sportynut38 Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 I had today off so my daughters and I were doing all the things we should have been doing yesterday instead of goofing off. We had gotten laundry done, was hitting the grocery store and then home for another fun filled night of whatevers. My daughter says "Mom, MOM! Turn around" so I turn around and there HE is, leaning against the aisle like he has nothing better to do than to smile at me and make me go all shaky and nervous. It's been four weeks now since he said he couldn't see me, needed time and space, a full week since the last time I tried to contact him. He asks how I am doing, I shrug and say fine, yourself and says he is doing ok. Says he was going to call me tonight. I said really, funny, heard that one before. Says he wants my new cell phone number and is it the number that has been popping up on his phone? No I reply, I haven't called you for a while now, and when I went to give the new phone number ... I couldn't think! Had to get it off the dratted new cell phone. I am shaking, terribly so, and he notices ... asks if I am cold. Nope. Oh he says, smiling, it must be me!!! Ugh Yes its YOU! Tells me that his kids miss me, that they ask about me and wonder how I am doing. Repeatedly says that he is going to call tonight ... and then it's time for me to go. I forget everything I was suppose to be shopping for and hightail it out of there. And here it is, after twelve and still no call. Simply amazing how funny fate thinks she is I thought I was doing so well, and now I feel as if I have to start all over again getting a grip on myself. Darn I wish I didn't miss him so!
chica Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 ooooh I remember that feeling The most annoying thing is that there's always a "good reason" why they didn't call when they said they would and you just want to be close even though you feel ripped off... I hope you two get it together again if he is truly what you deserve chica
KaiaMahina Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 sportynut, I don't think Fate has anything to do with this one. I may be wrong, but just from the way you've described the encounter, this guy comes off as incredibly self-assured (borderline arrogant) and seems to enjoy the effect his presence has on you. Given that he can see you trembling simply from being near him, I think it was childish and mean-spirited to tell you that he's going to call you...and then leave you hanging. This smacks of some kind of soap operatic game. I mean, first he's leaning there smiling at you. Then he's asking if it's YOU who's been calling (letting you know in a subtle way that "someone" has been repeatedly calling him), then asking if you're "cold" when it's quite obvious that you're shaking because you're nervous and unstrung. So much so that you don't finish your shopping because you're wound too tight! He ties up the whole package with a neat little bow of leaving you sitting by the phone. I dunno...bet you would have gotten a call if, instead of engaging with him, you had merely glanced at him when his daughter brought your attention to him, smiled in a friendly way, and continued with your shopping. If indeed, you really want a call from someone who does things like this. Maybe I've got it all wrong, because I don't know any of the circumstances...but your grocery store scenario is a little disturbing.
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