Manzanita Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 So i dated my bestfriend and she didnt think it worked out. She says she didnt see it as a highschool relationship but that i am her soulmate. I still want to be her friend but I find it is getting hard. She claims that without my friendship she will be lost. I can see partial truth in that, since i am her crutch and she relies on me for everything. What should i do? I need some help.
Tony Posted January 18, 2005 Senior Moderators Posted January 18, 2005 You shouldn't be anybody's crutch and having somebody rely on you for everything is truly a drain on your energy. I'm wondering just how much you feel you "need" this in order to feel special. At any rate, you can be friends but end her dependence on you for her sake. It simply isn't healthy. Go find friends who share energy with you and don't drain your batteries so much.
Manzanita Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 thanks for the reply tony, i appreciate it. Yes it is draining, but i do not need her to feel special. I tried to end the dependence once before and she became a wreck. I think she wants to try again with the relationship at a later time. I just dont want to hurt her. She was hurt before and I pulled her out of her depression, and I think that because of that she has some kind of emotional attatchment to me.
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