Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I believe they are. I say this because they don't even seem to look. I NEVER get "profile visitors", ever. This is not counting women I have messaged first. Of course they will look.... sometimes . But usually it seems a woman just puts up one to four pictures, writes "ask me anything you want to know " and then quite lazily sits back and does absolutely nothing. The searching is non existent. The analyzing profiles doesn't happen. Even the messages themselves just reek of laziness. I'm seriously tempted to throw away another 40 or so dollars to use a paid site again, one that I know for a fact won't work because they have the same problem. Ladies, please tell me I'm wrong.
Allumere Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 When I am serious about it and my profile is live...I look at tons of profiles. When I am not serious or ready and just bored, I look but guys can't tell as I keep my profile hidden. WHy look when not ready? Its a test for me....like now, no one is remotely attractive, no profile is of interest. When I start noticing the guys, then it's time.
edgygirl Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Why would we make the effort when we get 20 messages per day from, well, quite interesting guys? The truth is, on dating sites, we decide. But then you guys usually have the power when it comes to deciding whether to become committed after you go on a few dates with someone. I prefer the power guys have over the one we have, to be quite honest. Wanna exchange? I believe they are. I say this because they don't even seem to look. I NEVER get "profile visitors", ever. This is not counting women I have messaged first. Of course they will look.... sometimes . But usually it seems a woman just puts up one to four pictures, writes "ask me anything you want to know " and then quite lazily sits back and does absolutely nothing. The searching is non existent. The analyzing profiles doesn't happen. Even the messages themselves just reek of laziness. I'm seriously tempted to throw away another 40 or so dollars to use a paid site again, one that I know for a fact won't work because they have the same problem. Ladies, please tell me I'm wrong. 2
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Why would we make the effort when we get 20 messages per day from, well, quite interesting guys? The truth is, on dating sites, we decide. But then you guys usually have the power when it comes to deciding whether to become committed after you go on a few dates with someone. I prefer the power guys have over the one we have, to be quite honest. Wanna exchange? Yeah I would I'm confident in my ability to attract and keep a mate. Meeting one... not so much . 1
ja123 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I was not lazy when I used OLD (pof, okcupid). Sorry to hear that you're having trouble. You're a catch. Those ladies are missing their chance! Seriously, though, I wonder how many of the profiles are real.
edgygirl Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I'm confident in my ability to attract and meet people. No problem there. Keeping one... not so much. LOL Yeah I would I'm confident in my ability to attract and keep a mate. Meeting one... not so much . 1
Tayken Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Why would we make the effort when we get 20 messages per day from, well, quite interesting guys? The truth is, on dating sites, we decide. But then you guys usually have the power when it comes to deciding whether to become committed after you go on a few dates with someone. I prefer the power guys have over the one we have, to be quite honest. Wanna exchange? Not really....knowing that after every 2nd date you go on, the guys is ready to bang you / get some to gauge what sex will be like if he commits @OP..... You are right, and I think someone mentioned it above, that why should they when guys send them messages anyway. I think the women also thing if they message first, the guy will think they are cheap I like how the women with all the power they have on dating sites, still manage to not think with their head, and end up coming back again and again because that Brad Pitt they picked, turned out to be married / just after sex only
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 I say this because I feel like of they aren't looking, they aren't serious about actually meeting anyone, and are doing it for the feel good factor.
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 I was not lazy when I used OLD (pof, okcupid). Sorry to hear that you're having trouble. You're a catch. Those ladies are missing their chance! Seriously, though, I wonder how many of the profiles are real. Thank you. This site has done wonders for my self esteem actually hearing some one say stuff like that. Silence your whole life on whether or not people find you attractive physically or personality wise leaves the mind to wander.
