52_card_pickup Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Hello everyone, I'm new here and I'm looking for some opinions and advice, please bear with me as its quite a long story. I have met a girl and we started dating, it was going well and on an occasion we ended up at a party where we 'cuddled' (day after first date). I managed to score a second date (went amazingly) and then a third date. I was supposed to take her out for dinner but it didnt go to plan and we ended up in a bar instead, having got slightly tipsy after a few cocktails, we ended up hitting a club for a few hours and getting drunk. There was some making out and 'intimate' dancing between us - though I'm sure I might have overplayed the ******* a bit. At the end of the night we went home our separate ways due to next day commitments that didnt make it practical to over at mine. I had asked her to come to mine for dinner for valentines, and she seemed game. I text her saying thanks for the night etc, and she replied first thing the next day saying she had a good time. I then asked her if she felt the same way (I know, stupid mistake) but what I actually meant by it was "are you pissed off about dinner at all?". I didnt get a reply to that text, but I saw her the next day and she wanted to talk in private for a bit. She mentioned that she hadnt replied because she wanted to tell me that someone else she had known (a friend who she had previously dated) had asked her out for valentines. She later said that this was irrelevant... naturally I was a bit on edge. She also said she wasnt sure and that "youre what I want, but I'm not sure if i want it now". Throughout the conversation I know she wanted me to kiss her. I then went out with some mutual friends and got awfully drunk to the point I dont remember and she later turned up having come from a drink at her other friends party. I dont really remember what happened but apparently I was an ******* and then later spent half hour being nasty at her down the phone, which I really dont remember. I called the next morning, explained I didnt know what Id said and that I was sorry. My battery was low and the signal wasnt great so I couldnt really understand everything she was saying, but I think she might have said "i think we should just be friends". Its really annoying because I genuinely dont know and its not something I really want to bring up again, and if i continued on speaking after she said that I now look really immature. We ended the call with me having said id like to go out again but "keep it light" to which she replied with "light, yeah light, definitely keep it light". I dont even know what that means... I text her a day later (this monday) asking if she would be interested in coffee, but I havent had a reply. All of this a couple of days before valentines, and now shes probably going to date someone else for the occasion. Needless to say I feel like crap and dont really know what happened (apart from the obvious) with regards to mixed signals. What should I do, grow a pair and forget about it? or pursue her with slight optimism based on our great first couple of dates?
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Your done period point blank. Keep it light yeah really light means she is NEVER going to see you again. She was going to ditch you for the other guy anyway. Then you turned into a drunk douche and made her situation much easier. But either way yeah you were getting tossed aside. She liked the other guy more, somehow he became available to her again and she took it. Sucks but it happens to the best of them from time to time. 2
Phantom888 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 She is not going with you on Valentines. She thought about it, and would rather spend it with someone else. You two need to stop drinking so much....seems like it's really affecting your judgment.
Author 52_card_pickup Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 We were definitely really into each other though, I don't just think it was one sided. I'm not so concerned with going out for valentines, but just with her in general. She brought the other guy up during a candid conversation. They had been out previously months ago and she didn't want him then, hed asked her out for valentines, but she didnt think it relevant. I question why she brought it up in the first place. I guess at the moment I'm more interested in knowing if it was entirely my fault, or whether I just got trumped and was given mixed signals. Closure would be nice, though you never seem to get that...
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