Rorschach64 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 After 3 years post break up, I finally told my ex to keep my stuff and that we had no longer any business between us then said so long. Additionally, I must admit I kept pictures but I deleted them before I sent the email. I feel good about this and wish I did it 3 years ago....this will no longer be a waste of my energy. 3
Gemini x Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Why did it take 3 years? I'm a month post BU and 3 days NC. I hope to God it doesn't take me 3 years to get over this. I've endured a lifetime of pain in the last 2 weeks.
Sugarkane Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 She really showed her true colours when she refused to give your stuff back. And they think they can do better!
RDawg Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Three years? Oh my word. How much contact have you had with her over the course of the three years? This is fascinating.
Author Rorschach64 Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 It is my own fault for always thinking in the back of my head that she might come back. Holding on to that made up false did it and I'm stupid for being THAT clingy. She must have sent me two emails in regards to an address reques to ship my stuff but she never did. We have not talked else wise, so yes it is befuddling as to what I've been clinging on to all these years.....
bubblesbursted Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 3 years? That was the life of my relationship. It took you 3 years? Now I am scared, I cant take 3 years.
jonsnuh Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I applaud you for having resolved it. In a fit of rage, I threw out everything that had anything to do with her. I've found it difficult to get rid of memories of her though. Especially when it's rooted with resentment. How've you been dealing with those?
Author Rorschach64 Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 There is no set time frame for recovery, obviously, and to be more specific she didn't occupy my mind as much as the first or the second.....she occured less and less over time. What provoked this final measure was I came across an old message where she called me crazy and clingy for not wanting things over and I wished to fight for some one I wanted to marry. So it was sort of a fit of rage but also a call from inside me that demanded respec...and there was none to be had in this situation. I raged destroyed most things like you Jonsnuh but, obnoxiously, it didn't kill the memories, the remorse, the longing, and other such miseries. Only time will erode that.
Sugarkane Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Hopefully one day soon someone will dump her and refuse to give her stuff back, even years later. What a b*tch.
Author Rorschach64 Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 (edited) I think she should experience a few things in her life to teach her to be respectful of others. Hopefully she can learn this without suffering but usually that's what it takes to make great change. I am not suppose to care anymore so...yeah, gonna go ahead and not care Edited February 14, 2014 by Rorschach64
StringsAttached Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 damn man. 3 years is a hell of a long time to be moping over a b*tch who refused to give you your belongngs. But i'm glad you got through that bs. Gratz.
Author Rorschach64 Posted February 14, 2014 Author Posted February 14, 2014 Incoming self defense I wasn't moping everyday over her and yada yada would occasionally think of her in a positive manner that wouldn't let me let go. Unless that IS moping.... anyway, still pretty dumb of me and thank you for the wishes
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