Tulip23 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I've been in an on/off relationship for 3 years. My ex cheated, lied, and used me (he would make pity stories for me to feel sorry for him so I would give him money). I forgave him numerous times for unspeakable things (he once faked someone's death to cover his crying when the girl on the side threatened to tell me). It's almost like a cycle, he'll mess up then do his own thing and then beg me back when things don't work out in his life or he gets lonely. Then when he has me and gets content or bored, he'll start the cycle up again and either start cheating or make up a random excuse to break up with me and blame everything on me so he can do his single thing. Most recent, he did the latter. He said I was a terrible person and he hated me, even though I had let him move in with me and he had been mooching off of me for 5 months. I do see this break as a blessing from God because I obviously have self worth issues that I need to work out so I stop settling. But I can't help but feel some sort of injustice in this situation because I gave and gave and he threw it in my face with a big F YOU and now it seems like his life is getting more exciting. He's a personal trainer and has all these new females that he's working with and he joined a new minor football league and is just getting all this attention and seems to be doing better than when I was in his life. I hate wishing unhappiness on someone but its unfair for someone to use an individual and then move on like nothing. I do count my blessings because I am in my last semester in law school and will be graduating soon but I hate that his social life is booming and its like he never even skipped a beat. We've been NC for 1 month which is the longest of NC (the last breakup we were broken up for 2.5 months but only NC for 1 month). I know I need to focus on me and live a happy life of my own but isn't karma supposed get people like that? I'm just so frustrated and can't stop obsessing about it. He unblocked me on fb 2 days ago and it was like the highlight of my week…pathetic I know…. Karma isn't a b****, at least in this case 1
pickflicker Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 No. That's not what karma is. There is no such thing as the cosmic bitch-slap. There's only picking yourself up and moving forward.
crazybestie101 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 You know what i also think same sometimes for my current ex. But thats not always true. My last ex got his lesson after 4 YEARS but it was lesson of his life. Thank goodness i never waited around and moved on. When it happens , it may be in few weeks , months or even years. Why worry about it? And see if you think you were treated wrong , Let time do its work. Start living , life is precious why waste on someone who doesnt care about us any more.. 2
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