Just saw or bumped into an ex?

[EdG]

I live a mile or two away from my ex girlfriend, however our commutes to work are relatively similar, meaning I've now seen her twice in the last week.

 

We broke up 5 months ago and haven't spoken at all for the last 4 months.

 

The first time I saw her was last Tuesday when I was on the train home and she got on a door down from where I was sat. It was a busy train so I don't think she saw me. I kept me head down as my heart pounded. ha!

 

Today I was cycling to work and I rode passed her. Adrenaline running through me I called out her name to say "hello"...Ha. Not sure how smart that was. I only saw her for a split second as I cycled past in busy traffic, it seemed she didn't know where the call came from.

 

Anyway, I sent her an email saying hello and that I've seen her a few times recently and hope she's well and the call out didn't confuse her too much. Not sure why I sent the email to be honest. Seeing her made me want to say hello, so I suppose that's what I did.

 

No reply yet. Not too fussed if she doesn't respond. We ended things amicably, so no love lost/gained either way. Perhaps pride is all. Looking back, perhaps I shouldn't have sent it, but hey, as long as it doesn't cause any pain either way then it's all good and I thought it might break the ice for the inevitable time I see her and we 'have' to chat.

 

Just thought I'd share this random story with you, perhaps to get it off my chest too, and feel free to share your story of bumping into/seeing your ex too if it helps makes sense of it... :-)

[herself]

I feel since she has not contacted you, that speaks volumes you know?

But also, her taking the time to answer today if at all says to me she is conflicted about any contact and MUCH more time was needed on both ends to heal.

I can understand you reaching out cause seeing her made you curious and miss her more.

Hope you will be ok.

If SHE was dumper though, it was up to her to reach out.

If you were...u just sent her a breadcrumb.

Meaning if you were gonna break nc, you should have said more, it seems what you DID say almost doesnt warrant a reply ya know?

[EdG]

Yeah, looking back I perhaps shouldn't have sent the email. There should have been more time between contact, but seeing her twice in a week just made me want to say hello. It's bound to continue happening also.

 

Technically she dumped me, but it wasn't as clean cut as that. The last contact I had from her was about 4 months ago when she replied to a birthday email I sent her. I didn't respond to her reply at the time as I didn't feel it was necessary for us to continue the dialog.

 

Oh well, maybe I made a mistake sending the email, but never mind, I am not going to lose sleep at all if she doesn't respond and I don't think receiving an email from me will upset her too much at the moment either. It has been 4-5 months and we only went out for 10 months in total.

 

Feel a little silly if she doesn't reply, but that wound will heal quickly as she won't be replying for the right reasons.

 

I feel since she has not contacted you, that speaks volumes you know?

But also, her taking the time to answer today if at all says to me she is conflicted about any contact and MUCH more time was needed on both ends to heal.

I can understand you reaching out cause seeing her made you curious and miss her more.

Hope you will be ok.

If SHE was dumper though, it was up to her to reach out.

If you were...u just sent her a breadcrumb.

Meaning if you were gonna break nc, you should have said more, it seems what you DID say almost doesnt warrant a reply ya know?

[EdG]

Yeah, I see your point re "doesn't warrant" a reply, etc. If I was her I possibly wouldn't reply, either at all, or at least for a little bit as I thought through the conflicting thoughts. Oh well, it wasn't an email to start a long convo or an attempt at getting her attention, and I genuinely won't feel upset if she doesn't reply, I may just have a slight dent in my pride. Thanks for your input!

 

I feel since she has not contacted you, that speaks volumes you know?

But also, her taking the time to answer today if at all says to me she is conflicted about any contact and MUCH more time was needed on both ends to heal.

I can understand you reaching out cause seeing her made you curious and miss her more.

Hope you will be ok.

If SHE was dumper though, it was up to her to reach out.

If you were...u just sent her a breadcrumb.

Meaning if you were gonna break nc, you should have said more, it seems what you DID say almost doesnt warrant a reply ya know?