purplesoccer34 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 After breaking up with my ex, I decided to give the whole online dating thing a try, but so far, the experience hasn't been great. I've been through 2 rejections. The first time, the guy messaged me first, said he found me attractive and would really like to go on a date with me blah blah...and I agreed. Then he asked if we could talk on the phone, so I gave him my number. Literally only two minutes into the convo, he said he had something to do, but he'll call me back. Instead, I get a text from him immediately afterwards, saying that he felt super-awkward talking to me and that we wouldn't be a good match. He said good luck to me, and we never spoke again. The second time, the guy messaged me first and we went on a date, but after the first date he never contacted me. He made it very obvious that he wasn't interested. Does everyone go through these negative experiences? I guess the only thing giving me any hope is the fact that my ex was incredibly good-looking, and every girl I knew had a crush on him. So at least there was one guy who really liked me, haha. I was shocked when he asked me out, but then again, we were friends for years before going out. I'm starting to think that breaking up with my ex was a huge mistake, because I'll never find a guy who actually likes me. I get many messages on the dating site, but I don't respond to any of them because I'm scared they'll reject me once they meet me in person. Am I just being paranoid?
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 People get rejected all the time. Some people don't even get messages, or opportunities to go on dates. In my book, landing a date is a success in my book -- it all depends on how you want to look at it. Just two rejections doesn't mean anything. Take a look at all the old inventors -- they probably failed many times, but now that they're rolling in the million dollars...they believe that rejections are just part of the process. Even in science, rejection isn't a bad thing...it's just showing results that didn't work. We're all different, so it's only logical to expect people to reject you every now and then. You can't expect to get along with everybody because you're not looking for everyone to like you...you're just looking for ONE person that really matters. Being rejected doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything like that; it just means you're not compatible with that one person. So you're not compatible with two people? So what? Keep responding to messages and keep doing what you're doing, and eventually you'll land a date with a dude, it'll go very well, and all those rejections will just be a thing in the past.
pickflicker Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 After breaking up with my ex, I decided to give the whole online dating thing a try, but so far, the experience hasn't been great. I've been through 2 rejections. The first time, the guy messaged me first, said he found me attractive and would really like to go on a date with me blah blah...and I agreed. Then he asked if we could talk on the phone, so I gave him my number. Literally only two minutes into the convo, he said he had something to do, but he'll call me back. Instead, I get a text from him immediately afterwards, saying that he felt super-awkward talking to me and that we wouldn't be a good match. He said good luck to me, and we never spoke again. The second time, the guy messaged me first and we went on a date, but after the first date he never contacted me. He made it very obvious that he wasn't interested. Does everyone go through these negative experiences? I guess the only thing giving me any hope is the fact that my ex was incredibly good-looking, and every girl I knew had a crush on him. So at least there was one guy who really liked me, haha. I was shocked when he asked me out, but then again, we were friends for years before going out. I'm starting to think that breaking up with my ex was a huge mistake, because I'll never find a guy who actually likes me. I get many messages on the dating site, but I don't respond to any of them because I'm scared they'll reject me once they meet me in person. Am I just being paranoid? Yes. You're going to get repeatedly rejected with online dating. It's good practice, try to have fun with it and not take it personally. The right guy won't reject you. 3 weeks ago, I went in a date with a guy i chatted to for a couple of weeks beforehand. Haven't heard from him since. I went on a date weekend just gone, and that guy has asked to me again. I'm also chatting to another couple of guys on email. That is how you internet date.
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