DeadRhino Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 So about 2 weeks ago I met someone online. She is 33 female I'm 29 male. It was a by chance encounter not a dating site type deal. We hit it off pretty good and exchanged numbers. We texted back and forth just a couple messages always just chit chat and small talk never talked about dating or anything. This went on for about 2 days then one day she called so I answer and find out she dialed me by mistake meant to dial someone else. It was the first time I heard her voice she sounded cute. She apologized and went to hang up but before she did I asked her if she would like to meet up sometime and hang out. She said that sounded good and went on to tell me her car broke down and she meant to get ahold of her friend for a ride to the store. I told her if it's not too awkward I wouldn't mind giving her a ride and she actually agreed and told me where I could pick her up. I got really nervous while driving to a strangers house but I thought eh whatever if anything weird comes up I can just leave. I get there and she turns out to be very pretty and nice but we were both pretty nervous so it was kind of awkward until the ride back to her place then we opened up a little and when I dropped her off we agreed to meet up again sometime. We just sent 1 or 2 texts after that*then a couple days later the weather got really really bad snow storm and negative 20 something wind chills and I knew her car was still down so I texted and said if she needs me to pick anything up for her to let me know. She was very grateful and asked if I would get a couple things for her which I had no problem with and I took them to her place. This time I stayed over for about an hour and it went really well. We talked she said thank you idk how many times and gave me a hug as I went to leave. We texted everyday after that, not frequently but about 4 or 5 texts a day. Then late Sunday night out of the blue she sends me a message and says she is lonely do I want to come over and keep her company...hell yeah I do! Lol. I said sure, went over and we really hit it off this time. We laughed, joked around, talked and watched TV on her couch. It was going good. Then about 3 or 4 in the morning neither one of us seemed tired but I told her I didn't want to keep her up and she told me I'm not going anywhere until she says so. She laid her head in my lap and I rubbed her back until she started to fall asleep...then she got up and put something away, comes back and things just started to really heat up and we went for it. Unfortunately things went bad at that point..I never had an issue with this before but I had some performance anxiety and couldn't get it going. It got extremely awkward after that and her whole attitude changed. She was really upset to the point of seeming angry. It was her body language and expressions that said it all we didn't actually say much at all right then. I was really embarrassed. I could tell she wanted me to leave so I did. There was no good bye or nothing I was humiliated. I decided to wait for her to contact me after that IF there was any chance of smoothing that over thought I should wait for her to be ready plus I don't know what the hell I'm supposed to say after that, you know? No surprise here she hasn't made any attempt to contact me since. I keep looking at my phone hoping to hear back even though I know full well it's not gonna happen. I keep laughing at myself and calling myself an idiot for thinking she will ever msg me back but I can't stop looking and waiting! To make matters worse in the days since that night I lost my job and someone stole my debit card info cleaned out my account. I'll get another job and I have fraud protection so I'll get the money back but still I have other things to focus on idk why SHE is all I seem to care about right now. I obviously have more pressing problems that need attention. She will NEVER text or call so how do I accept this and move on? How do I stop thinking about her? I need to get over this! It's only been 3 days but its really taking its toll. Thank you and sorry for the long post.*
lionheart153 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Dude, not to sound rude, but you met each other 2 weeks ago. Just count it as a fling and move on. It didn't work, get over it. Your posting on a forum where people have lost there loved ones after 8 years of dating or even marriage. Seriously 2 weeks isn't anything, she cleary isn't worthy of your time and you will find someone else. 2
Author DeadRhino Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 I know what you're saying and I don't mean any disrespect to anyone else dealing with their problems. I guess what happened isn't really the issue it's how it's affecting me that is. I just want it out of my head that's all. I know it shouldn't be a big deal but realizing that honestly isn't helping at all. This was a bad idea and just made it way worse. I need to look into obsessive behaviors instead of break up advice I apologize for the disruption.
CaliGypsy Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Maybe she took it personally? Thought you didn't find her attractive. If you really like her.. You could try calling her? Maybe slow the physical stuff down a little. I can understand why you might have felt anxious in that situation
LostConfused123 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Maybe she took it personally? Thought you didn't find her attractive. If you really like her.. You could try calling her? Maybe slow the physical stuff down a little. I can understand why you might have felt anxious in that situation That was my first thought. That she thinks it's her. I would try talking to her. Best of luck!! 1
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