emotionsmessmeup Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 ok...i dont even know wht else to say..feeling soooooo low
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 I hate him.. he has teh ability to disturb me so freaking much... WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYy
greenhorn Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 i dont know whether you have initiated NO CONTACT or not but i have done NC and it is 5th week. I feel better but once every week i get relapses and try to see answers to same questions as you are having Why she did to me? why she lied? why she cheated? why she betrayed? what was i lacking? But there are answers,i guess we were wrong in the first place to make ourself so weak for others.We took the risk in taking our protection off and now paying the price. You will not get any answers but if you think over it i am sure you will get some way to console yourself but there is a caution this thinking should be having "Moving on" orientation. I guess my words helps you.LS is like this only we all are hurt and in pain but we all try to help each other.
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 i did initiate no contact but he ws th eone trying to talk to me.. i thought maybe he wants to get back..he started talking 3-4 days regularly day n night.. after which i asked wht do u want..and he said he just wanted to be friends... other than that i learnt fro him that he was trying to see someone... i got so furious..i told him first of all i can never be a friend.. and i told him, i am very jealous and insecure and sinc ewe haev broken up..I need to stay away from him so that I can move on and learn to live on my own. i told him i need to stop the communication now, coz i will become sick otherwise... there has been no contact since
savethedrama4allama Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 You guys may be miserable, but if you are having no contact your exes probably don't know that. Do everything you can to focus on yourself right now...except for a few close confidants, make everyone believe you are doing fine and living it up (including your ex in case you run into him/her). Pretending is sometimes unhealthy, but in this case it always worked for me. If I acted happy, and did good things for myself, pretty soon I was happy. And thinking about yourself sure beats the crap of thinking about them for another second, doesn't it? Moving on is like going swimming...you have to muster your faith and jump in feet first. You have your close friends waiting below to help you if you struggle, but the rest of the world will think you're having fun taking the plunge.
greenhorn Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 dear NO CONTACT is the best thing though it is difficult. I tried NC many times first time it lasted for 2 weeks then i caved in and next time it lasted 3 weeks again i caved in and this time it is 5th week and the hurt and pain this time is giving me the strength to carry on and this time my heart says it is forever.Even if she comes back i am not going to get into the relationship cause i have realised that i also have a little bit of self respect and i cant allow myself to be treated as scumbag.If still i get some kind of feeling it will be compassion and not love. You know i gave myself ample time it was like from past one year i was thinking should i break off or not she would treat me badly then next day she would say few sweet words and again i would start it afresh only to hurt again.I thought that i wont be able to live if i do NC. But now it is NC it hurts ,it wreches i writhe but it is better than daily crying and daily humiliation. So my earnest suggestion is that please keep NC and try to move on ..start in the direction of healing. i wont be able to write more today i think.... but keep posting here sometimes it helps to vent out your feelings and the suggestions ppl give here really helps take care
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 wehenever u r are on loveshack again.. whts ur story greenhorn?
greenhorn Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Yesterday i was feeling too low so didnt continue posting.I tried to go to sleep but woke up after 4 hours only. Well i came to this post days before my break up when i was sure that i am heading for breakup.Mine is a long story of 7 years.This forum is like my diary where i have written happenings of each day.You can find them on this post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t52334/ . Right now i am trying to cope up but i do get relapses which push me again to zero position. But i am trying............... Good Luck.
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