BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I've decided to document my OLD experience here so you all can laugh at me, with me and maybe gain some insight on OLD experiences. So I just put up my profile an hour ago and I've gotten 18 messages thus far. I've already been called a bitch twice for not being interested and 75% of the messages I got had sexual undertones.Will be updating with a few conversations I've had later. Here's one now though: Guy: if you want to talk for real. Text me 555-5555 Me: No thank you. Good luck on your search. Guy: Oh come on. Just talk to me on here Me: I'm not , again good luck on your search. (I meant to put I'm not interested, but I somehowdeleted it trying to respell it correctly, and then it sent) Guy: Damn what a bitch. This site is just full of girls who think they are too good for everyone. What's the point of having a profile. Me: You are bitter because you're trying to attract women who aren't attracted to you. I'd suggest you seek a therapist because most well adjusted adults handle rejection well. You take it personally, then come off as crazy. I hope you find the help you need. I told this guy I wasn't interested but I didn't tell him why. His profile turned me off as much as his pic. He wasn't even remotely good looking.I could have told him I just wasn't attra,ted to.him, could ypu inagine his response then? Messages like this are why many women ignore men they have no interest in. You never know who will take it well and who will go crazy on you. Luckily I could care less who thinks I'm a bitch. Especially when I know I turned him down nicely.
FitChick Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Your mistake was not ignoring him after the first rejection.
Minnie09 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Yeah why on earth do you want to lecture him? Hahaha. I've never been cussed out, but I usually just stop replying. Or don't reply at all.
Keenly Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Quite some game that guy had. Why would you want to argue with some one that just rejected you. I'll admit to one argument I got in and only one. She tried to tell me that a storm trooper and a clone trooper were completely different. Needless to say I wasn't about to let that one slide. If you want to have some real fun, tell him you'll text him in 30 minutes, but just never do it. 1
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Yeah why on earth do you want to lecture him? Hahaha. I've never been cussed out, but I usually just stop replying. Or don't reply at all. Just felt like giving him a piece of my.mind,.I didn't expect him to.gain any insight from it lol.
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 "I'll admit to one argument I got in and only one. She tried to tell me that a storm trooper and a clone trooper were completely different. Needless to say I wasn't about to let that one slide." This made me lol! I didn't feel like I was arguing with him just sending some truth his way
Phantom888 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 In the OLD world, ignoring means "not interested", so feel free to ignore them. Guys like this expect it.
soccerrprp Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I've really appreciated the ladies who have responded and simply wished me luck or stated that we would not be a good match. I'm also fine with being ignored. But anything beyond that to tell me I'm rejected is just a waste of time and asking for verbal/written abuse or simply just unnecessary. 1
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I'll admit to one argument I got in and only one. She tried to tell me that a storm trooper and a clone trooper were completely different. Needless to say I wasn't about to let that one slide. ^^^^ That guy gets it! ^^^^
KatZee Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I've had a profile for quite a few months before deleting it and I can't say I was ever cursed out, nor did I have any sexual undertones on any of the messages I received. Perhaps your profile and what you have up is what's fueling some of the messages. Also, OLD tip: You never respond to people you're not interested in. Not even to say, "no thanks."
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 I always respond to.messages even if im not interested to be polite.This isnt my first OLD experience people lol. Also my profile is great, I just revamped my old profile which got rave reviews. I think if you're pretty then creepers will message you no matter whats in your profile. I live in the second biggest city in.my state so lots,of creepers on the prowl.
KatZee Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I always respond to.messages even if im not interested to be polite.This isnt my first OLD experience people lol. Also my profile is great, I just revamped my old profile which got rave reviews. I think if you're pretty then creepers will message you no matter whats in your profile. I live in the second biggest city in.my state so lots,of creepers on the prowl. lol, I'm no hag, and I live IN New York City. No shortage of creepers here. Actually because of what I had written in my profile I was getting tons of quality messages. What OLD site are you on?
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 lol, I'm no hag, and I live IN New York City. No shortage of creepers here. Actually because of what I had written in my profile I was getting tons of quality messages. What OLD site are you on? OKC. I dont think anyone actually looked at my profile lol.
mammasita Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 So you got rid of your BF? I agree with not responding when you're not interested - most expect that with OLD. I ended up blocking because so many of them were repeat offenders. Responding when you're not interested usually gives a false glimmer of hope.
