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Alright, so about a week ago I met this man on an online dating website. After I initially rejected him because he seemed like a player, he convinced me to "give him a chance". I said why not. We started talking and truthfully, I'm not feeling any chemistry at all, I'm just going with the flow waiting for something to flourish.

 

Now, what is annoying me is that he is serving me the same BS most players I know do serve to other girls. He says things such as:

- When I first saw your profile, I knew I had to talk to you, you're very different. You have something special I can't pin point.

 

- I don't want to get to know any other girl at the moment, it's you that I want.

 

- You're so perfect, so special, it seems surreal.

 

You get the point. Now, plenty of players gave me the same BS speech only to let me down a couple weeks later. I feel as though this one is no exception because he's coming on way too strong. What also annoys me is that he has to check up on me every single day God makes and starts sending me multiple messages if I don't respond within a half an hour frame. I just want some space for heaven's sake, I want to talk to other guys also.

 

He and I are supposed to meet up but he's given me the manipulative, passive aggressive speech : "I'm sure we'll never meet because I know you're gonna cancel or tell me you met someone. It's just a dream." I seriously feel like I'm talking to a 17 year-old-boy, not to a man in his mid-twenties.

 

Now, I told him there was no point in serving me his cheesy speech as we haven't met yet, so we shouldn't get our hopes up. We should get to know each other first instead of jumping the guns too fast. Yet, he keeps repeating the same speech over and over again.

 

 

I'm not sure if I want to meet up with him because he sounds quite manipulative. Am I right to think he's a player?

 

Side note: He didn't even fill his description in because he was "too lazy".

 

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Weezy1973 Established Member

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Alright, so about a week ago I met this man on an online dating website. After I initially rejected him because he seemed like a player, he convinced me to "give him a chance". I said why not. We started talking and truthfully, I'm not feeling any chemistry at all, I'm just going with the flow waiting for something to flourish.

 

Now, what is annoying me is that he is serving me the same BS most players I know do serve to other girls. He says things such as:

- When I first saw your profile, I knew I had to talk to you, you're very different. You have something special I can't pin point.

 

- I don't want to get to know any other girl at the moment, it's you that I want.

 

- You're so perfect, so special, it seems surreal.

 

You get the point. Now, plenty of players gave me the same BS speech only to let me down a couple weeks later. I feel as though this one is no exception because he's coming on way too strong. What also annoys me is that he has to check up on me every single day God makes and starts sending me multiple messages if I don't respond within a half an hour frame. I just want some space for heaven's sake, I want to talk to other guys also.

 

He and I are supposed to meet up but he's given me the manipulative, passive aggressive speech : "I'm sure we'll never meet because I know you're gonna cancel or tell me you met someone. It's just a dream." I seriously feel like I'm talking to a 17 year-old-boy, not to a man in his mid-twenties.

 

Now, I told him there was no point in serving me his cheesy speech as we haven't met yet, so we shouldn't get our hopes up. We should get to know each other first instead of jumping the guns too fast. Yet, he keeps repeating the same speech over and over again.

 

 

I'm not sure if I want to meet up with him because he sounds quite manipulative. Am I right to think he's a player?

 

Side note: He didn't even fill his description in because he was "too lazy".

 

Thanks

 

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it likely is a duck.

 

If you've had experience with players, and this guy is acting like a player, he's likely a player.

 

Question is of course, why are you entertaining the thought of going on a date with him? Are you attracted to players?

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LEEVIT2F8 Established Member

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Not a player more like weak puppy dog stalker. Clinger alert! This guy read a book about how to pick up women. Unless your into stalkers and probably some pretty horrible sex then I would pass. LOL

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FnlyFrei Established Member

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If you already do not feel right about him, I would say you should listen to your instincts. I have ignored those myself..and later found out that I was spot-on right with my first impressions.

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Listen to what your gut is telling you.. it seems a little shady

 

From my experience.. men who have come on way too quick and strong have fizzled out just as quick. They seem to get this rush of emotion. I don't know if I would call them ALL players as such. Just very immature.

 

I had a guy come onto me like a ton of bricks. He was almost infatuated. He kept telling me how perfect and funny I was before I even met him. A minute after he dropped me off on our first date, he messaged saying how amazing I was. The next morning he was telling me how his boss could tell he met a special girl, and that he was so happy. He kept pushing me to meet his friends and family after about 1 week because he wanted them to see the reason he was smiling. He wanted me to come watch all his sporting games after one date. He invited me to his Christmas party a few days after our first date. If he didn't get a reply within half hr he would send another. We went to the same gym and every night i was there he would make sure i come find him as he needed 'motivation'. I went away for a week and every day he told me he missed me. He was desperate to see me the day i was back.. It was just insane.

 

I fell for him in the end.. took a while but I did, and of course he disappeared without much of a word and that was that. Ive had to deactivate facebook and all social media just to help get over him.

 

I have been screwed over many times and every single time... it has been by a man who has come on really strong. They like the rush of emotions they get when they first meet a girl. As soon as they are gone they move onto the next and obsess over someone else.

 

That is my experience, so please be careful with this guy :)

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Alright, so about a week ago I met this man on an online dating website. After I initially rejected him because he seemed like a player, he convinced me to "give him a chance". I said why not. We started talking and truthfully, I'm not feeling any chemistry at all, I'm just going with the flow waiting for something to flourish.

 

Now, what is annoying me is that he is serving me the same BS most players I know do serve to other girls. He says things such as:

- When I first saw your profile, I knew I had to talk to you, you're very different. You have something special I can't pin point.

 

- I don't want to get to know any other girl at the moment, it's you that I want.

 

- You're so perfect, so special, it seems surreal.

 

You get the point. Now, plenty of players gave me the same BS speech only to let me down a couple weeks later. I feel as though this one is no exception because he's coming on way too strong. What also annoys me is that he has to check up on me every single day God makes and starts sending me multiple messages if I don't respond within a half an hour frame. I just want some space for heaven's sake, I want to talk to other guys also.

 

He and I are supposed to meet up but he's given me the manipulative, passive aggressive speech : "I'm sure we'll never meet because I know you're gonna cancel or tell me you met someone. It's just a dream." I seriously feel like I'm talking to a 17 year-old-boy, not to a man in his mid-twenties.

 

Now, I told him there was no point in serving me his cheesy speech as we haven't met yet, so we shouldn't get our hopes up. We should get to know each other first instead of jumping the guns too fast. Yet, he keeps repeating the same speech over and over again.

 

 

I'm not sure if I want to meet up with him because he sounds quite manipulative. Am I right to think he's a player?

 

Side note: He didn't even fill his description in because he was "too lazy".

 

Oh just admit it, hot badboy "players" make your panties wet. You'll put up with their bad behaviour because ironically, it actually turns you on

 

You would've cut contact with this guy a long time ago if there had been no attraction whatsoever

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