starla33 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 soooo when is someone supposed to tell you they are recently separated? Because I googled this guy I went on a few dates with and he seems to have been married pretty much up until a few months ago or so.
CaliGypsy Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I would think that would be mentioned right away so the other party knows what they might be getting into.
Author starla33 Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 I would think that would be mentioned right away so the other party knows what they might be getting into. right he never mentioned it. So do I run for the hills at this point? OR confront?
FnlyFrei Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I would be cautious. Usually someone newly divorced, or separated, is NOT ready for another serious relationship. You could be the one becoming attached and then eventually, getting hurt. I wouldn't run, but perhaps just back away.... 2
Author starla33 Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 so none of you would be pissed off that it was not brought up at all?!
FnlyFrei Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 A few dates, I wouldn't get too upset. But if you started to see each other exclusively...yes, then it would be time to tell you. If you both wanted a relationship...that to me is different than a few casual dates. Maybe before sex happened? Maybe you should bring it up to HIM. Perhaps he is very conflicted still...perhaps it wasn't his idea ? I would listen to his side before I would work myself up and get angry. The truth is always the best thing. Ask for the truth. If you feel he is not being up front with you then...it will be easy for you to move on.
MixedUpChick Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I think they should be bringing this up within the first date or two, otherwise it's unfair to you if you start to get invested in them & then they drop that bomb on you. 1
TXGuy Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Separated = still married. That is something that should be disclosed before the first date has started, Personally, it would not weird me out too much, but some people take that kind of thing very seriously. 2
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