Author BlametheIrish Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 ENot a ton of women anymore and I can't recall any right now quite as done up as you are in that one. It's a pic that's going to ellicit attention from guys in one form or another. Im wearing mascara and tinted lip gloss lol. I can name at leaat six women who have similar pic. As far as attention is concerned Ive never had even an inappropriate pm. Anyway dont worry, the pic will be deleted. The only attention I sought on this,site was help on my relationship. Thanks to all whp helped, I hope you all find what you're looking for.
antonio1149 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Yes. Men tend to focus on a hot body for just sex, and a nice face for love/marriage. I'm looking for love, so this makes sense for me. I assure you that most men who are in the love/marriage camp are interested in someone they have sexual chemistry with, which usually comes at least partly as a reaction to a woman's overall physical presence. If I'm going to spend the rest of my life with one woman to the exclusion of all others, I think I want someone whose face *and* figure I find at least reasonably appealing.
soccerrprp Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 You can see my shoulders and up, and it's clear I'm not overweight (kind of like in my avatar). I have met women who looked fine from the shoulder up and turned out to be on the heavier side. No, it is not obvious just by looking at the shoulders and above in my experience. The HONEST thing to do is to put whole body pics, RECENT whole body pics. 1
BikerAccnt Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Irish, people can view your profile anonymously on OKC if they pay to be an A-list member. However, it kind of gives away the fact that they are A-list if they write you but don't let you see that they visited. I'll bet the ones that wrote, but didn't visit, actually did visit, but were A-list. It's hard to send someone a message on OKC without visiting the profile first. They would have to manually go into compose an email, and then type in the user name. I don't think I've ever bothered to do that.
gaius Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 E Im wearing mascara and tinted lip gloss lol. I can name at leaat six women who have similar pic. As far as attention is concerned Ive never had even an inappropriate pm. Anyway dont worry, the pic will be deleted. The only attention I sought on this,site was help on my relationship. Thanks to all whp helped, I hope you all find what you're looking for. Don't tell me you're leaving now! I don't think you were attention seeking and you didn't do anything wrong, just looked good in that pic and guys can do crazy things when a girl looks good. Like abuse her just for trying online dating to see if she was ready to date again. Especially ones online that aren't getting laid. Ignore the haters and stick around, you're one of my favorite new posters. 1
Tayken Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Don't tell me you're leaving now! I don't think you were attention seeking and you didn't do anything wrong, just looked good in that pic and guys can do crazy things when a girl looks good. Like abuse her just for trying online dating to see if she was ready to date again. Especially ones online that aren't getting laid. Ignore the haters and stick around, you're one of my favorite new posters. Like I said...subjective. No need to be sarcastic eh, guys don't really dig the whole fake nails, fake eyelashes and caked up face....... The natural look always wins the day, that way you know what to expect in the wee hours of the morning. I personally do not like my women pretentious and with caked up face...it's like living with a bi-polar
Ruby Slippers Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I have met women who looked fine from the shoulder up and turned out to be on the heavier side. No, it is not obvious just by looking at the shoulders and above in my experience. The HONEST thing to do is to put whole body pics, RECENT whole body pics. This is the last time I'll say it. If a guy doesn't want to meet me because I'm not showing off my body on my profile, he's no loss to me. At all. Any guy who does meet me will see that I have a great figure. (My face is cute/OK, but body is above average.) If he doesn't want to take a shot based on the rest of the information and the picture I provide, that's fine with me - no loss at all. 1
Tayken Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 This is the last time I'll say it. If a guy doesn't want to meet me because I'm not showing off my body on my profile, he's no loss to me. At all. Any guy who does meet me will see that I have a great figure. (My face is cute/OK, but body is above average.) If he doesn't want to take a shot based on the rest of the information and the picture I provide, that's fine with me - no loss at all. Am only going to say this for the final time also......Am sure the men are saying the same thing...you obvious have something to hide, hence the reason for not putting a full length pic up. When the question is asked how will you feel if a guy does the same.....the convenient answer of "I won't mind) is given There are plenty other profiles down the hall with full length pics, and guys will just move on Dating should not be a game of hide and seek
Keenly Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 This is the last time I'll say it. If a guy doesn't want to meet me because I'm not showing off my body on my profile, he's no loss to me. At all. Any guy who does meet me will see that I have a great figure. (My face is cute/OK, but body is above average.) If he doesn't want to take a shot based on the rest of the information and the picture I provide, that's fine with me - no loss at all. You realize that when dating occurs the natural way... men can always see your body, right ? So you are the one that would be changing the equation there, before you judge a man for passing over a very vague image. Too many men have been tricked to trust. Its not a malicious intent, its just to go with something a little more honest and open. 1
gaius Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Like I said...subjective. No need to be sarcastic eh, guys don't really dig the whole fake nails, fake eyelashes and caked up face....... The natural look always wins the day, that way you know what to expect in the wee hours of the morning. I personally do not like my women pretentious and with caked up face...it's like living with a bi-polar Well it's always the ones that put a bit of effort into their looks that get trolled the hardest. So I'd say the natural look loses out the majority of the time, at least online. Off the top of my head ES is the only other one that has a clear face shot and most of the trolls know better than to mess with her.
antonio1149 Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Don't tell me you're leaving now! I don't think you were attention seeking and you didn't do anything wrong, I disagree with you. I think it's wrong to post an online profile and give the impression that you're there to meet people when you're not. But we're not 100% sure what the OP really had in mind because her comments were self-contradictory. just looked good in that pic and guys can do crazy things when a girl looks good.Let me reassure you that I did not look at the teensy avatar pic and say "Wow, she's really hot, I think I'll provide some critical feedback because ... I dunno, it feels good to abuse hot chicks!" Your theory about this is very flawed. Like abuse her just for trying online dating to see if she was ready to date again.I don't think I said anything that was abusive. If you do, please provide the text. Feel free to quote me. She specifically said she wasn't looking to meet anyone, and was only seeking "friendship." That doesn't sound like dating to me. But other comments sounded like she *was* seeking dates---again, confusing. I believe that if you're not ready to meet people, or aren't sure, you really shouldn't be doing OLD. The D, after all, does stand for "DATING," and it's hard to date if you don't meet the potential dater. But, at the very least, if you're not sure you're there to actually date, or if you want to do "friends first," I think you should make this crystal clear in the first line or two of your profile so people can quickly move on if they want something different. Especially ones online that aren't getting laid.I'm not looking to "get laid," I'm looking for a relationship, why is why I think it's important for people to be mindful of how they present themselves, especially out in the OLD world which is already challenging at best. Again, your theory that providers of critical feedback are doing it because they're not getting enough sex is flawed.
Tayken Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Well it's always the ones that put a bit of effort into their looks that get trolled the hardest. So I'd say the natural look loses out the majority of the time, at least online. Off the top of my head ES is the only other one that has a clear face shot and most of the trolls know better than to mess with her. Again....to put it in business terms, looks is a depreciating commodity, while inner beauty will continue to appreciate in value. So ask yourself....which one would you rather have in a partner?
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