alphamale Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam In order for it to demonstrate that it is not a stereotype, therefor true, you'd need to make a market study. And, boy, let me tell you that you'd need a whole lotta women in order to have a representative sample on which to test your theory! Studies have already been done CURLYIAM. THey show that the avg american female spends 4 to 6 times more on the phone than the avg american male. That is why most phone advertising is geared towards women.
Author iceisles Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Studies have already been done CURLYIAM. THey show that the avg american female spends 4 to 6 times more on the phone than the avg american male. That is why most phone advertising is geared towards women. I have read such studies and this is accurate. However, I do remember reading that women spend a significant majority of their time talking to other women as opposed to men. That's why when a friend asks me if a girl doesn't like him because she doesn't call that much, I can't automatically say 'yes'.
CurlyIam Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 I am sure you are right. But what type of women? Which social category? What family status? What age? Income? Education? You can be sure it all varies according to some of these variables. I mean, of course working mothers of three in their thirties spend at least four times as much time on the phone. I remember my mom confessing me that she felt that she raised us by the phone. And she's from Europe. And that's only one aspect. And studies say something like "80% of interviewed American women said that..." It's hard for me to think that they got the same result on all 100%. What about shopping? Here in PAris, all big brands are after gay communities. Apparently they have more money to spend!
alphamale Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam I am sure you are right. But what type of women? Which social category? What family status? What age? Income? Education? Je ne sais pas, mademoiselle.
morrigan Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 As far as calling someone you like, it's true I wouldn't be calling her all the time. Even if you two were dating, it's nice to have time to yourself. Call her every couple of weeks, when you feel like it, you will have more to talk about. Be yourself, don't put on some false front about stuff that bores you or if you really disagree with something they say. If it works out, great, it if doesn't, that happens. Stereotypes and surveys often reflect the view of who's conducting them more than the general population. You could do a survey on how many men scratch themselves while watching football, but it doesn't mean every man does.
CurlyIam Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 I'm a little obsessed here: morrigan: no, not all men would, but if you'd get the right sample, you could determine how many... wouldn't that be fascinating ? Kind sir: moi non plus.
Author iceisles Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by morrigan As far as calling someone you like, it's true I wouldn't be calling her all the time. Even if you two were dating, it's nice to have time to yourself. Call her every couple of weeks, when you feel like it, you will have more to talk about. Be yourself, don't put on some false front about stuff that bores you or if you really disagree with something they say. If it works out, great, it if doesn't, that happens. The problem is I feel like calling her a lot. Lol. But I know better, and it's definitely true that folks like to have some time to themselves. I used to be really naive` and think that you couldn't move forward by moving slowly. In actuality, pacing and timing is such a crucial element to dating. Regardless if I call a lot or a little, her opinion of me will probably remain the same. In such a case, it's better to not fix something that probably isn't broken.
moimeme Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 I think the writer thinks most men are hopeless fools and therefore cautions them against revealing this too soon. Your question, iceisles, is not whether to have long convos but whether to call her often. Since you're not going out, you're right to assume that calling as often as you'd like would not be the best idea. However, don't try to run relationships according to sets of 'rules'. If you were dating Morrigan, you'd call her rarely and not talk long. Other folks like daily chats and are happy to talk for a long time - it's a grand way to get to know each other, really. Next time you talk to her, ask 'when shall I call you again'?. See how she responds, and then do whatever she suggests. You learn the 'rules' of your own relationship, you don't go by 'rules' made up by people wanting to sell books by selling 'surefire' methods to win over women or men.
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