Tayken Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I have met a lot of women on pof....some we took it to 3rd base, some it was on the same night, and some I just decided nope. I am more attracted to the career types / solid jobs.....don't really get caught up on looks Banging body is more sexy that a cute face personally
ja123 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Thank you. This site has done wonders for my self esteem actually hearing some one say stuff like that. Silence your whole life on whether or not people find you attractive physically or personality wise leaves the mind to wander. The compliment is sincere. I've seen your posts and you're one of the good ones! Try not to let your mind wander when using OLD. I know, it's hard not to. At least on this site we're not trying to date! haha OLD is skewed, though. Most people, IMO, on OLD are flakes. If I ever go back on OLD, then it'll be as an adjunct to real life, and I'll try not to check my profile every day (willpower!), but maybe just once a week. For the time being, I'm staying off of it ... guess I'm just not ready to have a real relationship, so I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time...
Tayken Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 The compliment is sincere. I've seen your posts and you're one of the good ones! Try not to let your mind wander when using OLD. I know, it's hard not to. At least on this site we're not trying to date! haha OLD is skewed, though. Most people, IMO, on OLD are flakes. If I ever go back on OLD, then it'll be as an adjunct to real life, and I'll try not to check my profile every day (willpower!), but maybe just once a week. For the time being, I'm staying off of it ... guess I'm just not ready to have a real relationship, so I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time... Speak for yourself Speaking of which...how you doing? 1
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 OLD is awful. You've all seen me say it a billion times. Problem is is that I don't go out. I'd LOVE To go out with a date / girlfriend. I'd go anywhere and everywhere. But I'm not about to go alone. All of my friends are just like me. Shut ins. Nerds. Gamers. We all congregate together. I have one friend that likes to go out but he always wants to go to bars and clubs, which are not my thing AT ALL. I'm not down to go to what amounts to the African savannah of meeting people. I'd like to go to a club with a woman, but I don't want to go to one looking for a woman. I also don't like bars because I get bored so easily. I can do pool halls or things where my mind is engaged (, hence my love for beer pong ) but I can't just drink and talk with random strangers. So I go back to OLD because without it I don't really meet anyone.
SunnySide0418 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Thank you. This site has done wonders for my self esteem actually hearing some one say stuff like that. Silence your whole life on whether or not people find you attractive physically or personality wise leaves the mind to wander. Based off your picture .. I think you're pretty hot!! 1
Tayken Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Have you tried the grocery stores / Costco, bookstores and libraries? I usually do the eye contact, smile and start a friend chat with women at these places after have checked their wedding finger to make sure there is no ring
pickflicker Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 OLD is awful. You've all seen me say it a billion times. Problem is is that I don't go out. I'd LOVE To go out with a date / girlfriend. I'd go anywhere and everywhere. But I'm not about to go alone. All of my friends are just like me. Shut ins. Nerds. Gamers. We all congregate together. I have one friend that likes to go out but he always wants to go to bars and clubs, which are not my thing AT ALL. I'm not down to go to what amounts to the African savannah of meeting people. I'd like to go to a club with a woman, but I don't want to go to one looking for a woman. I also don't like bars because I get bored so easily. I can do pool halls or things where my mind is engaged (, hence my love for beer pong ) but I can't just drink and talk with random strangers. So I go back to OLD because without it I don't really meet anyone. Well then, it sounds like you need to make some new friends, or bite the bullet and go out by yourself. I go to concerts by myself all the time. It's easy to strike up a conversation whilst you're standing in line waiting for the doors to open. Change it up, or stick with OLD, but don't complain...
lino Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Majority of women are like that in real life, so it shouldn't be a huge surprise they're like that online. I've never used online dating but it sounds like a dead set nightmare for blokes. If I was you, I'd look out for other ways to meet girls. Do you go to many parties? That's been my most successful way to meet women for pretty much ever. They're also lazy in that setting too Just have to accept that as a man, you're doing 99% of the leg work.
