No Limit Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Even mentioning this straight away is a giant red flag. It's like "now that we're together, we should talk about our rules for meeting others" and in my opinion it's his backdoor should he find an opportunity to cheat. And what about 'emergencies'? "Hey, my car is dead and I'm waiting here in the middle of nowhere, can you pick me up?" - "Sorry, he's got the car right now and I have no clue where he is or when he'll be back. Good luck." Maybe not the best example, but I hope you know what I mean.
VeronicaRoss Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) There is a process called 'grooming' where addicts and/or abusers will invest energy, extravagant gestures and words and time getting the trust of a partner and then slowly introduce unacceptable behavior, testing the limits to see how much they'll get away with. They'll say 'hey I'm so great to you, love you so much, why is it you won't trust me?' And then they go further. I agree with Cali letting people know where you are is a common courtesy. Especially when you're out drinking in places designed (thanks low lights, music and alcohol) for hooking up! Curious if you have talked with the ex. I suspect if you spoke with her you'd learn a lot about him. But I think you already know enough, what he's asking for is license to hide stuff from you. Run, run, run. Edited February 15, 2014 by VeronicaRoss
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