deal with losing me for a few months, and maybe she's right, but why would that make this avoidance okay in any way?

 

I don't know, I just can't stop thinking about it. If this really is the end, I deserve closure. Guys suck.

 

Thanks for any suggestions or support

[flightplan]

Sorry.. sounds like he's emotionally immature. You could be right, he's avoiding what he feels is inevitable. He may be thinking it's over by your leaving and wants to avoid the heartache. It doesn't make it right, but knowing someone for a couple of months makes it difficult to really know who they are and how they react to these kind of situations. Good luck.

[Gemini x]

I'm going through the exact same thing. My ex-bf of 3 years disappeared on me a month go. He sent me a text telling me he loved me and then just vanished. If this is what your bf did then he's a coward and you deserve better. My ex was the love of my life and all of a sudden he was just..... gone. I should have saw it coming as he'd done this in past relationships as well. Plus, my ex is soon to be 36. You'd think he'd be more mature but I guess not.

 

Forget about this dude. I only wish it'd been 2 months this happened to me instead of after 3 years of my life was given to this douchebag. Let him go. Don't contact him and don't sit there waiting for contact from him either.

 

If it happens now it *will* happen again. I do remember when my ex and I first got together I had to chase him the first couple months or so, then I finally got him reeled in and we had a nice relationship until a few months ago when things got rocky. When this happened, he bailed. I'm sorry you're going through this but be glad it happened now instead of after investing so much of yourself and your life.