summerlovin31 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Ok, so I need some advice on this guy I'm dating. He's literally the perfect guy I've been looking for and there is something missing for me. I've been single for about 2 years and my last relationship lasted a little over 5 years. I was heartbroken over it. So, I wanted to be single for awhile to get over my past relationship, because I didn't think it would be fair to anyone new if I'm still thinking of me ex. So I'm ready now or thought I was. I met this guy and we've been on 3 dates so far. He treats me so well, has all the qualities I'm looking for, and we have good conversations. The first date I left thinking this could be the one. The last two something changed a little bit. He does everything so perfect and I'm just not use to it. Plus he's a little more nerdy than I'm use to but I've been told that's a good thing. I know I don't feel completely comfortable yet and I'm wondering if that means we're not compatible or if it takes time. It's been awhile since I've been in the dating world again.. I know I'm not ready to be exclusive with him yet but shouldn't I feel more butterflies than I currently am? I guess I'm just confused with my feelings. After how long if I'm not feeling it to call it quits?
ktya Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 You sound like one of the girls im seeing lol. After a hearbreaking breakup it can be hard to open your heart again. 2 years is long enough. Take the chance. I know i wish that she did.
scooby-philly Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I agree with ktya. It's hard after a bad breakup. You did the mature and smart thing about being single. But, at 2 years, it's time to move on. Maybe you're not feeling it because your fear of being hurt or something else is preventing you from being attracted to someone who maybe you weren't attracted to in the past. Don't let your mind analyze it too much. We all change over time, slowly, and often unconsciously. I know that when I was younger I was attracted to women solely on their looks and didn't let my heart and gut say - hey! she's not your type! So now your head may be playing old records and not recognizing your true feelings from your gut.
Author summerlovin31 Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 I guess part of me compares how I was with my ex or comparing him to the new guy I'm dating which probably isn't helping things because they are different people. I'm not at the comfort level I'd like to be but I know that can take time. I guess I should stop over analyzing everything. Time will tell. Thanks for the advice guys.
collegeguy_24 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I say give it a shot, its been two years and thats long enough. Send him a text today if you haven't yet, let him know your interested and you want to go out again. He sounds like a good man, and while time will only tell with that, it never hurts to give it a chance. You only live once, don't let this opportunity pass you by or ou'll be asking what if's.
Author summerlovin31 Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 I say give it a shot, its been two years and thats long enough. Send him a text today if you haven't yet, let him know your interested and you want to go out again. He sounds like a good man, and while time will only tell with that, it never hurts to give it a chance. You only live once, don't let this opportunity pass you by or ou'll be asking what if's. Thanks for this. You are right. If I just let him go I think I'd regret it, so I need to give this a chance.
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