Billy1995fifa Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Hi. I'm 18 nearly 19 and 100% inexperienced with girls(Never had a girlfriend/kissed a girl and all that stuff). I am a shy at 1st but after a while i am a nice/easy going and fun guy. I am looking to make new friends with girls and boys in a bar in the next 2/3 months. My questions: How to be not nervous when i around girls? because i get nervous around them.. but not with my guy friends like in the summer. What is the best way to approach a girl and start talking to her in a bar? i be shy at 1st. Is asking to play a game of Darts in a bar is good to get to know the girl? How to chat to a girl when there's guys around them with out thinking one of them is the girl boyfriend?
Philosoraptor Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Ok, so is the bar your normal scene? If not, then that's not where you want to meet women. Look at your hobbies and figure out what you can do to make them more social. There are clubs and groups everywhere, conventions, etc. Lots of places to meet women where you already have something in common with them. Then when you're at these places just talk to them like you'd talk to the cashier at the store. Mention something about where you are or your surroundings. Introduce yourself and just chat normal. If you find yourself still interested then ask for her number. Ta da. If you want to meet people you need to be willing to take risks... over and over. Some women will be interested, some will not. Either way, they are essentially strangers so it's nothing to take to heart if they're not interested. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Everybody is nervous around the opposite sex. It's human nature. Try to relax. Take some deep breaths. Give yourself a pep talk & remember all of your good qualities. Yes doing something . . . playing darts or pool or even trivia is a great ice breaker. If one of the guys hanging around is her BF you will know soon enough as you begin talking to her.
bluesgirl Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Coming from a girls perspective I would say just be friendly towards us. Don't act like you're trying to hit on us...we can sense that stuff and then it's just creepy. Ask us a question like "what are you drinking" or give a compliment in a non creepy way. Just ask towards us as you would your friends, but in a more polite and gentlemanly way! haha You have to remember that you're going to get rejected. Everyone does! And once you are okay with that, you will go into not putting so much pressure on the situation! Best of luck to you!
Tayken Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Everybody is nervous around the opposite sex. It's human nature. Really? I can tell you that I am not, unless of course they have a hygiene issue and look unapproachable, which will stop me from being around them. May be am just a people's person? How to be not nervous when i around girls? because i get nervous around them.. but not with my guy friends like in the summer. Confidence confidence confidence.....They (the girls) are just like your guys friends, except they have something your buddies don't have that you are after. Compose yourself, smile and just be yourself What is the best way to approach a girl and start talking to her in a bar? i be shy at 1st. Is asking to play a game of Darts in a bar is good to get to know the girl? Easy...first you make eye contact (don't plant your eyes on here) on and off, whilst carrying yourself with a certain decorum (showing confidence), smile, make sure you look well put together as opposed to looking like a hobo. If she likes you, she will flirt by flicking hair and smile back...that is your cue to get yourself closer, introduce yourself by offering your hand for a shake, compliment her dress, start talking about the music and the type of day it has been, whilst your eyes focus on her eyes...not her body. NOTE: Listen more as opposed to talk a lot. How to chat to a girl when there's guys around them with out thinking one of them is the girl boyfriend? That is always tricky, but again confidence will get you through. However, scan the floor first to see the dynamics of what is going on before you put foot in mouth You are still young...nobody said it was going to be easy (song title?), but just like an interview, first appearance and presentation should not be neglected
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