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Majority of women are like that in real life, so it shouldn't be a huge surprise they're like that online. I've never used online dating but it sounds like a dead set nightmare for blokes. If I was you, I'd look out for other ways to meet girls. Do you go to many parties? That's been my most successful way to meet women for pretty much ever. They're also lazy in that setting too Just have to accept that as a man, you're doing 99% of the leg work. I'm not too big on parties. Actually to be honest I really like them when its a bunch of MY friends that I know, but I can't stand going to a complete strangers house, where I know one, MAYBE two of the 15 people crammed into one room. Beer pong helps me socialize, a LOT. I'm really shy in certain situations, particularly when I'm outnumbered by total strangers. As far as grocery stores, the one I frequent is walmart. Not exactly an ideal selection. Any time I am forced to interact with a girl I find cute (checkout, food ordering, etc) I always try and be funny or something to make her smile (I'll be honest actually, if its fast food and its a girl, I usually always compliment her on SOMEthing, because that job sucks and I know it will make her whole day, so even if she is morbidly obese I'll usually say I like her hair or eyes or something) but I remember I used to always get super embarrassed when my dad would flirt with girls that were working. Now I see what he was doing. It's easy as hell. Approaching a random stranger though? Not happening. I know it works pretty good sometimes, but that is NOT who I am as a person, and I don't want to set pretenses of something that I am not. Sure is one sticky wicket. Every girlfriend I've ever had kind of fell into my lap, so patience and distraction might be the path I'll need to travel.
Phoe Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I personally was not lazy with OLD. I made a point of doing my own browsing of profiles instead of just sitting back and waiting.
Eggplant Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Yes, you are exactly right. I only looked at the profiles of people who messaged me first. Never browsed. And I found a great guy, but I was moving away. I may do OLD again, and I plan on being equally lazy, as it worked great. 1
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 (edited) I personally was not lazy with OLD. I made a point of doing my own browsing of profiles instead of just sitting back and waiting. You know you were a statistical anomaly But seriously though. I understand the waiting because of the abundance in that sense, but the responses? Oh man. Getting an actual conversation going is extremely difficult when one party is less than receptive. Edited February 12, 2014 by Keenly 1
Shosh Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Ladies, please tell me I'm wrong. You are wrong. When I do OLD my profile is half a novel with lots of pictures. While I usually don't contact guys first - sorry, old fashioned here - I do look at many profiles with the hope of showing up in the guy's matches and he will contact me and I also do the rating of profiles thing.
StanMusial Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 OLD is awful. You've all seen me say it a billion times. Problem is is that I don't go out. I'd LOVE To go out with a date / girlfriend. I'd go anywhere and everywhere. But I'm not about to go alone. All of my friends are just like me. Shut ins. Nerds. Gamers. We all congregate together. I have one friend that likes to go out but he always wants to go to bars and clubs, which are not my thing AT ALL. I'm not down to go to what amounts to the African savannah of meeting people. I'd like to go to a club with a woman, but I don't want to go to one looking for a woman. I also don't like bars because I get bored so easily. I can do pool halls or things where my mind is engaged (, hence my love for beer pong ) but I can't just drink and talk with random strangers. So I go back to OLD because without it I don't really meet anyone. How old are you Keenly, mid 20's? You are limiting yourself severely. Honestly bro I wonder if you're not the lazy one. 3
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 You are wrong. When I do OLD my profile is half a novel with lots of pictures. While I usually don't contact guys first - sorry, old fashioned here - I do look at many profiles with the hope of showing up in the guy's matches and he will contact me and I also do the rating of profiles thing. Now now, you wouldn't happen to be hiding behind the old fashioned excuse because you are afraid to, would you?
Author Keenly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 How old are you Keenly, mid 20's? You are limiting yourself severely. Honestly bro I wonder if you're not the lazy one. I don't do well in those environments. Hardly the ideal projection of myself. I need a friend that goes, that isn't the one I was talking about. He... He isn't a very good wing man, he is too enthusiastic. What I need is another friend. I do limit myself a lot though. I'm kind of routine based. I need to fix this immediately.
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