robbysurfs Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 Yeah i miss it too especially on a day like today snowy,icy,rainy. We would cuddle every night before bed it was sweet and she would fall asleep on my chest sometimes. She snored like a freight train but I didn't care I loved her so. I am glad I got to experience it too, maybe one day I will experience it again. 1
radiodarcy Posted February 14, 2014 Posted February 14, 2014 I used to have a thing where I would go and lay on the bed and stretch out with a cheeky smile waiting for my ex to jump on me for snuggles. It was a nice stretch and cuddles ritual. Sometimes we'd end up falling to sleep it was so comfy. I miss making a moustache on my face with her long hair. I can't sleep on a bed any more because it just reminds me and I couldn't sleep at night. So now I sleep on the floor or a yoga mat to help disconnect from all those snuggly nights in bed. Sort of like NC for cuddling. I'm still glad I got to experience it in my life but I wouldn't ever except her to reject me like she did. Sometimes I wish I never met her. I think that's one of the reasons I really don't enjoy cuddling. I've had too many experiences of cuddling with someone only to be rejected by them. The disparity between the two is so stark and one that I just can't wrap my head around. So I'd rather not do it at all.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Do you mean rejected cuddling or rejected as in broken up? I'd rather not do it any more though too I know what you mean about the contrast.
Raena Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) Ooooh this post really got me. It's been snowing like the dickens here the past few days (almost 2 1/2 feet total) and all I can think about it how empty my bed is and how we used to spend days like this in bed together. I miss the cuddles too. I wouldn't touch him if I was paid to do it now but OMG do I miss the cuddles. It was always the same. Either me snugged up to his back with my leg between his legs and an arm over him, or him spooning me with his leg thrown over me. I'd then have to force him to take his tree trunk off of me, so then he'd put his leg between my legs. We always had our feet intertwined too, rubbing them together. It almost always involved him putting his hand on my breast and cupping it too. One other thing he always did that annoyed the crap out of me... every time I'd go to get up out of the bed, he'd grab onto my underpants or whatever I was wearing and pull me back down. Oh he would laugh and laugh and laugh every time he did it. I hated it. Now every time I go to get up and there is no one there yanking me back down it makes me sad. It's so sad now. I lay in bed and it feels sooo cold. All the pillows in the world don't make up for the feel of him next to me. I lay there and sometimes I swear it feels like the room is spinning and I'm sinking into the bed. It's the weight of reality smashing down on me. I get how you feel. Really I do. I just keep hoping that with time I'll find a new snuggle bunny and we'll make new memories together. You will too. Edited February 15, 2014 by Raena 1
Xemyd Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 every time I'd go to get up out of the bed, he'd grab onto my underpants or whatever I was wearing and pull me back down. Oh he would laugh and laugh and laugh every time he did it. Mine did that too. He was such a child sometimes. If I was wearing PJs with strings on them he'd always be undoing it or tugging on them. It never really bothered me though. Except the one time he pulled the entire string out.
Raena Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Mine did that too. He was such a child sometimes. If I was wearing PJs with strings on them he'd always be undoing it or tugging on them. It never really bothered me though. Except the one time he pulled the entire string out. I may have thought it cute the first couple of times, but after that it was annoying. But... I did laugh at how much he laughed about it so he kept on doing it. It was a foolish little thing we did. I'd act all exasperated and he'd snicker about it and keep doing it. Just like every time we passed each other (in private) he'd put his hand under my breast and bounce it and I'd chase him to do the same back to him (but not his breast). He'd cackle about that too. As much as he hurt me, we did have some fun times together. It's hard to think of them right now though.
