lastking Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Broke up with Ex girlfriend close to 8 months ago. We were together for 8 and half years. I have tried to talk to her about getting back together but she says that she has moved on. Once in a while I will call or text her and she will mention/complain that she doesn't hear from me but when I talk to her she says that she has moved on. Should I call her more or keep no contact?....Thank you update: I suggested that we meet up for coffee recently and she agreed but not sure whether any of this is a positive sign. Most likely not:) I was also surprised to see that she still has a bunch of pictures of me and her on facebook.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Broke up with Ex girlfriend close to 8 months ago. We were together for 8 and half years. I have tried to talk to her about getting back together but she says that she has moved on. Once in a while I will call or text her and she will mention/complain that she doesn't hear from me but when I talk to her she says that she has moved on. Should I call her more or keep no contact?....Thank you update: I suggested that we meet up for coffee recently and she agreed but not sure whether any of this is a positive sign. Most likely not:) I was also surprised to see that she still has a bunch of pictures of me and her on facebook. Everything you are doing, do the exact opposite of lol. Calling her MORE is only going to push her away MORE than she already is. She has made it clear she doesnt want a relationship with you. Nothing else matters. A coffee meeting is a bad idea straight up and down. You are firmly planting the seeds to be in the friendzone though, so if you are cool with never dating again and just being that BFF, then by all means. I doubt thats what you want. 1
allcriedout1 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Why did you break up with her? My ex and I were together for a little over 8 years and he broke up with me 4 months ago. He was trying to be just my friends in Dec and Jan because he misses hanging out but I cant just be friends after having a loving relationship with him. I am wondering why you have changed your mind and now are trying to reconnect with her? I have been 14 days NC and have a feeling my ex wont contact me again because he wont want to give me the wrong impression.
what_a_blonde Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Broke up with Ex girlfriend close to 8 months ago. We were together for 8 and half years. I have tried to talk to her about getting back together but she says that she has moved on. Once in a while I will call or text her and she will mention/complain that she doesn't hear from me but when I talk to her she says that she has moved on. Should I call her more or keep no contact?....Thank you update: I suggested that we meet up for coffee recently and she agreed but not sure whether any of this is a positive sign. Most likely not:) I was also surprised to see that she still has a bunch of pictures of me and her on facebook. Sounds to me like you need to get away from this altogether. She says she has moved on, yet is stringing you along by coming back and being all cutesy "why haven't you called/contacted me??" etc. Bull. You can continue to keep yourself in this game if you want, but she is going to drop you like a hot potato the minute another guy comes along. She agreed to meet up with coffee right now because she is needing attention apparently, however again... based on her previous on/off behavior.. just be cautious. Also, having pics up still on FB isn't always a sure sign. I know of many people who have moved on and started dating other people, but yet still have pics of them and their ex up. (which to me is CRAZY... I wouldn't get involved with someone who is still holding on to something like that..) 3
Andyy Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Are you sure that she doesn't just want to be friends with you? Hence the 'why haven't you called' BS? Either way, if she's moved on then you need to also. You'll only get yourself hurt. And contrary to what the movies say I don't think it's possible to pursue and pursue until she gives in and gets back with you. Attempting that IMO always ends in a mess. Sorry about your pain, but at least you know it was real that way. Don't forget the way you feel now for when you meet the next awesome girl! 2
notthathard Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I understand that 8 years with someone is a huge chunk of your life and it's hard to get over that person. You should have been using this 8 months to heal yourself from this LTR. The best way to heal is no contact. Forget about getting back together, it's over. She clearly said "she doesn't hear from me but when I talk to her she says that she has moved on" that means done! If you want to be friends with her then proceed with the meetup, but this will set you far back. Best to go no contact, heal, then you can meet in the future if you still want. Forget about the Facebook photo's, they are just for memories. They have no significance of wanting to get back together. 1
David87 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Don't call her because she moved on, you should do the same. NC ! ! ! 1
tlegend Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Broke up with Ex girlfriend close to 8 months ago. We were together for 8 and half years. I have tried to talk to her about getting back together but she says that she has moved on. Once in a while I will call or text her and she will mention/complain that she doesn't hear from me but when I talk to her she says that she has moved on. Should I call her more or keep no contact?....Thank you update: I suggested that we meet up for coffee recently and she agreed but not sure whether any of this is a positive sign. Most likely not:) I was also surprised to see that she still has a bunch of pictures of me and her on facebook. Are you positive she only agreed to coffee so she could have a few days in peace? 1
Simon Phoenix Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 The last thing you need to do is to keep calling and hounding her. That's one of the worst things you can do. I assume you've already poured your heart out and asked for a second chance. If you have and she said no, you need to leave her be. 2
Recommended Posts