valerasoy Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Hello everyone! How's the weather treating you? It's horrible over here in the East Coast! First off, I would like to thank whoever replied to my post concerning my ex. It really helped me, and I am happy to say I feel a lot better! Thank you! I have a question and would really appreciate some input or advice. Here's the situation--nothing too big. I have been talking to a guy for almost two months. Most, if not all our exchanges have been through messaging, and once on the phone. For a while, I thought he was interested in me since he asked for my number from a mutual friend of ours. Also, he texts me first and is pretty responsive. Since school started, he doesn't text me as frequent as he did over break. Which is understandable because he has work, school etc. He still manages to text me after three days or so--not pass a week--at least not yet. Yesterday I bumped into him in school, and while he did nod... I don't know I was expecting more of a greeting? I tried not to make a big deal out of it since he was with his friend. Yesterday I was contemplating over whether to ask him if he's interested in me. I did text him last night saying that I wanted to ask him a question. But that's all I said, I didn't actually ask him. He hasn't responded yet, but I'm thinking about just not saying anything. And if he does respond just playing it off. Anyway, my question is how do you feel about women asking men "out"? I'm not really asking him out, but just asking how he feels, or what does he want from me. Thank you!
mammasita Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Nothing wrong with asking a man out. Go for it. HOWEVER, one of my (many) pet peeve(s) is when someone does what you did. "I want to ask you a question" and then you wait......what is the point? How should he respond? What do you expect him to say. NO? Of course he should say OK, right? So just ask, stop procrastinating. If it were me, I'd be so very annoyed and wouldn't respond to that, I'd be waiting for you to ask your question. Rant over - totally not directed at you.....just ranting in general. Please don't take it personal
Author valerasoy Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Nothing wrong with asking a man out. Go for it. HOWEVER, one of my (many) pet peeve(s) is when someone does what you did. "I want to ask you a question" and then you wait......what is the point? How should he respond? What do you expect him to say. NO? Of course he should say OK, right? So just ask, stop procrastinating. If it were me, I'd be so very annoyed and wouldn't respond to that, I'd be waiting for you to ask your question. Rant over - totally not directed at you.....just ranting in general. Please don't take it personal ha, ha. Don't worry about it... Yeah, you're right. Hmm, if I had heard this advice yesterday then I would follow through with a question. But It's going to be kind of weird asking him now especially if he hasn't responded... Thanks! I feel a little more confidant asking. You don't think it comes across as desperate though? I asked my sister and she said she thinks I shouldn't because it comes across as desperate. I don't know how, but I don't want to be desperate either.
MyEvilTwin Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 (edited) Sounds like you need a better feel for this relationship before asking him out. It helps for the situation to be a little clearer, as in, you know for sure that he likes you romantically. Let it progress a little more, is my take on it. But I'm one of those people who prefers to know they are going to get a yes answer. Someone else may not care as much whether they do or not, and just go for it. Has there been any hints of romantic words? looks? gestures? anything? You need that first as a go ahead. Minimum, his eyes need to light up when he runs into you. Edited February 13, 2014 by MyEvilTwin
Author valerasoy Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Sounds like you need a better feel for this relationship before asking him out. It helps for the situation to be a little clearer, as in, you know for sure that he likes you romantically. Let it progress a little more, is my take on it. But I'm one of those people who prefers to know they are going to get a yes answer. Someone else may not care as much whether they do or not, and just go for it. Has there been any hints of romantic words? looks? gestures? anything? You need that first as a go ahead. Minimum, his eyes need to light up when he runs into you. I agree with you. I am also a person who prefers an answer. I feel like people who don't ask and just go with the flow are doing themselves a disservice. I only say this from experience. However, not to be mean, but I really don't want to waste time on a potential player. I thought he would have said something by now? Well, we have flirted with each other, but nothing romantic. It's too early like you said so I can't comment on that, and he did smile at me when we ran into each other. I don't know. We'll see...
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