BigGirlPantiesOn Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Hello everyone: Haven't posted in a long while but still read often. I've just been dumped (again) and wanted to share my action/reaction. First, very short, just 2 weeks dating. Late 40's/mid 50's. Grown up's. He separated for 18 months, divorce pending. Me divorced. He was into me like a moth to a flame. Came out wanting a relationship, commitment all that. I was hesitant because his divorce isnt final, pending ex has BPD and is unstable. I expressed this but continued to have daily communication. Got along very well, lots of fun and humor. He isn't real "deep" emotionally. Not in touch with feelings but has a need to be a part of a couple, somewhat needy. Seemed somewhat starved for affection and attention. After a great date, next day his insecurities arise during a text convo. Starts to feel I am not committed as he is. Next day he calls to say we won't be more than friends. 9 am as Im on way to work. How nice. I simply respond with "OK". Never asked for explanation, (I had sensed it) tho he later texted it to me. He felt it wasn't going into a LTR and that eventually one of us would end it. So, how should I react? I like him and wanted to continue seeing him. So I opened up my feelings and wrote an email. Explained where I am in life, what I want, where I was in past with fears of commitment. I said I liked him, wasnt seeing anyone else and am able to commit in time. He replied, confusing me, saying he would re-read my email again later (?). Don't know what that means but I know this: 1. I accepted his choice by not resisting. 2. I took appropriate action to show my interest and express what I want. 3. I now leave it to him and make NO further contact. Honestly, I feel he is asking for too much, too soon. But I accept this is the type of man he is. I will open myself some, but not to the extent of bad decision making. I wont chase, I firmly believe in giving people exactly what they ask for. If he does not wish to enjoy my company any longer, then so it shall be
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