code Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 For about a year and my half, I gave my life to one girl. One girl who changed me totally. Let me break this down for ya, I used to treat girls like crap and would use them etc. Me and the girl were friends before we ever started dating and developed a strong friendship. This girl though changed everything for me, changed my life for the better, she showed me love. I never ever had a girlfriend till her, we dated for about 11months or so but had been seeing eachother i guess for a couple months prior. I would treat her like gold, i was her best friend and she was my best friend. We didnt fight ever really, it was the 'perfect' relationship. Little did I know that there isn't really ever a perfect relationship out there. So one night she just suddenly didnt feel it anymore, she just didnt have the same feeling. I think the hardest part about all of this was that I realized that I was way more into then she was. The reasoning she's been giving me about us has been pretty lame, and at times has lead me on a bit more. Me and her still talk everyday, either she will call me or ill call her. I've tried not talking to her at all but it hurts too much cause we were best friends prior to all of this....i know she is hurting too, maybe not as bad as me, i would just like to know how im suppose to get through all of this. there isnt an hour of my day that i dont think about me trying to get back with her. she always says it cant happen again, i just want to be able to realize it cant happen but i dont know how to, like i wish i could hate her but i cant, i love her way to much, ive begged her to try things again....what can i do to get over her, ive tried a tonne of things its been two months now.... please somebody help.
upsetnhurt Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Code, Put it this way, do you want to be with someone who is flat out telling you that she is not prepared to give you emotionally what you are willing to give her? Every person deserves to be treated as much as they are willing to treat others. It is not that she is trying to hurt you, it is just how she feels. With time that feeling might change yet you can not be the one to change her. Actually, you are doing yourself a disservice by staying in contact with her. She is getting exactly what she has asked for by you doing this, which is you guys just being friends. Eliminate the contact no matter how much it hurts and at the very least you will find out how she really feels about you. If she does not come back, focus your energy on finding a new love as you have seen just how great a feeling it was to be in.
g_unit_code Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Thanks a lot, im trying to cut contact off from her totally, and it is more than difficult. We both work together, and cannot avoid contact at times. I want to just let go and have fun again and expierence life again before her. But I look back and realize how much happier I was with her and like how much of a better person I was knowing that she was always there waiting for me. Like she has been leading me on a bit and I also think your right, she is getting the best of both worlds. She tells me she isn't over me and that she still in her head hasnt realized were not together (its been 2 months). I want to eventually be her friend again cause i was her friend to begin with. I just hope things start getting better because not much for me lately has been good
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 please somebody help. you're gonna have to stop pursuing her as this isn't working you're gonna have to stop phoning her up and when she phones you don't answer her calls is she really misses you then someday she might come back but i wouldn't bet on it if she doesn't miss you enough then you will have moved on even slightly which is better for you in the end going through the same crap myself so i know what it is like
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