saltyfishhead666 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I could really use some advice, I'm Currently dating someone who has a bit of a past admittedly of sleeping Around. I'm kinda old fashioned and have only Had sex in relationships. I can forget the past, however it Seems to keep getting brought up. We were talking About how he couldn't orgasm through sex. He came out with "it sucks seeing the ladies leave pleasured and I have to jack Off" I'm not angry, upset and really quite peeved off that he's said that. I mean really what woman wants to hear that. I've explained how I don't agree with his past and he knows I am Old fashioned but keeps Saying things like that!! Just feel rather ill at that thought and I can't seem to express why I'm upset. God I sound crackers :-/
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Tell him that hearing explicit details about his past relationships doesn't make you feel good and ask him to keep that sort of thing to himself. If he brings it up again, you'll know how much or how little he values your feelings on the subject. You can then decide whether or not to be with him based on this issue which is quite a large one (the disrespect, not necessarily the history of casual sex).
Phantom888 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 He needs to be more sensitive to your feelings. Whether intentional or not, his bringing up his past experiences is really unnecessary.
Gaeta Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 He is lacking tact and needs to be told. On a side note, if his past bothers you the fact he doesn't mention anything any longer will not change how you feel about it. Especially if you associate sex with immorality. You should seek someone with the same view as you. I happen to think people's sexual past is their own and it's not something anyone needs to know. When you're ready to abandon protection you both get tested and that's the end of it.
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