scooby-philly Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Hey There, I've posted on here before and found some great advice so I'm doing it again. Here's the basics. I've been online dating for several months now. A few times I've managed to hit 3-5 dates with women- other times I meet and it didn't turn out that there was chemistry. I know it's important to meet with people in real life to get a sense of them. I don't count anything as "I wish it didn't happen". Everything and everyone can teach. I didn't really date much through most of my 20's - work and school. Started seriously dating around the age of 28. Having been formerly engaged - it didn't work out - and having gone through dates the last 6 months, I've gotten a good idea of the type of woman I'm looking for. I just met someone online 2 weeks ago and we've been talking and just went on our first date - brunch on sunday - the other day. It felt really good. I asked to call her and she said yes and we talked yesterday. I know I can come off a little strong at the beginning some times so I'm keeping that in the forefront of my mind. However, none of the people I've seen - even the ones that went 3-5/6 dates got beyond that and only one or two got any type of physical. I'm a pretty physical guy - not in a shallow way - but that's one of the ways I express my love, and I know for many women that's also important. So, I'm looking for second date ideas that would be great and would allow her the opportunity to see if I'm what she's been looking for. In terms of the person I'm thinking of now, she's smart, has a great job, but isn't a workaholic, shares similar interests (food, travel, outdoors), and seems balanced. One of the things I've struggled with both in my last relationship and in dating these past few months is that I tend to be the type of person whose willing to do whatever for their partner, but I've managed to pick women who turn out not to be that interested in sharing with me. I'm willing and able to answer all/any questions so I'd like to hear, especially from women, about the types of dates/activities and the types of exchanges that really let you see a guy for who he is and see how attracted you are to him. Thanks
HappyLove Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I don't think that activity exists. You could take her to feed the hungry and it still wouldn't be the answer to who you are as a person. That comes in time with dating someone and just gradually getting to know them. I think what you could do is do something that she would like, something that she's mentioned in the past because that would show her you care and actually listened.
Author scooby-philly Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Ok, So yes - I was really silly in posting my thoughts without checking to answer them myself. Yes, it takes time to get to know a person. And yes, I always try to find out what they like and start off doing that.
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