mickmarss Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 one time in septemebr my girlfriend ditched me to hang out with a guy. a guy she had sex with before (before i met her) she didnt cheat on me,i checked her texts for suspicious messages and i believed she didnt and i know she hasn't talked to him really since then i told her i was dissaponted in her and couldnt beleive she did it 5 months later it still bothers me and i just wanna go off on her about it,because i held myself back when it happened will i ever be able to move on from what she did or should i just end it?
ExpatInItaly Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 one time in septemebr my girlfriend ditched me to hang out with a guy. a guy she had sex with before (before i met her) she didnt cheat on me,i checked her texts for suspicious messages and i believed she didnt and i know she hasn't talked to him really since then i told her i was dissaponted in her and couldnt beleive she did it 5 months later it still bothers me and i just wanna go off on her about it,because i held myself back when it happened will i ever be able to move on from what she did or should i just end it? Five months and it still bothers you? I'd say you should talk to her about it - not "go off on her." What do you expect to gain from that? It won't help to resolve your feelings; it will likely make you feel worse when she justifies or defends her actions. I can certainly understand why you were upset. But you need to learn to communicate instead of holding it back and letting it fester for so long. If that's not an option for you, then yes, end it. She apparently has poor boundaries and only you can decide what's acceptable or not in your relationship.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Stop snooping in her phone. Everyone gets tempted. She obviously choose you so your doing something right. Are you happy with that? The girl you likes chooses to be with you? Now understand any woman you are with that is worth having will have guys hit on them all the time. You never get to stop competing. She will always have tons of options. And the more of a douche you are the more she will start exploring and testing those options. Be secure in yourself, and let her know your not even worried a little bit about her straying. I mean why would she? Your an effing rockstar!
Author mickmarss Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 Stop snooping in her phone. Everyone gets tempted. She obviously choose you so your doing something right. Are you happy with that? The girl you likes chooses to be with you? Now understand any woman you are with that is worth having will have guys hit on them all the time. You never get to stop competing. She will always have tons of options. And the more of a douche you are the more she will start exploring and testing those options. Be secure in yourself, and let her know your not even worried a little bit about her straying. I mean why would she? Your an effing rockstar! sorry but wouldnt you feel like **** if you were with your girlfriend and she said she was going to bed but went and hung out with some guy instead?
Author mickmarss Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 Girlfriend won't leave her friends house to come help me get through an anxiety attack. says she wont ditch her friend, but she will do that to me? ok i see how it is
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 (edited) Im sorry but you sound like a needy manipulative douche right now. How desperate is that to ask her to ditch her friend to help you with an anxiety attack? Your not giving me enough attention Im going to guilt trip you into seeing me. And how weak must you look to her right now? Not a good look at all. She probably thinks your a complete chump right now. Either reach under your skirt and find some balls or your going to lose her. But then again, if this is the kind of jealous crap she has to put up with she will probably be better off. I know this is harsh as hell but take it to heart man. You need to choose what kind of man you are so she can decide to be with you or not. Edited February 11, 2014 by LEEVIT2F8
soccerrprp Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 mickmarss, Yeah, you should feel crappy. She lied to you and still hangs out with her ex with whom she's had sex. You need to talk to her about it and tell her to place unambiguous boundaries between her and the ex or you should leave.
soccerrprp Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Girlfriend won't leave her friends house to come help me get through an anxiety attack. says she wont ditch her friend, but she will do that to me? ok i see how it is It's clear that this girl is not good for YOU. Move on.
Author mickmarss Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 Im sorry but you sound like a needy manipulative douche right now. How desperate is that to ask her to ditch her friend to help you with an anxiety attack? Your not giving me enough attention Im going to guilt trip you into seeing me. And how weak must you look to her right now? Not a good look at all. She probably thinks your a complete chump right now. Either reach under your skirt and find some balls or your going to lose her. But then again, if this is the kind of jealous crap she has to put up with she will probably be better off. I know this is harsh as hell but take it to heart man. You need to choose what kind of man you are so she can decide to be with you or not. ummm i have gotten out of bed at 3 am and 4 am multiple times to help her out when she is sick. driven 15 miles to help her. btw...it's funny how she will ditch ME to hang out with her friends but she cant do the same for me
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Your pushing her away. Your getting insecure and trying way to hard for her attention. Stop going caveman trying to whack her with a branch and drag her to the cave. Right now shes done with you. She just doing things to piss you off so that you'll dump her. Depending on how long you have been acting like this it may or may not be saveable. But if you don't get a handle on your own self esteem this thing is going to repeat itself over and over till you get right.
Author mickmarss Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 Your pushing her away. Your getting insecure and trying way to hard for her attention. Stop going caveman trying to whack her with a branch and drag her to the cave. Right now shes done with you. She just doing things to piss you off so that you'll dump her. Depending on how long you have been acting like this it may or may not be saveable. But if you don't get a handle on your own self esteem this thing is going to repeat itself over and over till you get right. this is the first time i have done it..she even sad "why are you doing this? you have never done this before"
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Tell her she caught you in a weird moment, and now your over it. Must have been something you ate! LOL Tell her to enjoy her night with her friends and that you can hook up tomorrow or in a few days. If you dont get together tomorrow go do some fun stuff with your friends. When you get together the next day have a fun conversation about all the fun you each had with your respective friends. Its not a competition your just letting her know shes not your entire world. And she doesnt have the pressure to be your everything all the time. That will make her a little jealous and she will start trying for your attention again.
TaraMaiden Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Just a question: How many more 'woe is me' threads are you going to put up? Look, if you're not happy, end it. if you have problems within you, that you need to address, do so. But quit 'saying' and start 'doing.'
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