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Yeah I did. I didn't get on OLD to.find anyone right now. Just see whats out there. I've gotten 20 something messages by now and only 7 people have viewed my profile. I think many men saw my pics and decided to send a message without getting to kniw anything about me lol. In ny profile it says I'm just browsing, nit looking to date, I dont do FWB. But all that haa been ignored lol. Getting those messages just reminded me of how my ex loved me for who I was, not how big my breasts are or how eaay on the eyes I am. So now I just miss him more than ever. Stupid of me to think OLD would be a fun dustraction.
BikerAccnt Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 You using the same username? I'll have to take a look. So if you see some creepy old guy from Ohio look at your profile, no worries, its' just me. And I've never understood the arguing with someone thing. I have a woman who has just blown me off for the second time by not returning phone calls.. She sent me an email on OKC asking why I don't answer her emails now..I feel like lecturing her on proper manners but...I'll pass...
antonio1149 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Yeah I did. I didn't get on OLD to.find anyone right now. Just see whats out there. I've gotten 20 something messages by now and only 7 people have viewed my profile. I think many men saw my pics and decided to send a message without getting to kniw anything about me lol. In ny profile it says I'm just browsing, nit looking to date, I dont do FWB. But all that haa been ignored lol. Getting those messages just reminded me of how my ex loved me for who I was, not how big my breasts are or how eaay on the eyes I am. So now I just miss him more than ever. Stupid of me to think OLD would be a fun dustraction. I'm not sure why you expect guys to take the time to read your profile and "get to know you" after you've stated that you're "just browsing, not looking to date." Maybe the guys are saying "she's not serious about dating anyone, but she looks okay and maybe she happens to be horny tonight, so I'll drop her a note on the slim chance she might want to hook up."
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I got rid of the body pics and drastically reduced the volume of sexual messages. Now I just have a picture of my face, and 90% of the messages come across as genuine, from guys looking for a relationship.
BikerAccnt Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Ruby, that's fine to a point, but I generally won't write to people who only show face pics. I like to see the entire person. That said, I don't write suggestive emails to anyone under any, and certainly not as my opening gambit!
Keenly Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Ruby, that's fine to a point, but I generally won't write to people who only show face pics. I like to see the entire person. That said, I don't write suggestive emails to anyone under any, and certainly not as my opening gambit! I avoid ONLY face pics because I went on a date with a girl that listed herself as average but she was pretty overweight, and that's a deal breaker to me. A lot of women are masters of deceptive photography. 2
antonio1149 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I avoid ONLY face pics because I went on a date with a girl that listed herself as average but she was pretty overweight, and that's a deal breaker to me. A lot of women are masters of deceptive photography. Same here. If I only see a face pic, I just assume she's overweight and hiding it. Ladies, we want to see your figure. Don't get mad, it's nature. Post the body pics, send the inappropriate sexual emails to the trash (it only takes a second to press DELETE), and respond to the guys who write intelligently and thoughtfully who, BTW, have undoubtedly looked at your picture and had naughty thoughts but are wise enough to save them for another time.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 You can see my shoulders and up, and it's clear I'm not overweight (kind of like in my avatar). If a guy doesn't want to message me because I don't show my body, that's fine. It hasn't been a problem for me. In fact, the quality of the messages and interactions has gone up considerably since I removed the body pics. 1
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 I'm not sure why you expect guys to take the time to read your profile and "get to know you" after you've stated that you're "just browsing, not looking to date." Maybe the guys are saying "she's not serious about dating anyone, but she looks okay and maybe she happens to be horny tonight, so I'll drop her a note on the slim chance she might want to hook up." Most didnt read the profile at all per how many views it got. And the just looking for friends thing was at the bottom. It would be pretty stupid to message someone who isnt into.FWB for sex but hey life is full of stupid people.
Keenly Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Most didnt read the profile at all per how many views it got. And the just looking for friends thing was at the bottom. It would be pretty stupid to message someone who isnt into.FWB for sex but hey life is full of stupid people. Some one in my thread mentioned setting your profile to private browsing mode. Maybe that's happening? Also, if you use quick match, you can view a profiles information AND send a message without actually visiting your profiles URL, thus not giving you one " view ".
Author BlametheIrish Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 (edited) You using the same username? I'll have to take a look. So if you see some creepy old guy from Ohio look at your profile, no worries, its' just me. And I've never understood the arguing with someone thing. I have a woman who has just blown me off for the second time by not returning phone calls.. She sent me an email on OKC asking why I don't answer her emails now..I feel like lecturing her on proper manners but...I'll pass... Sent you a PM with my username on OKC. Spoiler alert, I've got fishing pics up.there I'm not about to take down lol. Edited February 13, 2014 by BlametheIrish
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