Legitimate Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 (edited) Alright so I'm going to try and sum this up for everyone here as best as I can and I'm new here so I hope this is in the right section . Alright, so my GF broke up with me a few weeks ago and I initially made as many attempts as I could to get her back! I told her my whole life story and gave every reason as to why I acted the way I did during our relationship (I was on medication that effected my ability to think clearly) and she knows this! Yet, she still tells me "how will things be different". I've literally changed because I'm not on medication that makes me bipolar, well anyways now that I've stopped taking prednisone, she has gotten to see the real me over the past 3 weeks and still she doesn't act at all interested in me! I was about to give up hope and then another girl I knew for a long time showed interest in me which made my ex EXTREMELY jealous. She was actually in tears over the cat fight that they had and she WOULD NOT allow me to even be friends with this girl "in case something happened" BUT she still wouldn't take me back! It's like she wants me all to herself, but at the same time DOESN'T want me at all. I'm seriously confused, so three days ago she said she needed time to clear here head and I said that's ok and now we have both gone "no contact". I figured it was basically over, but she displayed jealousy on a GRAND scale. She was in tears over this other girl trying to get to me which showed me she cared but at the same time she WOULD NOT TAKE ME BACK!!!!!! I'm not even allowed to associate myself with this other girl due to her wishes which is fine because I don't want that other girl but at the same time she will not put any title on what we have LOL! Now that's the situation, but I'm going to predict that in the future she texts me saying it's over and she doesn't want me and will expect me to fight her tooth and nail over her decision. What I ask is do I just accept her decision and tell her I'm moving on so she is hit with a curveball? Also, while going no contact is it best to just disappear from all social media, or post how exciting my life is? Do I keep her guessing or what? (PS I know she stalks my twitter and FB LOL). Edited February 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
TheNewMe2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 A girl/woman that is that manipulative and posessive won't end well. Your hear has already been broken by her once. Don't let her do it again. Stand tall, stand strong and move on. Sometimes it's worth fighting for someone when you break-up. However, in this case, I think she'll keep treating you the way she is. I'm sorry buddy.
TaraMaiden Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 She's dumped you. You're broken up. She's your ex-. She has abdicated all and any right to your emotional attachement. She cannot dictate to you who you see, when, why, for how long and whether you can in fact see anyone else or not. She gave up all rights, and lost all privileges. What you do now, is to sever all contact with her, in all and any way shape or form. Read the No Contact Guide in my signature (link). Delete her number off your 'phone, block her so she can neither call nor text you (you may need to download an app for that last one) block her on FB/Twitter and close off all and every means she has to get in touch with you. Sorted.
HappyLove Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Sounds like she's the one who needs meds. She's toying with your emotions. Stop playing the games with her and leave her where she is. She has no say whatsoever in who you date especially if she doesn't want you. I mean as long as it's not a really good friend of hers, who does she think she is? She likes the attention and stringing you along. This is not someone you should chase after or be with EVER! Find a nice girl who doesn't emotionally abuse you.
Author Legitimate Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 A girl/woman that is that manipulative and posessive won't end well. Your hear has already been broken by her once. Don't let her do it again. Stand tall, stand strong and move on. Sometimes it's worth fighting for someone when you break-up. However, in this case, I think she'll keep treating you the way she is. I'm sorry buddy. See that's the thing I feel like she's just power hungry because now she has control and feels like I will never leave her side which is y I think when she says she wants to cut me off I either don't respond or agree with her so then she has a sense of loss. As of right now I have no value to her because she thinks I'm like her toy or something. I still want her back cuz we had a good relationship but post breakup it has been BAD! I just get treated like complete and utter crap but then again I probably deserve it because during the relationship I had trust issues since she had been texting other dudes out of state about all kinds of sexual things and I give her a second chance without even questioning her! I told her to never do it again and she didn't but 1.5 months went by and she still thought I didn't trust her and I accused her of something one day and later found out it wasn't true and she broke up with me over it. I've literally changed tho and she is still acting like she doesn't know me but at the same time she gets super jealous of any other chicks that want to potentially hook up with me. I can't figure out if she still likes me or not but were taking a "space period" where she wants to listen to her heart and I'm just anticipating her answer. I want to know what's a counter tho? If she says its best we move on to just agree? Or not respond and leave her guessing?
TaraMaiden Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 See that's the thing I feel like she's just power hungry because now she has control and feels like I will never leave her side which is y I think when she says she wants to cut me off I either don't respond or agree with her so then she has a sense of loss. As of right now I have no value to her because she thinks I'm like her toy or something. I still want her back cuz we had a good relationship but post breakup it has been BAD! I just get treated like complete and utter crap but then again I probably deserve it because during the relationship I had trust issues since she had been texting other dudes out of state about all kinds of sexual things and I give her a second chance without even questioning her! I told her to never do it again and she didn't but 1.5 months went by and she still thought I didn't trust her and I accused her of something one day and later found out it wasn't true and she broke up with me over it. I've literally changed tho and she is still acting like she doesn't know me but at the same time she gets super jealous of any other chicks that want to potentially hook up with me. I can't figure out if she still likes me or not but were taking a "space period" where she wants to listen to her heart and I'm just anticipating her answer. I want to know what's a counter tho? If she says its best we move on to just agree? Or not respond and leave her guessing? Just read my first post again, and follow that. You are really on a hiding to nothing with this one. The big, BIG, BIGGEST mistake you are making is in trying to second-guess her intentions and mind-read. None of which matters a rat's behind. You know how she treats you. you know how it feels. Juat do as I suggested fer chreissakes and quit trying to analyse everything. It's rather like trying to run with one foot nailed to the floor. It gets you nowhere fast, and just spins you dizzy. Stop over-thinking this. The solution is really extremely simple. Follow my lead.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Oh good grief, run and be glad you dodged a huge bullet. She broke up with you. Move on. She doesn't still like you or you'd still be together. She gets upset when other women talk to you because she's possessive; do NOT confuse that with love. It's a disturbing mind game. She'll leave you high and dry the moment the next guy walks into her life. By the way, how old are both of you? You both seem as though you've got a lot of growing up to do. Relationships will become easier when you're more mature.
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