guest572 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I am having a horrible day. I'm so angry, sad and suicidal. How do I deal with this? I've tried to pick myself back up but miss my ex so much and can't accept that it is over. Haven't contacted for a week or so.. think its getting to me. What do you do to feel better? How do you know when its time to get help?
pickflicker Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 When you use the word 'suicidal'. Time to get help. 1
SurplusIndifference Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Were you happy before you were with your ex? If you could be happy without them then, you can be happy without them now. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 If you truly feel suicidal, reach out. Call a parent, a friend (not the one who made you feel worse), a teacher, somebody . . . . Call the national suicide prevention hot line or drive yourself to a nearby ER. Do not kill yourself. Life is not over simply because your relationship ended. In the early stages recognize that you need to grieve. It's OK to drown your sorrows once or twice in a controlled setting. Nobody will rag on you for downing 1 pint of ice cream or even a few drinks (assuming you are of age). Don't drink alone. Give yourself permission to cry. Tears are cathartic. Don't think this is going to go away quickly. It takes time. Some of my favorite coping strategies include the aforementioned ice cream, redecorating my living space, boxing up all the stuff from the relationship & destroying some of it dramatically (cutting up photos, tearing t-shirts, stabbing stuffed animals) etc. I also make lists. One is all the reasons the break up is a good thing. One is all the things I want to do now that I have time again. 1
organizedchaos Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Never rely on someone else to provide you happiness. That's codependency, not healthy, and probably one of the reasons you broke up. Get professional help. Now. Reason to carry on? How about for the precious gift of life you were given long before this person broke your heart. Be an adult and pull yourself together.
organizedchaos Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Not why we broke up at all. Doesn't matter. My points still stand. Be an adult and stop with this reason for living crap. We've all had our hearts broken.
pickflicker Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Not why we broke up at all. Doesn't matter. When faced with a life without him, your thoughts jump to suicide. That is codependency. 1
sportzhl24 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Look, you don't have to feel this way. Your ex is just another person. Not a god. Not too long ago I felt the same way: suicidal. And without going into detail I even took measures to bring me closer to ending my life. And now, as I am starting to feel better about things, I can see how absolutely silly all that was. I don't know you but I have a feeling there are people on this earth that love you and care about you, and they would be ruined if you were ever to take your own life. You said you're one week post BU? That BU is fresh as f***. It might as well have happened yesterday. It's totally normal to be down in the dumps about all this right now. But take important measures to recovering, like NC, exercise, healthy eating and sleeping, social interaction, hobbies, etc. Do not mope around in the house all day. Keep moving and stay busy. You are gonna be fine, I know it. Best 2
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