jinandjuice Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I have been dating this girl for a while now and she likes me and I like her. However she says I like her more than she likes me and it scares her because it seems that I am ready for the next step and she doesn't know if she is. The fact that she doesn't know scares her but she does like me. How can I convince her to take a chance with me? To take that extra plunge? We have made out and have done everything.
FitChick Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 This makes no logical sense. I can see if she liked you more then she'd be afraid of losing you. Just sounds like she doesn't want to be exclusive right now.
hasaquestion Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 "Take a chance" is just a nice way of saying "do something she doesn't want to do" in this situation. Let her make decisions for herself.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I think she was honest with you. And she does really like you or she wouldn't have told you what she needs you to do. My advice is reel it back a little. Spend more time with your friends and a little less with her. A little distance can make the heart grow fonder. Shes not sold on something yet. And your becoming that badgering sales person in the store that is annoying her. The good news is she is still shopping your store. But if you don't change your approach she going next door and checking out the other guys goods...
soccerrprp Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I have been dating this girl for a while now and she likes me and I like her. However she says I like her more than she likes me and it scares her because it seems that I am ready for the next step and she doesn't know if she is. The fact that she doesn't know scares her but she does like me. How can I convince her to take a chance with me? To take that extra plunge? We have made out and have done everything. best thing to do is step back! by trying to convince her to taking the plunge, you will appear more desperate and it will stress her out....dude, i've been there and it's her way of telling you that YOU are moving too fast, too much too soon...back off a little...or lose her all together.
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Stepping back & letting her come to you is the best thing. Dial back your attentions just a bit . . . send one less text, make one less phone call. Meanwhile define in your own head what the "next step" is. If it's sex, that may be what is scaring her. If it's being exclusive or defining your relationship as BF / GF you can probably ease her into that.
Author jinandjuice Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Stepping back & letting her come to you is the best thing. Dial back your attentions just a bit . . . send one less text, make one less phone call. Meanwhile define in your own head what the "next step" is. If it's sex, that may be what is scaring her. If it's being exclusive or defining your relationship as BF / GF you can probably ease her into that. It is the latter. So I asked if she could be my Valetine and she said yes. Don't know if I messed up or not but I know she still doesn't see me just as a friend. 1
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