Raena Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I know I'm gonna sound crazy, but I'm not big on cuddling! Makes me feel suffocated haha. I'm more happy to be laying near/next to him, being very close, maybe touching a little bit, but NOT cuddled. I dated a guy once who made a huge point of telling me he felt the same way as you do. I liked him a lot but I knew right then and there that it wasn't going to work out for me. I need the cuddles. Any man who only wants to touch me when we have sex just isn't the right guy for me. Not saying it's wrong... just saying it was one of those turn off things for me. Or maybe it was the way he said it... "my not wanting to snuggle has been a huge issue for me in the past, but it's the way I am so you'll have to deal with it". I thought to myself... umm no, I don't have to deal with it! See ya! It didn't walk away just because of it though... there were other reasons.
Raena Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I always have dreams of us cuddling, and it seems so real, when I wake up it feels like he's there, but then I turn around and he's not. Hasn't been for 6 months. These are the worst. That happens to me sometimes too. It's that early morning or middle of the night, half awake half dreaming state. I roll over to snuggle up with him and realize he isn't there, that I was just dreaming it. Or, I wake up from dreaming about him and feel like he's right there with me only to realize it's just the cat laying on me and a pillow behind me. It's all I can do to fight back the tears when I realize it isn't him and it will never be again. Then I berate myself for missing him. He treated me like such crap in the end. There is absolutely NO reason why I should be missing him. 1
ScarlettDaisy Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I never liked cuddling with my exH. I didn't find it comfortable and I just couldn't relax. Now my FWB, I could cuddle up with him for hours. I have no idea what is different but boy, do I miss it when i don't see him for awhile.
STM206 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Cuddling was one of my favorite things. <3 the sex is great but there's nothing more intimate than feeling someone next to you in bed. 2
Xemyd Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Last night was horrible. I missed the feeling of him being right next to me. I miss falling asleep with my head buried in his chest. I ended up setting my pillow up beside me to finally get to sleep. 1
Author AnyaNova Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 This subject always seems to strike a chord with people, as I found out the in the first one. Thanks guys for all your replies! It is nice to know that others really struggle with this as well. Tonight I am really missing them from someone super trusted. I'm going through something tonight and I really really just want a man I know on a deep gut level is safe to just hold me. 1
Els Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Cuddles are one of the favourite parts of a relationship for me. Especially cuddling before falling asleep in each others' arms - that's the best bit. OP, I sympathize with your desire, I really do. When I went through previous breakups, that was the hardest part for me too, and the part that I missed the most. All I can say is, stay strong and have faith. Keep on building your life and meeting people.
Under The Radar Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Cuddling is awesome ...... as long as I don't have to become a knee pillow for 12 hours straight! I tell ya, being a knee pillow, under an extremely warm blanket, is a novelty that wears off quickly. Hopefully, this doesn't turn into a phobia .
newmoon Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I missed the cuddling so bad after my break-up 6 months ago that I had to find a platonic (single) friend who was also cuddle-deprived. I guess it's a FWB cuddling thing only because that's all we do - we cuddle on the sofa and it makes me (and him) so relaxed and happy. It feels better when you love the person of course, but it still feels good enough to indulge in with someone 'safe.' We're human, we all need touch.
Woggle Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I love cuddling as well but until the last couple of years I was afraid to do it with my wife. I thought she would lose sexual attraction for me if she saw me as a cuddly man but it didn't happen.
Raena Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I missed the cuddling so bad after my break-up 6 months ago that I had to find a platonic (single) friend who was also cuddle-deprived. I guess it's a FWB cuddling thing only because that's all we do - we cuddle on the sofa and it makes me (and him) so relaxed and happy. It feels better when you love the person of course, but it still feels good enough to indulge in with someone 'safe.' We're human, we all need touch. I need one of those!
lollipopspot Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 No one here has a cuddly cat or dog? 1
Under The Radar Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 No one here has a cuddly cat or dog? I believe Anya has a cat (though, I could be mistaken), but it's not the same as snuggling with a human. 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 my cat lays on my chest/back and we fall asleep. humans can't purr hehehehe.
im_thedude Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I would like to do some cuddling of the Ron Jeremy variety, The Dude
Author AnyaNova Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I would like to do some cuddling of the Ron Jeremy variety, The Dude ??? Clarification please? :-)
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I miss this the most. Everything was so peaceful when cuddling. 1
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