johnww92 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 My ex girlfriend ended it fully sunday because she said she doesn't have feelings for me anymore even tho the week before she still did. I don't know if its true because shes been stressing about load of stuff lately and I might have put her under pressure. At first I got really mad at her for hurting me but later apologized and said we will talk again when I move on and am ready. Its Valentines day Friday and I have feelings and miss her every day so does any of you think its wise to send a text message wishing her happy Valentines or is this a bad idea?
RightThere Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 It's a REALLY bad idea. If she's not talking to you, I wouldn't give her the satisfaction. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 based on what you said, no it's not a good idea. If there is more to the story & you have a meaningful chance at reconciliation (which I don't see based on what you posted) maybe. I say maybe for a few reasons. One it is a power thing & if she's done, you will look weak & desperate. If she's looking for the big gesture to show that you really do care a text won't cut it. Without knowing her, I can't say whether she's playing games & expecting you to chase her. As a general proposition, it's a better idea to run the other way when people pull garbage like that. 3
CaliGypsy Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I think it's a bad idea. You could end up hurting even more than you are now. 2
what_a_blonde Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Sounds like you left it with the ball in your court telling her "you would text her when you're ready"... so thats up to you. But be prepared for her not to say anything back. My vote is for: UNWISE. 1
BC1980 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 This idea is a disaster. You are still in the mindset that you two are together because the breakup is recent. Logically, you know it's over, but your heart hasn't caught up. Right now, you operate with logic. 2
AlexfromBoston Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 My ex girlfriend ended it fully sunday because she said she doesn't have feelings for me anymore even tho the week before she still did. I don't know if its true because shes been stressing about load of stuff lately and I might have put her under pressure. At first I got really mad at her for hurting me but later apologized and said we will talk again when I move on and am ready. Its Valentines day Friday and I have feelings and miss her every day so does any of you think its wise to send a text message wishing her happy Valentines or is this a bad idea? DO NOT text her on Vday. She broke it off with you...therefore, you owe her nothing. In fact, if you really, truly miss her, your best course of action would be to ignore her on Vday. Trust me, on that particular day NC will really hit her like a ton of bricks. 1
Author johnww92 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 DO NOT text her on Vday. She broke it off with you...therefore, you owe her nothing. In fact, if you really, truly miss her, your best course of action would be to ignore her on Vday. Trust me, on that particular day NC will really hit her like a ton of bricks. Yeah I think its a bad idea I'm just gonna ignore her. But what if she txts me first saying it what do I do?I cant really ignore that?
Arieswoman Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I cant really ignore that? Yes, you can. She is your "ex",and she dumped you, remember ?
AlexfromBoston Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Yeah I think its a bad idea I'm just gonna ignore her. But what if she txts me first saying it what do I do?I cant really ignore that? No matter what, COMPLETELY INGORE HER ON VALENTINES DAY!!! You're lucky in that she just ended your relationship less than a week before Vday. Don't give her the satisfaction. Let her feel the loss. Then, and only then will she slowly try to creep her way back into your life. If she does text you on Vday you could always respond the next day with this: Hey Jane Doe, although I care for you deeply, I do not think its a good idea for us to maintain any sort communication, let alone a friendship. I respectfully request that you do not attempt to contact me in the following weeks as it will only make it harder for the both of us. This breakup is really beginning to resonate deeply and I just want to put it in the past and move on. I wish you all the best and thanks for all the great memories. Take care". Now, after sending that just go NC. In the following weeks, if she throws out some BS form of communication ignore it. If she's persistent, ask her politely to stop and give you space. 1
Sunny_Girl Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Please don't do it. You will regret it as soon as you hit "send."
jphcbpa Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 If you have to ask, the answer is NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You have to think with your head. Your heart is hurt and should be put on the injured reserve for as long as it takes. DO NOT listen to your heart. Listen to your head!!!! As superdave would say...if you injure your arm, you would not use your arm in an arm wrestling contest.
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