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Is is possible to know who is the love of your life?

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Mondmellonw Established Member

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Just wondering, I know this question is too... well.

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There is no such thing as the love of your life. You can love lots of different people.

 

Lots.

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Mondmellonw Established Member

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I hope.

I'm becoming skeptical.

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There is no such thing as the love of your life. You can love lots of different people.

 

Lots.

 

^ ^ ^ This ^ ^ ^

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No. The love of your life is conditional about space and time and you being in the right mindset to be meeting that particular person.

Who's the love of your life 5 years ago you might laugh at the idea of them being the love of your life another five years down the road of maturity.

A fork in the road and we're all a little different person, just enough different that those particular stars never line up again, but other ones do.

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you love the one you are with and you grow with them......there is not just one .......thank god for that....deb

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Haydn Established Member

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No Mondmellonw, they are not the love of your life.

 

We want them to be, but they are wrong for us on so many levels.

 

Just by us thinking they are.....

 

You will be ok friend.

 

Just wondering, I know this question is too... well.
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Mondmellonw Established Member

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Thank you, Haydn. (Really:) )

Today has been a hard one, and I've been thinking about this (and that...) a lot.

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No. The love of your life is conditional about space and time and you being in the right mindset to be meeting that particular person.

Who's the love of your life 5 years ago you might laugh at the idea of them being the love of your life another five years down the road of maturity.

A fork in the road and we're all a little different person, just enough different that those particular stars never line up again, but other ones do.

 

Time will tell I guess. I currently feel I lost the love of my life 8 months ago. I really really hope to feel that way again sometime. Its such a good feeling, and the low of a bu is such a bad feeling.

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Time will tell I guess. I currently feel I lost the love of my life 8 months ago. I really really hope to feel that way again sometime. Its such a good feeling, and the low of a bu is such a bad feeling.

 

I'm 50...have a bit of experience behind me.

You won't feel that way again, actually. You will feel different love. It will be just as STRONG. But it won't be like it was with anyone else. That's what is so wonderful about falling in love--it doesn't really repeat itself, it's new each time.

Also, as you grow older, you need less to lean on others. I mean more happiness comes from within, and also more acceptance that nobody on this planet is formed in the shape of a puzzle piece for somebody else's life.

After all, you wouldn't want to be formed just to fit somebody else's puzzle, would you? On that note, we're fluid, not rigid like a puzzle piece...we're allowed to change, to grow, and that's a good thing.

It helps with maturity to separate our own existence from others.

I'm sorry you are still hurting...you get up, you dust yourself off, and move forward to see what next wonderful surprise life has to offer...and there are endless ones. :)

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Time will tell I guess. I currently feel I lost the love of my life 8 months ago. I really really hope to feel that way again sometime. Its such a good feeling, and the low of a bu is such a bad feeling.

I know. This is somehow what I feel like now.

But I try to remind myself that I'm still young (20).

So...

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I'm 50...have a bit of experience behind me.

You won't feel that way again, actually. You will feel different love. It will be just as STRONG. But it won't be like it was with anyone else. That's what is so wonderful about falling in love--it doesn't really repeat itself, it's new each time.

Also, as you grow older, you need less to lean on others. I mean more happiness comes from within, and also more acceptance that nobody on this planet is formed in the shape of a puzzle piece for somebody else's life.

After all, you wouldn't want to be formed just to fit somebody else's puzzle, would you? On that note, we're fluid, not rigid like a puzzle piece...we're allowed to change, to grow, and that's a good thing.

It helps with maturity to separate our own existence from others.

I'm sorry you are still hurting...you get up, you dust yourself off, and move forward to see what next wonderful surprise life has to offer...and there are endless ones. :)

What you wrote really made me feel like there is hope.

Maybe it's like they say... If you don't love yourself, you will look for someone who doesn't loves you as well.

I heard once that "we accept the love we think we deserve". Idk.

I found this person and I loved this person, but he taught me a lesson and that's the only thing left.

He made me see this thing about happiness... He has a lot of splendid talents and is a very intelligent guy. He could be anywhere and he is just sitting in there, drinking his troubles away. He made me see myself... And how I wasted time being insecure about me.

 

In the bottom of my heart, I'll always thank him for it.

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mukkrakker Established Member

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There is no such thing as the love of your life.

 

I disagree - I've had three, having fourth.

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I'm 50...have a bit of experience behind me.

You won't feel that way again, actually. You will feel different love. It will be just as STRONG. But it won't be like it was with anyone else. That's what is so wonderful about falling in love--it doesn't really repeat itself, it's new each time.

Also, as you grow older, you need less to lean on others. I mean more happiness comes from within, and also more acceptance that nobody on this planet is formed in the shape of a puzzle piece for somebody else's life.

After all, you wouldn't want to be formed just to fit somebody else's puzzle, would you? On that note, we're fluid, not rigid like a puzzle piece...we're allowed to change, to grow, and that's a good thing.

It helps with maturity to separate our own existence from others.

I'm sorry you are still hurting...you get up, you dust yourself off, and move forward to see what next wonderful surprise life has to offer...and there are endless ones. :)

 

 

Thank you for this. I am trying to be like you and work on myself right now. Not interested in finding the next love of my life. Hope that you're right that I feel that strong love again.

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He made me see this thing about happiness... He has a lot of splendid talents and is a very intelligent guy. He could be anywhere and he is just sitting in there, drinking his troubles away. He made me see myself... And how I wasted time being insecure about me.

 

In the bottom of my heart, I'll always thank him for it.

 

 

Ok maybe he gave you some confidence you didn't have. Nobody drinking their troubles away though is able to give their whole person. Not sure they can show you something about happiness...I'm thinking YOU saw the thing about happiness more on your own than you realize. He may have led the way a little, but give credit where credit is due.

Another thing to remember when you have a broken heart is that YOU loved...you felt that love, you gave that love, you in essence created all the love you felt...not the person you have lost.

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Ok maybe he gave you some confidence you didn't have. Nobody drinking their troubles away though is able to give their whole person. Not sure they can show you something about happiness...I'm thinking YOU saw the thing about happiness more on your own than you realize. He may have led the way a little, but give credit where credit is due.

Another thing to remember when you have a broken heart is that YOU loved...you felt that love, you gave that love, you in essence created all the love you felt...not the person you have lost.

I think I will give myself a little more credit.

I also think that it has been enough thinking of what happened.

Today was a great day... That's all.

Thank you :)

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